Not you…they are.
Do you simply find people annoying? You are definitely not alone.
We all have negative personality traits that can definitely drive people crazy.
Some days, you may find yourself wondering if you’re the only one feeling this way. I can assure you that you are definitely not.
Some people are better at ignoring.
Others are great to get away with.
Some have a high tolerance for these annoying traits.
Here are the top reasons people get annoyed (and what you can do about it).
1) It’s fake
If you happen to come across a fake guy (it’s hard not to do these days), you’ll probably find yourself freaking out just thinking about them.
It is very easy to spot them in a crowd.
It’s so unoriginal that you can smell it for a while.
Fake people spend a lot of time and effort trying to be the version they want to be, and it’s hard not to get upset when you’re spending time with them.
You don’t get to know a real person. You simply access their copy that they want to share. This version is often so far removed from their values and who they are, it’s almost infuriating.
The “vulgar” personality has to be one of the most difficult personality traits to deal with. They are in it to get attention.
It’s not you, it’s 100% them.
Your best choice? Avoid them completely. If it’s attention, the best thing you can do is deny it to them. Don’t participate. Don’t play along. Don’t call them. None of these tactics will get you far.
Fake people are very committed to their cause and a few words from you won’t stop them on their way.
If you can’t avoid them entirely, keep it short and move on.
The less time you spend with them, the less you will be upset afterwards.
It’s a win in my books.
2) It is judicial
Why do some people feel they can prop themselves up on some kind of pedestal above the rest of us and point their huge, judgmental nose at our actions?
They talk, think, and act in ways that make them feel better than you. Better than those around you. Here are three things they all have in common:
They rule over everything.
They have little regard for your feelings.
They believe in their truth.
No one can handle being criticized all the time, which is why judgmental people get annoyed.
Not to mention, we all define success in life very differently. What makes their truth the true truth? Nothing of course. Which only adds fuel to the fire of nuisance we’re burning here.
So what can you do about it?
As tempting as it may be to throw it back in his face and agitate him, the person who judges him will take that as a sign that he has hit the nerve of truth. Don’t give them satisfaction.
Instead, make it clear to them that you did not ask their opinion and that this is the end of it. If you like it, walk away in the process. Finished.
You will find that your level of discomfort slips away in the process.
3) They are selfish
I cringe just thinking about these people.
The ones who insist on being the center of attention and make it all about them, and they are just that.
You could be hit by a car and lie on the road dying, and they will still bring attention to themselves and the horror they experienced by witnessing this event. True story.
Ultimately, the only thing that matters to them is their ego.
He’ll come first, second, third… you get the point. Simply put, they are selfish.
No wonder we find these people so annoying. You can never get close to them, because they only have room for them in their lives.
So, what value do they add to your life?
Not much, I’m afraid. Better to get rid of her until that ego drops.
If you are looking for the best way to deal with this type of person, then tell them that when they are around you, it is not just about them.
Interrupt them (gently) and switch the topic of conversation to someone else. You may have to be upfront about it and tell them it’s time to let someone else chat.
Arrogant people won’t give up the limelight without a little bit of a pushback.
4) They are pessimistic
Melancholy and melancholy.
It’s not something we want to find ourselves surrounded by all the time.
However, the pessimist seems to be after it.
They’re always proving that the universe really doesn’t love or care about them at all.
When things are going well, they think it’s fleeting so they don’t try to enjoy it.
When things go wrong, it’s proof that the universe really is against them.
They are definitely not nice people to be around. They have the ability to lower the mood of an entire event.
People who want to be miserable in order to be miserable are just annoying to be around.
So what can you do about it?
Aside from the obvious, it is avoided at all costs.
The next best thing is to counter all their negative feedback with something positive. See the good in every negative thing they have to say and do your best to change the mood.
Hopefully they will start keeping their food to themselves.
5) They are greedy
If you’ve ever met a greedy person, I bet you hoped you’d never meet them again.
Greedy people are very draining.
No matter how much you give, they will want more and more.
It’s not just about being greedy for money.
It could also be other things, like being greedy for your time.
Greedy people are very stressful and very annoying.
And don’t even bother wasting your time asking them for something. If it doesn’t serve their interests, then they definitely aren’t interested in it.
Nothing is enough for them.
How do you deal with a greedy person bothering you? Well, you start by saying no. You can guarantee they won’t like hearing it, but they need to.
You can also put conditions on things. Tell them, I’ll give up my time to help you if you’ll help me do it next. (Or maybe ask them to help you first so you know they won’t quit)!
But even that won’t stop them from being annoying.
You might just have to cut your losses and get away from that relationship, and feel better about it!
6) They are dishonest
Y a-t-il quelque chose de plus ennuyeux que quelqu’un en qui vous n’avez pas confiance ?
Vous ne pouvez jamais être sûr d’eux lorsque vous êtes avec eux, mais vous pouvez garantir qu’ils ne penseront jamais à votre meilleur intérêt.
Ennuyeux, non ?
Qu’ils mentent, gardent des secrets, soient hypocrites ou essaient de vous tromper, qui a le temps pour les gens malhonnêtes dans sa vie ?
Bien que vous puissiez faire de votre mieux pour rester à l’écart d’eux, certaines personnes ont une façon de se faufiler sans même que vous vous en rendiez compte. Il peut s’agir d’un collègue ou même d’un ami d’un ami.
La meilleure chose que vous puissiez faire avec les personnes trompeuses est de rester vigilant lorsque vous êtes en leur présence. Soyez prudent et soyez toujours à leur écoute. Bien que ce ne soit pas une bonne façon de vivre, c’est la meilleure façon de se protéger.
Ne vous souciez pas d’essayer de vous entendre avec eux s’ils trichent, mentent ou volent. Avouons-le, ce n’est pas la peine de s’abaisser au même niveau agaçant qu’eux.
Instead, fight the lie with sincerity. Let them know what they did was wrong and call it out. Don’t let dishonest behavior get under the radar or they will be more likely to continue it, thinking they can get away with it.
The last thing you want to do is trust them.
7) They are ruthless
In other words, those who love to grudge.
Honestly, is there anything more annoying?
After all, we all make mistakes in life, and being around someone who is unwilling to forgive under any circumstances is not fun for anyone involved.
Sure, some bugs are much bigger than others, which makes it easy to see where these guys are coming from. But a ruthless person is the type to hold on to small grudges, too.
They’re the ones who remember that time you stole a work project from them 5 years ago and still tossed it in office drinks.
Nobody needs this kind of negativity in life. You want to tell them to just build a bridge and literally cross it, but that doesn’t seem to work.
So what can you do about it?
Make a point of moving on. If this person is a part of your life, you need to find a way to make it work for both of you.
If they keep bringing up the past, you need to be firm with them. Let them know that the past is in the past and it’s time to look into the future now.
Maintain this line every time they talk about a past mistake or a mistake on your part and steer the conversation in another direction.
Hopefully, they’ll get the hint and become less annoying with time. We can only hope!
8) They are helpless
Well, let’s pause for a second. How annoying helpless people?
Those who cannot see do anything for themselves.
They can’t decide where to eat. Can’t go to the bar to pay alone. God forbid they go to the bathroom on their own.
Helpless people are some of the most annoying personality traits out there, due to the fact that they depend on you so much. Absolutely everything.
No thank you!
It’s like having a little kid following you around all day, asking for help, and not giving you breathing space for a minute. Nobody has time for that.
So what can you do about it?
I’d like to tell you that you can only find out the growth of the pair, but unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.
You also can’t assume the role of savior for them, or they’ll just pester you with them.
The best thing you can do is encourage them to make the most of their situation. To stand up for themselves and to offer something.
You don’t want to push someone out of their comfort zone, but it sure is annoying when you have someone holding you down.
Set some boundaries and stick to them.
The ironic thing is that most helpless people can’t be helped!
9) They are impatient
Of course you have! They are the ones who are always trying to move the group from one activity to the next and never seem to slow down a bit to actually enjoy themselves along the way.
And never come too late. Impatient people hate waiting!
While some situations require it, most really don’t. And having an impatient person on top of you all the time can be very annoying.
But you can learn to live with it.
This means letting the impatient person know they’ve been heard, while letting them know that the rest of the group isn’t ready yet and will catch up.
If they make a big deal about someone being late, something being late, or just any kind of impatient sneer, remind them that you’re all there to have a good time, and that’s all that matters.
It often helps to let this person know that being impatient is not going to get them anywhere. You will not rush them. You wouldn’t make nasty remarks about a late friend, and you certainly wouldn’t be rude to employees.
What you will do is ignore them and enjoy yourself.
the win!
10) They are passive aggressive
This has got to be one of the worst personality traits, simply because you never know when they are going to strike! Out of nowhere, a passive-aggressive person will do something behind your back, avoiding confrontation at all costs.
They keep a safe distance and enjoy reaping the rewards of their loot, while never stepping out of the shadows. Annoying, right?
One of the best things you can do is talk about it. They don’t want to make a scene, which is why they tend to work behind your back.
Well, don’t let them. Pull them out of the shadows and make them uncomfortable about their behaviour. It’s a great start to help her indulge.
If you can, remove yourself from the situation and don’t deal with them. Confront them, tell them what they did was wrong and call them out, then move on without a fight.
Don’t let them know the effect they’ve had on you. This gives them more satisfaction and motivates them again next time.
In this case, it’s best to be the bigger person and walk away, whatever the costs.
Then, keep your eyes wide open for the next attack.
After all, you never know when it will come!
So, why are people so annoying?
The answer is simple, people are very annoying because almost all of them have one of these annoying personality traits. In other words, it’s annoying simply because it’s totally annoying.
Unfortunately, there isn’t much you can do about it. It’s worth doing some self-review and making sure you don’t display any of these traits yourself.
You don’t want to know that some of your friends feel the same way about you! Then take a deep breath, read above for how you can approach each trait, and take it from there.
Just remember, don’t let them get to you. Annoying people is definitely not worth your time and/or energy. This makes them more annoying than ever if you give in to it.
Find out if you really need this annoying person in your life or not, and if yes, then it’s time to find the right way to deal with them so that they start annoying you less and less. Over time, you may feel that you have fewer annoying people in your life.
At least that is the dream!
Until then, deep breaths.
