Narcissists can lose their minds in many different ways (depending on their audience!)

Sometimes, they can smile through clenched teeth as their mind crumbles. Other times, they direct their anger at anyone nearby (usually a spouse or family member).

The question often comes up:

What makes a narcissist lose his mind?

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Is it something you realize you’re doing, or is it just you? Trust me when I say—both are possible.

Let’s see exactly how…

WhenYouRegainYourBoundaries

If a narcissist has spent a lot of time getting away from your emotional push and pull, he’d better prepare himself.

The shock that comes with you starting to stand up for yourself and expressing what you will and won’t tolerate is painful.

And like all people when they’re bitten, they’re going to scream and cry in pain.

Well, a narcissist won’t admit that your boundaries are causing him pain. Like anyone who’s unwilling or unable to express their feelings, they’re going to resort to anger.

Learning to say “no” will be the gift of breathing space you give yourself and reassert your control. Narcissists, on the other hand, will feel their minds spinning.

What do they do now that they can no longer control you?

IfIDenyThemAllGratification

Why don’t they give me my due compliments?

Why don’t they ask me “How high am I?” when I say “jump”?

I have to make my own dinner because they decided to go out?

They were terrible at it until last night. They barely spoke to my coworkers.

Narcissists need you to need them. They want you to want them.

But…

They will never ask for it. They expect it.

It’s all part of their inflated ego syndrome, and why this type of personality disorder is so disturbing and incurable. Narcissists aren’t good at just getting through the day.

They want likes on social media.

They want you to sponsor their next “adventure.”

They want you to comment on their obvious weight loss, haircut, or whatever.

But they need that more than anything else.

If you start dancing to the beat of your own drum and forget to offer them your complimentary words, they’ll fall apart.

Hinting They Need Help

Do you need me to help you?

Can I support you with this?

Do you need a loan?

Oh my God. Talk about shaking their cage.

How dare you suggest that a narcissist is somehow weak?

They don’t need your help, and they’ll get by just fine without you, thank you!

Just think about what your offer of help does to their ego. It’s seen as a threat to them. The idea that you have something they need. Not only that, but that you’re going to give it to them and feel good about it?

No. They’ll take what you offer when you don’t ask for it, and make you feel bad for not asking for it.

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Asking for or accepting help is the ultimate sign of a weak narcissist. They’re all about you squeezing them in and giving them attention, but not if you want to brag about it.

That’s what they’ll do.

LeaveThem

Hands up, who’s ever left a narcissist?

(I feel like I need to ask you how you’re doing!)

But also—my God. It was hard, wasn’t it? I mean, it wasn’t obvious. It came with so many challenges, and where are all the people you knew?

They aren’t there. That’s because you chose to embarrass and get rid of the narcissist – their ultimate fear.

Narcissists hate abandonment. It triggers all the insecurities they secretly feel about themselves. Your departure ignites all the reasons they secretly despise themselves.

If they knew the relationship was going to end – they may wish they had gone in there first and spread lies about a fake betrayal. Abandoning a narcissist means you’re ripping their main source of supply out of their cold, stubborn hands.

What would they do now without you?

They lost their minds!

InsultThemInAnyway

Humiliation leads to the possibility of shaming.

It’s designed to rhyme because it’s my little song to you.

It’s catchy and you won’t forget it, especially after you do it to a narcissist.

Insulting them in any way is going to wake up the beast.

I can’t believe you missed that shot!

Are you blind? That was a really bad way to park the car!

Har har – you dropped your drink! Do you need a napkin?

Of course, we all joke around with each other. We all tolerate it on a healthy level because we’re human and we all make mistakes. We trip, we spill things, we forget to take out the trash.

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You’ll know a narcissist when you know you can’t tease them. Your words will hit them like a freight train, completely derailing them.

Get ready to take cover!

RefuseToArgueOrExplain

Yeah, that’s a good thing.

So you’ve finally decided to walk away from the fight. You feel the air getting thick, you want to get out, so you pull back.

You don’t care, because you know what will happen eventually. Instead, you refuse to be drawn into the conflict.

I won’t argue with you today.

I’ve said what I have to say.

There’s nothing left to explain.

You’re cutting off your connection with them. The more you engage in the fight, the higher they will rise. Prevent them from taking another step forward, and they won’t know what to do.

Narcissists love the view from the top of the mountain of conflict. If you build a barrier to block access, they will hate you for it.

Highlighting Their Weaknesses

Bald hair, slightly shorter than average, not being skilled enough for a management position; weaknesses come in all forms.

Narcissists love to bury their weaknesses deep inside and hide them with a lot of support from you, or anyone else willing to offer it.

So… now you bring up these points, and they feel bad energy building up in their chest. They want to explode and throw it all in your face (they probably will).

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Nothing you say that brings up their weaknesses will end well because they are ashamed of weakness. That’s why they always want you to appear weak – so they don’t have to.

Making Fun of Them

Yes – this is the worst thing you can do. I mean, if a narcissist is joking, you laugh with them. That’s what they want.

You laugh at them if they do something that makes them look foolish.

Different story.

Different game.

Different consequences for you.

Watching a narcissist lose their mind can bring people certain elements of joy. I try to prevent people from finding joy in their misery, because it can come at a high price.

Save yourself the trouble – avoid what you can.