The differences between a covert and overt narcissist are more noticeable than you might realize.
For example, an overt narcissist has a large, arrogant personality, and is selfish, demanding, and entitled while being intelligent, confident, and charismatic. A covert narcissist, on the other hand, is secretly superior, passive-aggressive, and arrogant, but usually introverted and quiet. They may also appear shy.
It’s easy to tell if you’re dealing with an overt narcissist or not; However, that secrecy will slip under the radar because it seems almost “normal” at first.
While both types are problematic and both are abusive and harmful, the covert narcissist usually sneaks up on you with hidden anxious and depressive behaviors. It’s important to know how to spot these people before they get too close to you. Some signs that you are dealing with a covert narcissist can be found here.
Not interested in attention
A secret narcissist will be found at the back of the room. They usually don’t want to be in the spotlight.
These individuals may appear introverted and shy and usually have a victim personality. These individuals do not have a lot of dexterity or social skills and are not as comfortable with large groups of people as overt narcissists.
The victim’s personality
When you start dealing with a covert narcissist, you will discover that he or she has a victim personality. They will talk about how others made a mistake and how they got fewer opportunities than others.
The “cold type” of narcissists
The covert narcissist does not have a black-and-white personality like the overt narcissist. Most people who fall into this category are more miserable, anxious, and depressed than others. Usually, these individuals are not happy.
Being around a covert narcissist can be very stressful and exhausting, as they are usually passive-aggressive in the comments they make. Instead of getting straight to your face, they will make subtle comments or accusations about you. This is usually done in a passive-aggressive, indirect, and hurtful way.
However, if you process this in any way, you will see the typical narcissistic response, including denial, projections, and defenses. They will also use all the games that make you confused and even question your sanity. While the “hot type” or overt narcissist will be fierce with these things, the covert type will be more aggressive and condescending.
asking for help
If you are dealing with a narcissist, there is no doubt that interactions can be tiring, stressful, and frustrating. However, there is help available. Seeking treatment together is an option if they consider it; However, this is unlikely for most people. In this case, you can seek guidance, counseling, and therapy to help you remove yourself from the situation and live a better, happier life.
It doesn’t matter if you’re dealing with a covert or overt narcissist; Both of them cause many problems in your life. Walking away can be difficult, but it is often the only solution to these situations. You are allowed to decide what boundaries work in your life. This may mean taking a no-contact approach. Breaking free from narcissistic abuse can be exhausting, but you deserve loyalty, respect, and independence!
Begin the healing stages after narcissistic abuse
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My best recommendation is to find an online program to keep you on track and support you. The Break Free program has been examined by therapists and neuropsychologists as an effective step toward overcoming narcissistic abuse. Aside from protecting you from narcissists, it also enables you to go out into the world with confidence.
