There is always something designed to make any narcissist collapse like an alligator flying over the Florida Keys.

When the atmosphere goes from zero to one hundred in a split second, you can be sure there is one thing behind it.

I’m not talking about one person here. Anyone can make this happen.

But trust me—this uprising will be powerful if you’re not careful.

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We all do it, don’t we?

Bad days where we come home from work and feel tired.

We say something we don’t mean, or in a tone we don’t mean to show—and there it is—negativity.

For those who aren’t narcissists, there is the ability to self-reflect clearly. We say sorry, and we mean it.

We appreciate the forgiveness of those we have directed our angry behavior at, and we strive to be better next time.

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Narcissists don’t think this way, and they don’t care how many times they cross the line of anger.

Narcissists Must Always Speak Up

And their voice can be very annoying.

We hear you. You think you’re amazing. You know you’re always right, even when we all know you’re wrong.

And when you get emotional… you like to make the person you’re emotional with feel as uncomfortable as possible.

When you try to speak up? You’re immediately talked down to.

Does this sound familiar?

Overcompensating

That’s the problem, right?

Narcissists resort to overcompensating for anything they’re lacking.

Since we’re talking about narcissists, we know that they’re lacking a lot.

Deep down, they know that they’re not part of the person they’re trying to sell us.

Narcissists are insecure, unloving, self-loathing people. But they’re attacking you to make themselves feel better.

Pushing a Narcissist to Break Down…

So, what are the specific things you do to make a narcissist break down?

Let me start by saying this…

…what you do is not the problem.

How the narcissist responds to you, makes it the problem.

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You are simply driving the narcissist to the brink of collapse by acting normal.

But my goodness, they hate something.

And I can guarantee that the narcissist will have a meltdown when you do this…

Undermining Them

Can we all just agree?

I stress this again – undermining can be unintentional, but it can also be intentional.

Examples of undermining a narcissist:

1 Don’t communicate.

For whatever reason, you’ve decided that not communicating is the best way to deal with the narcissist in your life, and they won’t accept it.

All their lives, narcissists have an internal battle with their self-loathing.

Deep down, they hate themselves, and all that hate comes back to you.

When the time comes when you’re sick of the abuse, you’ll draw the line and say enough is enough.

This will drive the narcissist away from you and destroy the entire dynamic kingdom they’ve created. They’ll tell you so.

2 Disagree with them in public.

Oh no, you didn’t. Did you? Well – how did that happen? I bet you didn’t notice anything at the time, but when you got in the car to drive home – all hell broke loose.

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How dare you undermine me in front of our friends?

How dare you go against my word?

Who do you think you are?

It’s a dangerous game, but you’re entitled to your opinion, right? In a normal world, yes. In a narcissistic world, absolutely not.

You must obey, nod and smile, and if you dare to go against the grain, you will see the narcissist crumble like never before.

3 Finding them out.

Undermining all the toxic games they play and pointing fingers at them is a surefire way to make a narcissist crumble.

It is another way to weaken them, and to give up the power they love to have for themselves.

What you are doing in finding them out is never giving yourself the chance to believe or fall for their tricks again.

For you, this is a perfect way to begin healing and moving forward. You have shattered their ideal image for them, and the anger it provokes in them is unbearable.

Do you see how you could be doing something, whether intentionally or unintentionally, that would provoke a narcissist’s anger?

What Undermining Does to a Narcissist

It embarrasses them. Not that they’ll care to admit that you had that power over them, but this temporary shift in control will make them angry, making them more vulnerable to attacking you.

Who wants to be angry? Going against a narcissist is a dangerous move, and you have to be absolutely sure of who you are to have the courage to be direct. But to a narcissist, you’re trying to bring them down.

The power you naturally carry threatens their tactics, so yes, they’ll be incredibly angry at you for undermining them.

They want revenge. It’s no problem for them to take it to the next level. If it means absolving themselves of responsibility, the narcissist will get back at you in some way.

Whether it’s by punishing you personally, or creating a smear campaign to mark your name in your wider circles – never underestimate how far they can go.

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Ditch the narcissist. Narcissists can easily break up with you when they feel like it. This usually means that they have another form of supply once you’re gone, and it signals the end of your connection.

Undermining them proves to the narcissist that you’re not in this to play the victim forever. Maybe you were once, and you woke up.

Getting rid of you is how they literally dump you in favor of someone who believes their lies, and they start a new cycle with someone else all over again.

Narcissists want you to play by their rules all the time, and those rules change.

That’s why I always tell victims that no matter what you do or how hard you try, you’ll never satisfy them.

This constant state of never winning is soul-destroying, and many people take it personally.

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When you start fighting back and taking that power back, you undermine them.

Knowing that this is what makes narcissists act inappropriately is a real lesson to learn, because it tells you a lot about what they’re willing to tolerate from you. As long as you play along, they’ll be fine.

When you start asking questions, or holding them accountable – they will lose their minds.