Anxiety can be the result of many abusive behaviors and traumatic experiences. Verbal abuse can also play a big role in this disease.

Sticks and stones may break your bones and your words…and they can hurt you, too. Verbal abuse is insulting, disrespectful and completely wrong. Have you ever seen someone yell at you because they were upset, or have you been called names before? I have, unfortunately, called myself people’s names. We often look at this kind of abuse and think it’s okay, but it’s not good at all.

Verbal abuse – the worst kind

Whether it is bullying, cyberbullying, or domestic violence, verbal attacks can be worse than any other form of abuse. The reason this is true is that it affects the relationship between the left and right hemispheres of the brain. Given that our brain develops over time, and for many years, the development process is affected by such violent talk.

Just as with sexual or physical abuse, we change dramatically as children, and then as adults, we look at the world in a very different way than those who have not been abused. Many of us suffer from anxiety as a result of verbal abuse.

Notes show the truth

While observing, by examining the brains of young adults between the ages of 18-25, the scientists were able to tell the difference between those who experienced anxiety and depression versus those who did not. Those who suffered from anxiety and depression were also former victims of verbal abuse.

It turns out that those verbally abused individuals experienced this trauma during their middle school years, which is the time when the brain develops at its highest rate.

Verbal abuse / emotional abuse

Both verbal and emotional abuse are similar. When someone is verbally abused, it affects them emotionally. Even certain words used negatively can cause severe damage to self-esteem and emotions. This can act as a domino effect, causing disruptions in the victims’ work, relationships, and home lives, even years later.

At some point, anxiety will set in, which will then become a somewhat uncontrollable response to the normal changes in life. You can see the connection between these things and even imagine the permanent and detrimental damage that can and will happen to the brain and its structures.

Now, let me be frank with you

There are many symptoms associated with verbal abuse. There are immediate consequences as well as long-term effects. Here are some examples of the damage that can be done by simply speaking harshly. By the way, all of these things can be linked to anxiety disorders. This will make you think about what to say beforehand, believe me.

Short-term effects:
Communication problem
Over-analysis of situations
Low self-esteem and lack of enthusiasm for life
Poor decision making
Long-term effects:
Migraines
Chronic pain
digestive disorders
anxiety (here are the people)
depression
Post-traumatic stress disorder
Eating disorders
suicide

Now you can find out what your harsh words and name calls can do to someone you love. It probably won’t do that much damage in the first, second, or third incident, but over time, it can do a lot of damage. People learn to frame their lives around what other people think and say about them if they don’t discover their healthy self-esteem.

Anxiety can definitely come from verbal abuse, and if you are suffering from such abuse, you need to put an end to it. Want to know how to recognize verbal abuse? Let me help you change your life, check out the list of pointers below.

The caller’s name

Verbal abusers use nicknames as a way to shock you into doing what they think is right. It is mainly about instilling fear. It is normal for them to call you names, and it hurts you.

Behind closed doors

Most often, verbal abuse takes place behind closed doors. This is because the abuser knows that others will recognize the abuse, while the victim, alone, will be easier to manipulate.

Surprise abuse

Verbal abuse often happens when it starts to get a little hot. If you seem happy, notice how the abuser will pounce on you and begin to criticize you. I think, personally, that an abuser is afraid of losing control when you’re happy. I will presume to say that if they are not your source of pleasure, they will become distraught and use abuse to gain control again.

Attacks the interests of the victim

The abuser will attack the things the victim likes to do. If you are functional enough to enjoy something on your own, the abuser will reduce what you do. Notice how the abuser never likes the things you care about, that’s a clue.

No apologies

Unlike most other arguments or fights where both sides apologize, the abuser will never admit any wrongdoing. When he is proven wrong and there is no way for him to deny that fact, he will respond with “Just drop it,” “Just forget it,” and “It’s over.” This shows that he cannot win but he will not lose control.

isolation

The victim of the verbal abuser will always feel isolated from others, i.e. family and friends. The abuser feels that once you are isolated, he has complete control over making you do whatever he wants.

Of course, a little personal input

Since I started blogging for this page, I’ve turned several boulders that covered my past damage. I’ve discovered so many things that have played a role in my life and shaped who I am today. Unfortunately, many of the things I overlooked were actually offensive and damaging. These were two things I did and things that were forced upon me as well.