Have you ever wished a narcissist would suffer forever? You want them to feel as much pain as you do, to know what it’s like to be hurt.
Even though they won’t admit it, they are suffering. In fact, they suffer a lot beneath that narcissistic layer of toxicity.
You’ll be happy to know there are many ways they could suffer forever…
…but what are they?
Let’s go!
You Won’t Think Suffering Exists
You see, narcissists don’t appear to be suffering at all. That’s because they are adept at hiding all the horrible things, including their personalities.
So, as long as suffering exists, you’ll only see the perfect version of everything.
Ways Narcissists Bury Their Suffering
Narcissists pile on more suffering and trouble on top of their own, and the suffering of everyone they know.
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The more they have to do, the more they can bury their suffering so no one will suspect anything.
How You Are Affected
We are affected by the suffering of narcissists because we are drawn into their toxic webs, and many of us give up before they find a way to escape.
We become like the person we spend most of our time with, and if it’s a narcissistic partner or parent, they will eventually make us feel worthless, just as they think they do about themselves.
Narcissists Suffer Forever From These 6 Things
- Not Really Knowing Happiness
When I think about this reason for a long time, it truly amazes me.
I love spending time with my family, hiking in nature, eating delicious food, and making beautiful memories with my loved ones.
I find happiness in the changing seasons, or on a beautiful, warm, sunny day. I love the first sip of my morning coffee. I’m happiest when I see people being kind to each other. I love watching a good movie.
I can extract so much from life that makes me truly happy.
Nothing makes a narcissist happy. Even your misery makes them feel temporarily better about themselves, but true happiness simply doesn’t exist.
That’s a real moment to reflect, isn’t it? Imagine going your whole life without knowing what the little things can do for your soul.
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Think of all the little details narcissists overlook because they’re so toxic they can’t relate to them.
Living in a world like that must be pretty bleak.
- Not Experiencing Love
Love is everywhere. It’s in music, movies, friends and family, communities and food, jobs and hobbies, relationships and beliefs—there’s no escaping it.
Narcissists also find love pathetic. They tend to shrug at the mere mention of it.
Oh my God, you’re so weak.
Really? Come on, let’s not get too carried away here.
Love? Hand me a bucket of nausea!
Okay, enough of this ridiculous show!
Love is forbidden in their world, and they easily reject it (unless they want something from you). You may be asking yourself, “Oh my God, what makes you hate love so much?”
I’ll tell you.
Actually, it’s the inability to feel it. Narcissists are incapable of experiencing any kind of love because love is a deep emotion.
If you expect a narcissist to reach that depth, you can forget about them!
A world without love is a very dark, lonely, and cold place, isn’t it? Ah, suddenly, it all makes sense!
- Constant Jealousy
I’m sure no narcissist would ever admit to being as jealous as I am, but that doesn’t mean they don’t feel it!
Jealousy is their secret. If someone gets a new car, a new promotion, a nice house, time to exercise—whatever it is—the narcissist will find a way to complain about it.
Look at them! They think they have it all!
If only we were more prepared, we’d have twice as much as they do now!
You won’t hear them say, “I’m so jealous!” That’s a straight admission, admitting they’re not perfect.
Instead, they suffer in silence from that raging green-eyed monster: eternal envy.
And it’s usually the victim who suffers the most, as the narcissist’s rage spills out onto them.
- Deep Self-Loathing
I think of Jim Carrey in “The Grinch,” filled with self-loathing, walking up a hill alone with his dog, Max.
Woe is me!
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But you know what? At least he was honest about everything.
At least he was loudly ranting about how he hated himself and was a biting jerk.
The Grinch changed after learning lessons, but narcissists never will.
Instead, their suffering is internal, and it is eternal.
They cannot and will not rid themselves of this aspect of themselves, because that would mean beginning to love themselves or appreciate what they could be if they stopped being narcissistic.
- Having to Remember Lies and Stories
How exhausting—all because kindness and honesty are so challenging for narcissists!
Remembering the lies and stories you make up to look good, manipulate, control, spread gossip, or feign innocence is a narcissist’s tactic.
Every time they open their mouths, they form a belief in another person. This belief will be stored and remembered—but does the narcissist store and remember?
Well—in short—they try. In the end, it’s impossible, and that’s one of the reasons they suffer so much from it.
Lying is sometimes a way in or out.
If it makes the narcissist look good, all the better!
But let me tell you one thing:
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Narcissists aren’t as smart as you think; sometimes they make mistakes.
Warning Call: Activate!
All it takes is one mistake for people to reconsider and say, “Did he just say that? Last week, I thought he said the exact opposite!”
Suddenly, the narcissist can’t be trusted—and that’s where their real struggles lie (pardon the pun).
- Addiction
It doesn’t matter what type of addiction, but what matters is that the narcissist resorts to things that aren’t right for them to cope or survive.
Alcohol.
Gambling.
