The constant magnetic pull a narcissist uses to lure you in exhausts you.

You don’t want to be drawn into conflict. You don’t want to feel this tension, or prepare for battle.

You need a weapon, but it needs to be non-toxic. You need a voice you may not have had before.

You need a statement.

The ultimate statement that will weaken any narcissist.

Okay, without further ado, will you…?

Is that all it takes? One statement?!

Believe it or not – yes.

There are things you can throw at narcissists over the months or years you’ve known them.

Phrases born of anger, such as:

Why do you insist on making me feel so bad?

Why are you always so negative?

What do you think I did wrong?

Or phrases you say when you’re sad, such as:

I just want to be loved in your eyes.

I’m doing my best to make you see me.

I just want us to get along.

I love you and I don’t want to lose you.

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You can say all these things, and in the end, what happens is that narcissists love knowing you’re caught up in their games. You’re emotionally invested in trying to make everything right.

But when it comes to this phrase… it’s the narcissist’s “endgame.”

What’s The Phrase?

All bets are off when you mutter the words:

I see the real you now.

Ouch!

The narcissist’s power is completely taken away from them, and there’s no way they can get it back.

And most importantly, you can tell them directly that you get it. You’ve been presented with enough evidence over time to conclude that the narcissist is, in fact, a narcissist.

No amount of psychological manipulation or anger, denial, or revenge will change your mind. In fact, all it will do now is confirm that your thoughts are correct!

Waking up and seeing the narcissist for who they really are doesn’t necessarily happen overnight, but when it does, there’s no getting back at you or them.

Why Does This Work So Well?

Think of it this way.

You’ve been playing chess for a long time, and your whole life depends on winning. The crowd has gathered, and your opponent has convinced them you’re out of your league.

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When you look away, your opponent makes cunning moves that make you feel trapped, or that you’ll never win.

Slice by slice, they take away half the board until you feel there’s nothing left.

Then the impossible becomes possible…

You see where you can move, and you know that when you do, the game is over.

You make your move.

Checkmate.

Your opponent is now powerless, and nothing they do will change the final outcome.

That phrase is your checkmate.

What Power lessness Looks Like to a Narcissist

Let’s all take a step back, because it’s not going to be pretty.

Narcissists need power like they need air in their lungs. Without it, they’re really nobody who secretly feels them inside.

Without power, they’re nothing.

Remember Oz in The Wizard of Oz? The great, mighty voice of immortality and power? He turns out to be a scared man, pretending all the time!

Narcissists are the same. When you don’t understand them, they feel happy. The moment you realize the truth, all that power is gone forever…

…and nothing stays the same.

Powerlessness looks like this:

Watching you become more independent and less dependent on them
Watching you defy their criticism and live the life you want no matter how hard they try to hold you back
Not knowing what to do day-to-day after they’ve gotten used to watching you so closely

What You Can Do With Your New Power

Let me start by saying that a whole new world is opening up for you. I’m not kidding. Life is completely transformed.

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This is the power you’ve missed; the power you wish you’d had back then to start confronting the narcissist, or rather, to start believing in yourself again.

You have options now.

Eyes open to narcissism are eyes capable of finding a new way of living. Can this be scary at first? Absolutely.

Anything new is scary.

But you can’t let that stop you from standing on your own two feet and starting to grow as a person without their influence and without them telling you that you can’t.

Usually, when people discover the true narcissism behind their charm, they:

Deciding not to communicate. This is a very direct way of saying, “I don’t want you in my life anymore,” and it works for many victims.

Slowly, they begin to distance themselves from the narcissist and distance themselves from him. As you grow, things take a different direction than where you were originally rooted.

You begin to find more reasons to leave. From the evidence you find, the memories you have, or the research you conduct about narcissism—you build your own case.

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They become very adept at building boundaries. Surprisingly, this is easy once you know the truth, because you know it wasn’t you to begin with.

Nothing Stays The Same

How so? How can something so complex stay the same when you realize that the person you loved, cared for, and trusted is a liar?

It was all a lie.

There was never love.

There was never trust.

And that doubt or sadness you’ve always felt was because of something.

Prepare For Anything!

What usually follows discovering the truth about any narcissist is the potential for real personal explosions!

Think about the person closest to you and whether the narcissist has had any influence on how they think or feel. It could be because they’re trying to manipulate you.

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They will try to hurt you with their words like they’ve never done before. Never rule out the possibility that a narcissist will be as cruel as possible. Remember—they want to see you miserable and will do anything.

When a narcissist feels powerless, they’ll find it difficult to hide their contempt for you. What can be even more painful is that you may have experienced this with a parent or sibling. Theoretically, people close to you should never hurt you, but unfortunately, many do, and they may make you feel like you’re to blame. That’s exactly what they want you to believe. Don’t believe them.

You are capable of this. It’s much better to see the narcissist for who they really are, rather than pretending they’re a good person who truly cares.