Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and go back to the first time you felt love with the person you are now in a relationship with. Allow yourself to re-experience the feelings, sights, sounds, tastes, and smells you first experienced.
Stay there for a moment and allow yourself to feel the place in your body where you first felt that emotional feeling of love. Is he in your heart? Is it in your head? Is it on your lips? Focus on what your mind was focusing on at the time.
Notice how beautiful it is to be emotionally present with your loved one. What questions are on your mind? Have you found it easy to pick yourself back up and re-experience what it’s like to fall in love again? Has it been a long time since you felt this feeling of love?
Our emotions are like most things. It’s not bad, except in excess. It is normal to feel anger, fear, anxiety, disappointment, resentment, judgment, and guilt; However, negative emotions become consuming, toxic, and destructive to our emotional health and intimate relationships if we fail to deal with them effectively.
Here are two easy steps to transform your toxic emotions and repair your relationship:
- Take personal responsibility for your emotions.
Blaming someone else for your feelings, how you feel, or the emotional state of your relationship is not the responsible thing to do.
- Change your focus and emotions.
Make a conscious decision to focus on what you love, appreciate, and are grateful for in your relationship. Make a list of the ten best moments in your relationship. Keep your list with you at all times. Make it a habit to take ten minutes every day for a mental vacation.
Also, allow yourself to re-experience all the positive feelings you had in the beginning. Your brain can’t distinguish between a real experience and a memory and will release all the “feel-good hormones” as if you were really in that moment. Notice how much more positive you start to feel the more you practice this ritual. It is true that what you focus on, you feel and get more of.
