When You Stop Caring About The Narcissist They Will Do This!

As long as you love me, this only works when the narcissist gets what they want from you. You have to comply, or the relationship dynamics will be disrupted.

The moment—the moment you stop caring about the narcissist—you have to hide.

Not only does their reaction generate the worst emotional hurricane in the world—this F5—heading straight for you.

So what emotions are triggered, and what exactly do they mean?

Well, Alex, I’m glad you asked…

Narcissists Need You

The power a narcissist needs to deny their need for you is unparalleled! They will deny and refuse to acknowledge that your presence is what keeps them going, but…

…all for the wrong reasons.

Narcissists destroy you to gain something for themselves. They take over your world and tear it down with their own hands without a second thought.

The love you feel from them is fragmented and temporary, but it’s enough to keep you interested.

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You remain loyal, loving, and optimistic.

And narcissists need that from you. If they don’t get it, their hollow self will awaken.

So… what is it about your caring nature that they can’t live without?

Your Caring Is A Resource For Them

Every time you show concern, you provide a resource for narcissists.

A resource for them is emotional sustenance. It’s what keeps them alive, and its sole purpose is to maintain some form of self-esteem.

The need for a resource is the primary motivation behind many of their toxic behaviors.

This means you stop caring for yourself every time you neglect your life or priorities to make room for them.

And what about narcissists?

They love it! They love knowing you’re willing to give up anything and everything for them, and that’s the very essence of you they abuse!

Can you imagine the horror of withdrawal?!

When Does It Stop?

The day you wake up and promise yourself that you won’t care about the narcissist is the day your life will radically change.

This is where things get really serious.

For once in your life, you’re choosing yourself. You’re choosing to put your own needs first, thereby dramatically improving your emotional and physical health.

What does it mean to harness all that energy and positivity for yourself?

It means it can’t be diverted into narcissistic supply.

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Instead of pleasing the narcissist, you’re healing and enriching yourself.

What Comes Next

I don’t promise warmth, kindness, happiness, and joy from the narcissist. In fact, I bet you won’t get an ounce.

Come to think about it, why would you do that?!

You’ve offended them and stopped caring—what do you think they’d be happy about?

What comes next are all the ways the narcissist wants you to feel. They know that when you stop caring, doing these things will ignite these feelings in you:

Fear. They want you to be afraid of what they’re capable of. What they know about you. They make you afraid of leaving them because you’re programmed to believe you can’t live without them.

Intimidation. Your lack of interest directly threatens them, and they only know how to get even a thousand times over! They won’t appreciate your retreat and will force you to be the old you.

Emptiness. You’re worthless. Your lack of interest doesn’t bother them because you meant nothing to them in the first place. They don’t want to know you, and you often hear phrases like, “You’re dead to me now.”

  1. Anger

Narcissists are like volcanoes—filled with rage that stays dormant until they feel like unleashing it on you.

It might surprise you, it might shock you. Once you see it, you’ll always expect it.

When you stop caring about them, it’s very possible you’ll witness their outbursts of anger.

  1. Get Rid of Them

They’re officially done with you. They’re not interested in trying to woo you or impress you, not after what you said and discovered.

You’re useless to them now that you’ve seen them for who they really are. They can’t manipulate you.

They can’t control what you do or who you see. You don’t need them. You don’t care anymore, so as far as they’re concerned, you’re just history.

  1. Revenge

Revenge is likely to escalate here. Narcissists don’t like being ignored, and to punish you, they’ll devise a plan to get back at you.

Think of it this way:

Spreading lies about you

Turning people against you

Getting rid of your possessions before you have a chance to get them back

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Finding someone else and expressing their true love for them

  1. Exploitation

Narcissists never fail in their attempts to exploit you. If they’ve succeeded in the past, they probably think they might succeed again.

Think about the typical ways they exploit you. It might be:

Coming to your work to express their love for you

Stalking you down on social media or in person

Constantly texting or calling you to try to talk to you

Promising to change and be the person you want to be

It’s all a ploy to regain control and change the image of them as the bad guys.

One Life

I don’t want to sound like the worst person on earth, but the truth is, you only have one life.

If being with them is bad enough, withholding your care will ignite their evil to a whole new level.

And, as always, you’re the one who suffers. You’ll be the victim of everything you’ve said, and there’s no getting away from it.

When you give your all to someone who doesn’t value, acknowledge, or love you, you give away your entire being.

Over time, this abandonment will extend to every aspect of your life.

You want to fix them. You over-give. You try too hard to take care of the narcissist.

Not only will you neglect your own comfort, but you’ll also feel like you don’t deserve any comfort at all.

You’ll simply stop caring.

It may start small.

Skipping lunch.

Staying up late watching TV.

Saying “fine” all the time, even when you’re not.

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Ignoring warning signs, like pain or feeling unwell.

Then it escalates.

Giving up your job or hobbies because they said so.

Stop seeing friends or family members the narcissist thinks you’re “better than.”

Apologizing all the time just because their mood dictates your reaction.

This doesn’t have to be your life.

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