When you talk to a guy for a week or so, he usually asks for your social media and you exchange your social media for him. This part always scares me because you know it’s about to creep into your entire life right down to the first photo you post on Instagram. Or maybe he’ll just look at a few of them, get bored, and stop talking to you. Whatever the case may be, this is your chance to find out his personality type through his social media.
Unfortunately, or fortunately, social media is who you are as a person, and that’s exactly the way it is. Here are three types of men you might encounter during your dating journey and what their profiles can say.
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This is the type of guy who has many selfies. Now, self-love is great, but if every one of your photos shows you in different outfits and very similar poses, it doesn’t make for a great dating profile. He can tend to give off a narcissistic vibe that will likely turn away potential dates.
Too many selfies can mean that you’re probably full of yourself or lacking in self-esteem, so you seek to determine your worth based on the number of likes you receive on your selfies. Remember, you are good-looking and you don’t need many selfies to show potential partners that you are good-looking either way. We have eyes and we’d love to see how good you look in person – instead of taking tons of selfies in all different lighting and trying to be funny with clever captions.
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travel geek
This is the type of guy who would go on vacation just to post a picture of it. If these pictures don’t explain anything either, it doesn’t help future dates understand you any better. Why did he travel there? What is he doing here? Why does he travel here and there? These are the questions that are likely to pass through the mind of history.
Listen, we can understand your need and want to share your adventures with the world, however, try to show us what you enjoy doing rather than just traveling. Show your friends, show your family. Give us more that we can relate to or at least try to share why you travel. The truth is, more often than not, your current romantic interests won’t be able to relate to the places you’ve traveled and want to talk to you about something else if you were dating.
gym bro
This is a guy who is constantly in the gym. His entire social media presence is either photos of himself working out or videos he reposts of others working out. Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with working out, however, this can come across as someone obsessed with living a perfect life – with no mistakes and no room to enjoy the occasional piece of candy.
It’s good to have hobbies and things we like. However, if it seems like an obsession, it could turn off potential dating partners. But, if you’re also the type of girl who loves working out and wants her partner to be the same, then this could be the type for you and will likely be great motivation for you and your fitness journey.
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Party brother
This is a guy who constantly posts about parties he attends. He will have many pictures of his dead friends, with his thumbs up. He would have recurring images of himself drinking beer or standing on his head over a keg at a party. This is a guy who always wants to party, and although that has its advantages, it’s nice to see that you can stay in for the weekend and do simple things like catch up on sleep. This type of guy might be for you if you always want to spend every weekend hanging out with his friends and partying.
However, at the end of the day, I think we as women need to treat our social media presence with caution. Why? These types of profiles don’t explain everything that makes a person who they are. Assumptions and knowledge of these types of profiles are not the whole story.
These tips you’ve read may be helpful in making your initial decision if you want to get to know someone more, but this is just something they put out into the world to represent them as a person digitally, not necessarily who they are every single hour or every day. We can’t get to know someone just from a set of photos, at the end of the day, we need more than that. We need to connect with each other on more levels than the visual.
Most people are more complex than can be gleaned from their social media. We’re probably the same and don’t share the full story of who we are online. We should try to remember this when we explore someone else’s social media. Please don’t write someone off because of their social media photos, at least give the guy a chance in person to see who he really is.
