Oh my God, what is that hideous creature before me??!
Oh, okay. It’s just the narcissist morphing into the green-eyed monster yet again.
I say yet again with such disdain because it happens all the time, doesn’t it? All you want is a day of peace, and here they are again, reminding you what they don’t have.
You want them to be grateful, but the narcissist hungrily and greedily wants more and more – like it’s their right.
So, do you think you can spot all the things the narcissist will do when they’re jealous of you?
These are worth knowing!
Smearing Your Good Reputation
Everyone loves you?
Destroy it.
Are you known for being kind, giving, and compassionate?
Destroy it.
People always bring up good memories of you.
It’s time to change that!
Narcissists won’t sit back and listen to everyone talk about how great you are. All the good things you do, the beauty you bring to the world…
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Forget it!
Narcissists want all the attention for themselves. Why doesn’t anyone discuss them? Why do they slowly fade into the background? They weren’t supposed to be shy!
A narcissist’s jealousy is like an engine that’s really draining oxygen, ready to go.
If you suddenly start hearing negative rumors about you, it’s time to realize who’s making them up, and why!
Spreading False Rumors
False rumors can be very accurate.
You cheated on your ex.
You’re not as nice as people think.
You faked your way into your current job.
Anything and everything that can tear you down or make you seem less capable or “nice” will be a narcissist’s ploy, ready to use to make themselves look better.
Worryingly, they may accompany their news with this terrible concern for you. Are you okay? Is something else going on? Maybe they’re having a hard time…
False rumors make you look bad and the narcissist look good. That’s all that matters to them in the end.
It’s really a manipulative tool to pull you from the top of your game to the bottom, and push them up into their game.
OutsmartYou
Anything you can do, the narcissist can do better.
Anything you plan to do, the narcissist has already done (and probably found boring).
Any car you have, they have the latest model.
If you’re moving to a bigger house, they plan to find a bigger place.
If you’re going on an all-inclusive vacation, they’ve already been there and done that twice this year.
And trust me when I say this…
A narcissist can be sick like this…
If you are sick, have back pain, or feel like your mental health is deteriorating – they will have something much worse.
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This can get as bad as a narcissist faking illness and going to the doctors to get themselves checked out. They can wave medical notes in your face and tell you they need a test or blood test.
They are not jealous of your illness – they are jealous of the attention you get from having it.
SocialMediaShame
Are you having a good time wherever you are?
Do you like your new hairstyle?
Have you finally reached your weight loss goal?
Do people tell you how great you look or how great you look?
Do people congratulate you on your accomplishments?
Well… brace yourself…
The narcissist is coming…
Look for signs on social media where they’re making fun of you for your good news. Look for comments like:
But you didn’t get a college degree, did you?
Did you mean not to lose that much weight in your legs?
So, all those weight loss pills finally worked!
Your new hair makes you look like Peter Pan!
Or just a simple “laughing reaction” to a photo or post will do the trick.
Anything they can do on social media that puts a smile on your face, they will.
Any comment they can make that takes away from your happiness, they will.
Anyone can receive fifty positive remarks, and only focus on the negative ones they receive.
It’s tragic, but that’s how the brain is conditioned. We remember the bad stuff so our brains can try to protect us from more of it.
Triangulation
If a narcissist sees that you’re getting along well with someone they might want to spark a relationship or friendship with, they’ll cut through you like a sharp knife through a loaf of bread.
They triangulate by making you look bad to the other person. They won’t stop at lies and deceit just to get them to look at you differently and back off.
This creates a false trust between the person and the narcissist—the perfect foundation for a new “ship” of sorts.
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You’ll be completely confused about what changed so quickly and why.
In short—the narcissist was jealous. Nothing more, nothing less, unfortunately.
ExhaustYourself
If you’re so successful, you can’t be around them and make them look bad.
It can be easy for a narcissist to let you go if they don’t like the person you are.
Narcissists aren’t the type to feel good about successful or loving people who get a lot of attention or luck. Instead, they think, “What makes you feel so good?”
They see your success as an innate flaw.
It’s annoying, isn’t it?
But that’s what narcissists do everywhere. Say the right words to the wrong person, and you’ll be fine as yesterday’s news.
Projection – “You’re the jealous one!”
If you dare accuse a narcissist of being jealous – be prepared.
Cover up if you can!
The narcissist will throw everything they have at you.
You’re the jealous one!
Who could possibly be jealous of you? You’re barely competent!
They’ll come back to you, and turn you into someone who:
Feeling guilty for upsetting them.
Feeling guilty that something good happened.
Knowing not to accuse the narcissist of being jealous again.
Of course the narcissist will do this – they don’t want to be found out. They don’t want to appear weak or pathetic, so they make you look that way.
Focus on your weaknesses
This can be done in very subtle ways, but it will break you anyway.
If there is something good happening in your life that calls for a jealous response from the narcissist – they will ruin it.
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They can and will do this to exploit your insecurities and shine a bright light on them.
Don’t feel confident in your beach clothes? They’ll book you a surprise beach trip.
Hate public speaking? They’ll take you somewhere where you have to speak in front of everyone.
Are you health conscious and watch what you eat? They’ll book you a “romantic” meal for the two of you at a restaurant that’s open to everyone.
They will do these things in ways that make them act like they care about you and have your best interests at heart.
I was just trying to do something nice!
No – you were trying to ruin something good you did because you’re jealous that you’re not making things happen for yourself.
