Narcissists love their phones as much as they love their toxic and destructive habits.

When you combine the two, it’s no surprise that there are problems—and lots of them.

If you want to spot these red flags, I urge you to look at the person in your life who has habits that match what I’m about to reveal.

Only then will you be able to walk away, stay safe, and keep your sanity!

NarcissistsLoveTheirPhones

Narcissists and phones… who’s listening?! They’re completely obsessed with them.

If they’re not calling or texting, they’re scrolling or posting. This goes beyond being addicted to phones for distraction, or because you’ve mastered procrastination—this is a real needed blow.

The reason narcissists love their phones is because they’re like a constant friend who tells them how great they are, or provides them with information that will prove useful to them.

Hey, look how many likes you got on your latest photo!

Wow, look at the number of followers you have, you must be a really cool person!

Beep! Oh, you got a text! Who wants to talk to you?

Ring, ring! Someone’s calling – you must be someone important and wanted!

It’s the same old thing with narcissists – but even more so – their phones are also used as a powerful weapon (more on that later!) Trust me when I say that you don’t want to be on the receiving end!

YouThinkYouKnowThem

Well, we all think we know the people closest to us really well, don’t we? We assume that because we live with someone, or see them every day, we know everything there is to know.

The truth is – you don’t really know a narcissist, because they keep so much of who they are – to themselves!

With almost all of us having some sort of smartphone that we use intermittently for whatever reason, it’s hard to know who’s using it.

Lucky for you – I’ve got all the killer signs you need to look out for!

Habit: Their Phones Become Limbs

Has anyone asked for a third arm? If not, I applaud you. It means you’re not viewing your phone as an extension of yourself, but instead using it as wisely as possible.

Sure, phones can be addictive, but they don’t need to be in your hand constantly – I don’t care what kind of job or social life you have. There’s always time to look up.

When phones become limbs, you have to ask yourself why a person treats their device this way. What do they need? What are they looking for? What benefit do they get from it?

Narcissists are always looking for the next temporary high, which is why they so often move from person to person, from situation to situation, looking for someone to play with or play mind games with.

Phones do all the hard work for narcissists, while they can just sit and tap the screen to get what they want.

Habit: Password? None of your business!

Oh yeah, the first great phone habit that signals a narcissist is when they keep their passwords or codes to themselves.

How dare you ask? Do you know how rude that is?

But wait, can they have your password, and if not, why not?

Passwords are how narcissists keep their dirty little internet history, apps, and conversations to themselves.

They’re seen as none of your business, and they protect the narcissist from admitting that they’re living a double life, or even a triple life!

Habit: Why don’t you leave it near me?

Narcissists are notorious for keeping their phones as close to them as possible.

They don’t want to leave it somewhere nearby where you can pick it up and try to spy.

They don’t want incoming calls that you can see. They just want to be left alone with their devices, and they’ll do that by taking them with them wherever they go…

…even to the bathroom!

It’s not that they value their privacy overly much – they just feel like their phones are these little secret tools where they can live their double lives – usually texting people they shouldn’t, or spying on their exes.

habit: Listen to me, everyone!

Will you do this just once…

Shut up!

Stop assuming we want to hear your conversation!

Stop assuming you’re interesting or important enough to warrant our attention!

You want to yell at them too, don’t you? I know I do that sometimes when I hear people talking too loudly on their phones.

The loud voice some people make when they talk is a habit that makes them shout: Look at me!

There will always be people who fall for this trap – but make sure you’re not one of them!

habit: Say “cheese”!

Oh, please. Stop taking pictures of yourself for just a minute, right?

I know we live in the age of the selfie. Everyone is taking pictures of themselves, and it’s easier than ever to do so. Phones now have amazing cameras, and it’s fun to be silly, or take pictures if you’re in a private place.

This is a whole other level, as narcissists will continue to take pictures at every opportunity, from every angle, in every light, using all the filters they can muster.

What you have to appreciate is that narcissists need attention. They want to sculpt this untouchable image for people to see, and selfies are a great way to do that.

Habit: Obsessed with Social Media

Where do those selfies go, I hear you ask…

Social media!

Narcissists love to have all the apps you can think of.

And they will use them all.

From Snapchat to Facebook, nothing is off limits. This means they can build as many followers as they can, and if a friend or acquaintance doesn’t have one app, they almost certainly have another.

Narcissists cover all areas of social media so they can show off to the masses – using these creations to spy, compare, brag, and act rude to strangers.

Habit: I use it to get to you

If you’re a friend or lover of a narcissist, can I first apologize for this situation?

No, seriously…

Narcissist victims are usually aware of their phone time. They value the time they spend together, too, and they value the time when too much time on their phones is actually excessive.

The little peek over their phone at you, to check if you’re upset, is a narcissist habit. They want to know that they’re annoying you, and your constant neglect of their phone is a way of showing them how insignificant you are.

That’s right! Low self-esteem stems from watching narcissists spend all their time in front of their screens.

If this sounds like something you’re tolerating, it’s time to start asking yourself some big questions.