Accusations – Don’t you like them?

You’re busy with your own business, and the accusations fly through the air and land at your feet.

Who’s to blame?

The narcissist! – Who else?!

They’re happy as long as the blame doesn’t fall on their feet.

If you want to know one thing, it’s that there are standard accusations that narcissists use.

They bring you down and create a feeling inside that leads to shame, self-blame and guilt.

I’m certainly not alone when I actively say I want to fight this.

Who’s with me?

Here are the top 15 accusations from narcissists, to keep you one step ahead.

Why Narcissists Love Accusations

“When my father and I stopped talking, it was because I suddenly had enough of being treated so badly.

His bad behavior, his endless stream of insults, his attacks on my character, skills, abilities, choices, and appearance became more than I could handle.

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My son was four at the time, and I could already see the patterns forming, how badly my father was treating him. I knew enough was enough, so I cut off contact.

Since then, my father has not tried to contact me once. He didn’t want to see my son but did other things.

He has told all his family members that I am a terrible person and has kept him away from his grandson. He has told them how terrible I am, and how badly I have treated him.

There are family members who believe him, and that’s why I’m completely torn.

It’s been very difficult, and I struggle some days to accept that I have been portrayed as the bad person in all of this. But, I think that saves him the punishment. For most people, he is the victim now, and I am the one Toxic.

I used to try to defend myself, but now I think that if people want to be in my life and understand me, they will take the time to do so.

This is a true story from someone who was willing to share their story with you, and I can think of at least ten similar stories from people I’ve worked with.

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Do you see why narcissists blame others?

This should be a no-go, but instead, they get away with it every day.

If you’re going to break the perfect image that a narcissist is trying so hard to maintain, you’re going to be the one who ultimately suffers as a result.

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They don’t want to come across as spiteful and hateful—even though they feel it deep down.

Listen to these five accusations…

1 You’re too dramatic!

We’re going to need Alanis Morissette in this case, because the “sarcasm” meter has reached its maximum.

You can’t be the dramatic one. You’re not the one causing all the arguments, but that’s not what people are going to convince you of. There shouldn’t be a part of you that absorbs that kind of accusation. You know what that’s for? It’s designed to keep you down. Quiet. Obedient. Acceptable.

None of this will work for you, but the funny thing is that it all works for the narcissist.

It’s weird… isn’t it?

2 You’re overly sensitive!

From a narcissist’s perspective, your sensitivity is a bad thing. Yet it seems to be the main thing that attracts them to you, doesn’t it?

So how can something so attractive be so terrible? That’s because when your sensitivity causes them trouble, they’ll treat it as such.

When it’s something they can manipulate, they’ll love to do it. Let me give you an example.

Pete met Louise five years ago. Louise was a model and used her looks to get any man she wanted. When Pete met her in a bar in town, he instantly fell in love with her. He was blown away by her smile, her walk, and her energy.

Louise worked a lot on various photo shoots with other models, sometimes male. She would brag on social media about who she was hanging out with, and after work, the models would go out together.

Pete would call to see how she was doing, but Louise would regularly ignore his calls and texts. Eventually, Pete asked Louise if she still loved him, because he felt neglected.

Louise threw a huge tantrum, calling him overly sensitive to her schedule, and not trusting her. She made Pete the one with the problem and threw this story at him.

Eventually, Louise told Pete that he needed to “toughen up and accept her job, or she’d leave him.” Pete didn’t see what he had said or done wrong, but instead of changing her behavior, Pete was told to toughen up and accept her inability to communicate.

Eventually, Pete ended the relationship.

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Like Pete, you need to understand that your hypersensitivity isn’t the problem.

3 Do you know how hard you are to deal with?

No. Well, at least you shouldn’t.

Because you’re not.

Being hard on a narcissist looks like this:

Saying no when they’re used to hearing yes

Being unavailable to answer your phone when you’re busy

Not being willing to defend the narcissist when they need you

Choosing to stand up for the narcissist when they initially accuse you of something else

You need to learn that your determination to stand up for yourself or what’s morally right isn’t hard, and shouldn’t be viewed that way.

You’re only hard on them when you don’t comply.

4 You’re Totally Unbalanced

Crazy! Crazy! Out of the ordinary! Mentally unbalanced!

No. You’re not. The narcissist is trying to put the spotlight on you if you act a little out of character, because they’re not used to seeing that side of you.

They’re surprised when they see you act a little tougher. What’s the point here?

The point is to weaken you and shrink you to size, so that you fall in line and do what you’re told.

This is where they love you the most.

5 You’re Jealous Too Much!

Do you ask the narcissist for an explanation? Do you ask them why they’re late home for the fifth time that week?

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To them, that only points in one direction – you must be jealous!

They want to be reminded of how great they are and how your jealousy means they’re better than everyone else. They love it, and they feel smug.

To you – you’re not jealous. You’re fed up. You’re tired. You’re mentally and physically trapped in a relationship that’s making you unhappy, and you’re being treated with disrespect…

…and there’s a big difference.