Narcissists love their phones as much as they love their toxic and destructive habits.
When you combine the two, it’s no surprise that there are problems—and many.
If you want to spot these warning signs, I urge you to look at the person in your life who has habits that align with what I’m about to reveal.
Only then can you step away from them, stay safe, and maintain your sanity!
Narcissists Love Their Phones
Narcissists and phones… who’s listening?! They’re completely obsessed with them.
If they’re not calling or texting, they’re browsing the internet or posting. This goes beyond just being addicted to phones for distraction, or because you’ve specialized in procrastination—this is a real killer.
The reason narcissists love their phones so much is because they’re like a constant friend, telling them how great they are, or providing them with useful information.
Hey, look how many likes your latest photo got!
Oh my God, look how many followers you have, you must be a really cool person!
Beep! Oh, you’ve got a text! Who wants to talk to you?
Ring, ring! Someone’s calling—you must be someone important and needed!
It’s the same with narcissists—but even more so—their phones are also used as a powerful weapon (more on that later!). Trust me when I say you don’t want to be on the receiving end!
Think You Know Them So Well
Well, we all think we know the people closest to us so well, don’t we? We assume that just because we live with someone, or see them every day, we know everything there is to know.
In reality, you don’t really know any narcissists, because they keep so much of who they are—to themselves!
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With almost all of us owning a smartphone, picking it up and putting it down every now and then for some reason, it’s hard to tell which narcissist is using it.
Luckily for you, I’ve got all the telltale signs for you to look out for!
Habit: Their Phones Become Limbs
Has anyone asked for a third arm? If not, I applaud you. It means you don’t consider your phone an extension of yourself, but use it as wisely as possible.
Sure, a phone can be addictive, but it doesn’t have to be in your hand all the time—I don’t care what your job or social life is. There’s always time to look up.
When phones become limbs, you have to ask yourself why someone treats their device this way. What do they need? What are they looking for? What do they enjoy?
Narcissists are always looking for their next temporary high, which is why they frequently move from person to person, situation to situation, looking for someone to fool around with or play mind games with.
The phone is all the hard work for a narcissist, when they could simply sit and tap on the screen to get what they want.
Habit: Password? None of your business!
Ah, yes, the first great phone habit that signals a narcissist is keeping passwords or codes to themselves.
How dare you even ask? Do you know how rude that is?
But wait, can they have your password, and if not, why?
Passwords are a narcissist’s way of keeping their internet browsing, app history, and conversations to themselves.
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It’s perceived as none of your business, and it protects the narcissist from admitting they’re living a double life, even a triple life!
Habit: Why don’t you leave it near me?
Narcissists are notorious for keeping their phones as close as possible.
They don’t want to leave it somewhere where you can pick it up and try to spy.
They don’t want incoming calls to be seen. They just want to be left alone with their devices, and they’ll achieve this by taking them with them wherever they go…
…even to the bathroom!
It’s not that they value their privacy too much—they just feel like their phones are little secret tools through which they can live their double lives—often texting people they shouldn’t, or spying on their exes.
Habit: Listen to me, people!
Would you please just for once…
Shut up!
Stop assuming we want to hear your conversation!
Stop assuming you’re interesting or important enough to warrant our attention!
You want to shout them out too, don’t you? I know I do that sometimes when I hear people talking too loudly on their phones.
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The loud voice some people make while talking usually screams, “Look at me!”
There will always be someone who falls for this trap—but make sure you’re not one of them!
Habit: Say “Cheese!”
Please. Stop taking pictures of yourself for just a minute, right?
I know we’re living in the age of the selfie. Everyone takes pictures of themselves, and it’s easier than ever. Phones have amazing cameras now, and it’s fun to be silly or take pictures when you’re in a special place.
This is a whole other level, as narcissists resort to taking pictures at every opportunity, from every angle, in every light, and using every filter available.
What you need to realize is that narcissists need attention. They want to paint an untouchable image for people to see, and selfies are a great way to do that.
habit: Social Media Obsessed
And where do those selfies go, I hear you ask…
Social Media!
Narcissists love to have every app you can think of.
And they will use them all.
From Snapchat to Facebook, nothing is off limits. This means they can gain as many followers as possible, and if a friend or acquaintance doesn’t have one, they’re bound to have another.
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Narcissists cover all social media platforms to show off to their audience – using these creations to spy, compare, brag, and act rude to strangers.
habit: I use my phone to reach you
If you’re a friend or loved one of a narcissist, first of all, I want you to apologize for the situation.
No, seriously…
Narcissist victims are usually aware of their phone time. They value the time they spend together, too, and they value the time when phone use is too much.
The occasional glance over their phone at you, to check if you’re upset, is a narcissist habit.
They want to know that they’re annoying you, and that your constant ignoring of their phone is a way for them to show you don’t matter.
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And that’s true! Low self-esteem levels stem from watching a narcissist spend all their time on their screens.
If this sounds like something you’re okay with, it’s time to start asking yourself some important questions.
