In a world where instant gratification and quick fixes seem to dominate our lives, the idea of healing emotional trauma is often oversimplified. We are bombarded with free promises, self-help videos, and quick fixes to our deep wounds. While these resources can provide temporary relief or a fleeting sense of relief, healing emotional trauma is not as simple as watching some self-help videos or collecting freebies off the Internet.
Healing emotional trauma requires more than just passive consumption; It takes work, commitment, and a deep desire to change one’s routine.
In this article, we’ll explore why relying solely on freebies and watching videos isn’t enough to heal emotional trauma or experience true transformation. Instead, we’ll delve into the importance of taking purposeful action and implementing changes in your routine to address and overcome emotional scars in a lasting way.
The deceptive appeal of freebies and videos
Before we delve into the deeper aspects of emotional healing, let’s understand why freebies and videos are so tempting for those suffering from emotional trauma. In the age of information abundance, anyone can access numerous self-help materials with the click of a button. From e-books and worksheets to motivational videos and webinars, the Internet is saturated with resources that promise answers to life’s most challenging questions.
Instant Gratification: Giveaways and videos provide instant gratification. You can download a free eBook or watch a video and feel like you’re making progress without putting in a lot of effort or doing anything different.
Low Commitment: Requires minimal commitment. You don’t have to invest your time, money, or energy into attending therapy sessions or engaging in deeper self-reflection. It also gives you ease of checkout. If you don’t make any real progress, you’ll feel like you haven’t lost anything. There is a lack of accountability that can keep you in a self-defeating cycle.
Illusion of Progress: Consuming self-help content often gives the illusion of progress. You may feel temporarily better, but this feeling can be misleading, because it often does not translate into long-term recovery. After the initial feelings of novelty wear off, you find yourself searching for more freebies and watching more videos. But without incorporating any of the information into your life that does not mean any real change or transformation. This is largely why we see so many people crying out that they haven’t recovered after years of being free from abusive relationships.
Why healing requires more than passive consumption
Emotional trauma is deeply ingrained in our psyche. It stems from various life experiences, such as childhood trauma, abusive relationships, or major losses. The process of healing emotional trauma involves acknowledging, processing, and ultimately integrating these experiences into one’s life in a healthier way. Passive consumption of freebies and videos, while useful to some extent, does not achieve these goals for several reasons:
1 – Superficial comfort vs. true healing: Freebies, self-help videos, and TikToks can provide a sense of temporary relief or distraction from emotional pain. They may offer quick tips for managing anxiety, improving self-esteem, or dealing with grief. However, these resources often focus on superficial solutions, treating symptoms rather than the underlying causes of emotional trauma.
Imagine someone suffering from the effects of a toxic relationship. They may watch videos about self-love and get free downloadable worksheets on building self-esteem. While these resources can provide temporary relief and boost their mood, they do not heal the deep wounds left by the toxic relationship. True healing requires delving into and working through the root causes of trauma.
2 – Limits of Passive Consumption: Passive consumption of self-help content, whether in the form of videos or free downloadable resources, can create a sense of false progress. Watching a motivational video may briefly inspire you, but without effective implementation of the lessons learned, its impact is limited or even non-existent.
Healing emotional trauma requires more than just passive consumption; It requires participation and active participation. It’s like learning to swim by watching swimming videos but never getting in the water. You can gain knowledge and insight from videos, but real transformation happens when you put that knowledge into action.
3 – Temporary relief: Passive consumption may provide temporary relief, but it often masks underlying problems without addressing them directly. Emotional pain has a way of resurfacing when left unattended.
The role of work in healing emotional trauma
In order to truly heal emotional trauma, action is essential. Healing is not a passive process; It requires you to take charge of your recovery. Here’s how work plays a pivotal role in your healing journey:
Seek outside help: The first and perhaps most important step is to seek outside support. Therapists, counselors, and life coaches are trained to guide you through the healing process effectively. Their experience helps you overcome your trauma and develop healthier coping mechanisms. It may take several visits with different specialists before you find someone who can really help you.
Embracing Vulnerability: Healing involves openness and vulnerability. It requires you to confront painful memories, emotions, and beliefs. This level of self-exploration is not possible through giveaways and videos alone.
Establishing healthy habits: Healing often entails breaking free from harmful routines and adopting healthy habits. This may mean exercising regularly, practicing mindfulness, or developing a stronger social support system. It also means stopping spending hours a day watching videos, because true healing doesn’t happen until you start taking inspired action and changing your self-sabotaging habits.
Processing Emotions: Healing is about acknowledging your feelings and processing them in a healthy way. Instead of suppressing or numbing your feelings, you learn how to understand them and respond constructively.*
Setting Realistic Goals: Healing is a gradual process, and setting realistic goals is essential. Don’t expect to overcome deep emotional trauma overnight. Break your healing journey into manageable steps, celebrate your progress, and be patient with yourself along the way.
Changing your routine: an essential component of recovery
Aside from taking specific actions, changing your daily routine is a vital aspect of healing from emotional trauma. Our routines often reinforce patterns of behavior and thought that may have contributed to the trauma in the first place. Here’s how changing your routine can help the healing process:
Breaking the cycle: Trauma can create negative thought patterns and behaviors that become ingrained in our daily routine. Changing your routine disrupts these patterns and allows healthy habits to form. For example, although it may be impossible to get out of bed sometimes, you might consider taking advantage of your downtime by listening to guided meditations or watching feel-good movies. But, keep in mind that if you find yourself reverting to watching videos about narcissists and toxic relationships, this could significantly hinder your progress.
Cultivate Self-Care: Prioritizing self-care is essential to healing. Make time in your routine for activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. This can include exercising, meditating, journaling, or spending time in nature. Or you can simply hang out with your pet or sit outside on your porch with some hot tea.
Create safe spaces: Your physical environment plays an important role in your emotional health. Rearrange your surroundings to create a safe, soothing, and supportive space where you can process the trauma without distraction.
Build a support network: Healing often involves seeking support from friends, family, or support groups. Adjusting your routine to spend more time with those who lift you up and encourage you can be incredibly therapeutic. But be careful not to regularly unload trauma on your support network. Make it a habit to ask if they are in a place to listen to your struggles or offer support. People have things going on in their lives, and it’s good for them to realize that they may be going through hard times themselves.
Practice mindfulness: Incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily routine helps you stay present, reduce anxiety, and gain a deeper understanding of your feelings and triggers.
Challenges of the healing journey
While changing routines and taking action are essential components of healing from emotional trauma, it is important to acknowledge the challenges a person may face along the way:
Resistance to change: Humans are creatures of habit, and changing routines can be met with resistance. It may be uncomfortable at first, but it’s important to persevere. Pay attention when you find yourself falling behind old habits.
Patience is key: Healing is not a linear process, and it takes time. Be patient with yourself, and don’t expect results overnight.
Professional Guidance: Although self-help is valuable, you may find it helpful to find someone to help you on your healing journey. This can range from finding a therapist who specializes in abusive relationships to working with a spiritual healer or Reiki practitioner.
Relapses are normal: Recovery often involves setbacks and setbacks. These are normal parts of the journey, and should not be viewed as a failure.
