the main points
Narcissists are likely to be very extroverted, want to be the center of attention, and are more disagreeable than others.
Researchers have found that narcissists tend to be more physically attractive than average.
Narcissists often exploit others’ sense of fairness and desire to be loved in order to get what they want.

Are there signs of narcissism that you might notice in everyday conversations? Talking excessively about themselves is one of their giveaways. Talking about sexual exploitation or other topics of a sexual nature is also common among narcissists. They are also more likely to talk more often and to more people due to their strong tendencies toward social, but superficial, engagement.

We all tend to believe that people can change, even though most of us think we are fine just the way we are. Unfortunately, the narcissists among us are the type of people who really need to change their behavior, but unfortunately, they are the ones most likely to sing their praises loudly and overlook any flaws they have that they may be most in need of. Big change. However, a recent research study conducted by Holtzman, Vazire, and Mihi (2010) revealed that there are some signs that reveal narcissistic personality tendencies in a person.

Do narcissists have an alert gaze?
Researchers have found that narcissists behave differently than those of us who are not so inclined toward narcissism. Narcissists are more likely to be highly extroverted than introverts. They love to be in the center of attention and do their best to attract people’s attention to themselves. They make overtures to others, are eager to talk about themselves, and love it when a crowd of people forms around them when they take center stage at parties, bars, or anywhere else where they can “pitch their brand.”

Narcissists also tend to exhibit more unacceptable behavior than the rest of us. They find it easy to complain about poor service in restaurants, to be rude to others to fulfill their own desires, and to treat others less well than they expected to be treated. Narcissists enjoy annoying others because it attracts more attention and can give them special treatment – something they are convinced they deserve. No matter how bad their behavior is that suggests they should actually be treated.

The rules simply don’t apply

Narcissists are insanely convinced that they are above the law, both figuratively and literally. They believe that the rules imposed on others have no place in shaping their behavior. Whether it’s the college-age narcissist who ignores attendance policies or the narcissistic spouse who doesn’t believe the vow of monogamy should control his behaviors outside of relationships. Narcissists want to use rules to control and judge others while choosing to engage in willful disrespect for those same rules.

This sense of entitlement can be extremely maladaptive if the narcissist is trying to hold down a job, advance their career, or excel in classroom environments. In order to “game the system,” narcissists will try to exploit a colleague or colleague who has been tricked to cover for the narcissist or do “hard work” to ensure the narcissist escapes the judgmental eye of his or her boss or other person in power.

Exploiting others is second nature to narcissists. They are skilled at constructing themselves in such a way that offering their assistance is the most logical option for their followers or agents. They play on others’ sense of fair play and the desire to be liked. Narcissists only want to be loved when they get something they want. Once they achieve their goals, they often let go of the individuals who helped them get where they were going.

Narcissists see others as “disposable” or “recyclable.” They are not interested in creating loyalty from others simply by achieving their goals. Dropping or “deleting” former acquaintances or friends is not something a narcissist would ever consider again. People are viewed as “tools” of their trade, and narcissists can easily trade on others’ goodwill or efforts. The only relationship many narcissists will be loyal to is their relationship with themselves. They value the story they create about themselves and their progress toward reaching the top of whatever imaginary ladder they climb. They never look down at the steps they have reached, they only look to the next rung and to the side to see who is in a position to help them climb to the top.

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Narcissists care about achievement, but the essence of achievement is not what they value, but rather what they believe achievement will earn or give them. Impressing others with your list of accomplishments matters more than the meaning of the accomplishment. They check boxes, and do not invest themselves in the meaning of the actions they take. He’s like the Eagle Scout who has no heart, or the trophy collector who doesn’t care about the animal carcasses he leaves behind.

Why are we attracted to narcissists?

If you’ve ever wondered why you’re attracted to a narcissist, the answer is very simple. Narcissists engage in behaviors designed to attract us! They know how to attract others, and before we have time to take a breath and recognize the narcissist for who he or she is, we may already be under her spell.

It’s perhaps not surprising, but researchers have found that narcissists tend to be more physically attractive than average. This trait has also been linked to a tendency for narcissists to be more sexually active and to be sexually coercive with potential partners. In terms of evolution, it makes sense that narcissists would be more attractive because this is a trait that is useful in seducing others; Thus, it is a trait that is more likely to be passed down through subsequent generations of narcissistic coupling.

Narcissistic women have been found to be very charming when you first meet them. They are excellent at socializing with others, know what to talk about to gain positive attention, and know how to act to get others to notice them. Unfortunately for them – but fortunately for their prey – their unpleasant and unacceptable behaviors do not appear long into the game. This allows time for potential romantic partners or “tools” to recognize narcissistic behaviors for what they are. Other less developed people may remain fascinated by the magnetic narcissist and allow themselves to be convinced that ugly behaviors are due to unfair treatment of the narcissist by others. Thus, the unsuspecting victim actually believes that their role is to defend, protect, and meet the needs of the narcissistic individual who has captured their attention.

Codependency with a narcissist can develop if the narcissist is able to captivate someone with low self-esteem enough that the dull praise he gains by meeting the narcissist’s needs raises his self-esteem enough to make the codependent situation palatable.

Narcissists will always blame others for their mistakes and failures

While narcissists have unbridled egos and immeasurable pride, they are unable to take responsibility for any of their failures. There is always, always, always someone to take responsibility for their downfall. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, be careful. The blame game often starts at home. No one can ever be “enough” for a narcissist and no narcissist will ever be “enough” for a healthy individual to maintain a real relationship.

Getting out of a relationship can be difficult because narcissists will use every possible angle to try to keep a potential object on their side. To maintain your emotional well-being, you’ll need to allow them to blame you for the failure of the relationship, every negative event that occurred during the relationship, and a host of other imagined wrongs. Narcissists cannot accept responsibility or failure, so it is rarely satisfying to attempt a logical, adult analysis of things with one person. Maintain your dignity by behaving in a manner that reflects maturity and integrity. Narcissists do not regret the harm they inflict on others, but this should not encourage you to behave in a way that drags you down to their level.