My life was stolen by a manipulative narcissist. No, wait, let me be fair. I ended my life and gave it to this evil character, but in my defense, I had no idea what it was.

Back then I, the wicked, sickly, ignorant little girl, was following in the footsteps of the all-knowing master of my destiny. You’ve led me to believe I’m crazy (gaslight), I’ve been negatively manipulated (sandbags), I’ve been convinced I’ll never be good enough to meet his needs… whatever you want to call it.

For 20 years, I believed I could only be loved by one person, and that was only if I listened and learned from this unparalleled wisdom. I was so controlling that I didn’t even remember who I was.

I couldn’t even remember my favorite color. I had no idea how ignorant I had become. I was the victim of a manipulative narcissist, however, a willing slave to a man who didn’t even have to lift a finger to control me.

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So I guess it would be strange for me to offer my help. I guess it just doesn’t make sense for me to be the one shedding light on the character of a narcissist thinking, For 20 years, I had no clue.

But here’s the thing… when the light’s on and the veil is gone, the beast is ugly and there’s no way to unsee what was shown.

Now, I can tell you what a manipulative narcissist is and I promise you will be able to identify all those people in your life who fit this bill. Let’s get started.

Manipulative Narcissist – Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder is one of the most difficult conditions to detect. Part of a narcissist’s strength is the ability to hide their true self.

It sends chills down my spine to remember all the masks my abuser wore when he convinced everyone he was a model citizen. There are other traits too, and I’m going to fill you in on all the little tricks and revelations so you can figure out what you’re dealing with. I want you to know before decades are stolen from your life, too.

The narcissist is very nice… at first

The manipulative narcissist is very cute. When you meet them, you will think that they are kind, considerate, and loving. This isn’t someone who’s going to let his guard down anytime soon, either. A well-trained narcissist can stand on top for a very long time, even years, before you pick up on anything weird.

Only in the privacy of your own home will you be able to experience their darker side, while family and friends raving about how much they love your mate. This is the thing that drives you “Bat Frenzy”. Your mind will find it almost impossible to reconcile their kindness in public with their evil at home.

They crave the spotlight

This personality type craves the spotlight and will do almost anything to get it. They dominate conversations, but only in a subtle way that makes you question your own sanity. “Did they dominate the whole conversation with their heroic stories?” Why yes they did, and they will do it again.

Most people who listen to these stories and antics will be blinded by the “sparkle” in their words. Most of the time, when all is said and done, the audience (family and friends) couldn’t be the wiser.

When you, the victim, the person living with this monster, are finally able to see the truth, it will be the hardest thing on earth to convince others of this attention vampire. Most people will still admire the narcissist’s tales.

You narcissist is a trigger

The narcissist does what they feel they must do in order to stay on top. This means pushing everything around them away or down to help elevate themselves. They will literally use you as a stepping stone on their road to success.

If they notice you getting compliments, they will find a way to either smear that compliment or do something massive to draw the positive attention away from you. Your achievements will also be used as tools to amplify their own. After all, you’d be nothing without them, right?

They are never wrong

Don’t try to argue with a manipulative narcissist. This will never work for you. This person is never wrong and will make sure you think twice before trying to show him the error of his ways.

In fact, they will simultaneously reinforce their own ideas while trying to cast a negative light on opposing opinions.

They are experts in “brainwashing”

Be careful not to be brainwashed. This is a trait that will shock you when it is finally discovered. There is no limit to what a manipulative narcissist will do in order to keep you under their control.

If you are married to this kind of person, you will always be the one apologizing, you will work tirelessly at unappreciated chores, and you will walk on eggshells in fear.

The emotional abuse will be so bad that you will get used to it, endure and even find some semblance of happiness in your horror.

I know this is hard to believe, but a narcissist can abuse you for so long that you will think the way you live is a normal way of life. It’s just part of the advanced manipulation tactics the narcissist has perfected.

They can’t be loyal

The narcissist is almost incapable of being loyal. This is simply because one person is not able to fulfill all the vaulted needs of that personality. They crave attention so much that it drains their partners and they look for alternative ways to get attention.

This usually means that married narcissists have relationships and typically have multiple relationships with multiple partners at multiple times. Whew, that’s exhausting just thinking about it.

Only so many people can provide the amount of attention a narcissist needs because, in truth, this personality is devoid of all substance and must crave others in order to feel complete.

They lie to themselves as much as they lie to you!

One of the saddest things about manipulative narcissists is the fact that they don’t know who they are. They told themselves so many lies that their true character might have faded long ago. This is one of the reasons why treatment is not helpful.

These are also some of the hardest people to help and usually, unfortunately, either end up alone or completely destroy their mates. They’ve lied for so long that they even believe the ridiculous things they’re trying to say about themselves.