Silencing a narcissist sounds fun, doesn’t it?
Imagine that bloated person who’s been bothering you for a long time. You want to wipe the smile off their selfish faces…
…but you don’t want drama.
Is that even possible?
Well, yes and no. You can silence them without drama, but not always.
I want to offer you ways to do this that promote peace (after all… you deserve it for what you forgive!)
“I want you to listen to me”
Narcissists. No. Listen.
More than not listening, they can’t listen. They don’t know how to listen. And just to be clear, they don’t want to hear what you have to say. It’s either wrong or boring.
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When a narcissist demands that you listen, you’ve crossed a line. You might be considered rude, crass, or even arrogant if you dare to assert yourself in this way.
In fact, this will silence the narcissist, because they simply won’t know what to do with themselves when you take control in this way.
“We’ll talk when you calm down”
The beauty here is that the longer the narcissist protests, the longer they’ll have to wait. Their desire to talk to you at this tense moment usually means they have a lot to say about you.
Cutting them on the way means they won’t get anything from you. No support, no backing, nothing to resist.
So what? You’re in control.
“No”
“No” to a narcissist is one of the worst things they want to hear. You’re denying them something they want. If you’re the one responding, they won’t get it. They won’t have anything left if they want you to do something you don’t want to do.
Narcissists feel entitled—they expect everything they want to be handed to them on a platter. They automatically assume it will be, and when it doesn’t happen, they’re left wondering.
Silencing a Narcissist Without Being Able to End Something on Your Terms, Not Theirs
“What Exactly Do You Want Me to Know?”
Watching a narcissist insult, criticize, or ridicule you for something can lead to a great deal of grief and frustration. You’ve caught them in a certain mood, and you’re the one who’ll bear it.
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What if you dig a little deeper to find out what’s really going on? Stopping the narcissist from the game they’re trying to play by asking them to cut to the chase will shock them. Shock usually comes with an inability to know what to say or do. They know you understand them perfectly.
“I Don’t Deserve to Be Addressed That Way”
Knowing your worth reminds the narcissist that they can’t define it. It’s a power we all possess, but we rarely find the self-confidence and self-esteem to demonstrate it. Sometimes narcissists devalue others so much that they can’t stand to speak. If you spoke up in line with your worth, you would surely silence them.
I know you’re not trying to sound better than the narcissist, but they won’t. They’ll assume you’re trying to upset them, but let’s be logical. You’re simply changing your response.
The narcissist will get used to talking to you the way they want, regardless of how you feel. This way, you’ll remind them that you won’t tolerate it anymore.
“I’ve said what I wanted to say, and I don’t want to discuss this anymore.”
Narcissists love repeating the same thing over and over again because they know how effective it is to wear you down with repetitive behaviors. The pleasure of watching your frustration mount is incomparable, but you can stop this and silence them.
Refusing to repeat what’s already been said is a good thing. It leaves room for a new discussion that the narcissist may not want to have. That’s the point!
It’s a real boundary to set when you say you’re not willing to continue participating. This tells the narcissist that you think the conversation is a waste of time and takes away all their power.
“I know how I feel”
Although they won’t want to hear it, reminding them that you know how you feel will make a difference.
First, it sends a clear message that you won’t be a victim of psychological manipulation. They may try to alter your reality to suit them—but that won’t work—and you’ll let them know.
Second, it reminds you that you feel what you feel. Affirming it out loud will reinforce your feelings—something a narcissist hates.
“I realize we don’t see eye to eye”
Healthy people know that disagreement is a good thing. If we all thought and acted the same, the world would be a boring place.
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Narcissists, however, like you to dance to their tune. They want you to change your mind or agree with them, because agreeing implies compliance.
By reminding a narcissist that you don’t share anything with them, they reassure you that you’re your own person.
Exactly as it should be.
“Hahaha”
“Hahaha” is really great when communicating with a narcissist. You’re there, you’re in the room, you’re responding—but only slightly.
Narcissists don’t like simplicity—they want noise. They want tears. They want drama. They want gossip. They want to enjoy everything.
There’s nothing to enjoy with a “Hahaha.” You, by default, shut them up completely.
…Nothing at all…
Say something!
Um, what about no?
The silent treatment, when used by a narcissist, is pretty harsh, don’t get me wrong. But if you’re the silent one, it’s for different reasons. Let them grumble and grumble and complain about you or their day. Keep doing what you’re doing. If necessary, give them a subtle nod to let them know you’re not trying to antagonize them at all.
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Narcissists want you to be on their side, to agree with them, and to tell them they’re right.
They also enjoy responding, so they can put you in your place.
By remaining silent, you’re offering them no support at all. Without it, they won’t be able to function properly, leaving them ultimately in a quandary…
…and completely isolated.
