The Harsh Reality Of The Toxic Relationship Between A Narcissist And An Empath

The empath and the narcissist. Good and evil. Light and dark. Yin and yang.

As you can see, all these pairs are opposites but they have something in common – they are parts of pairs and regardless of whether we want to admit it or not, they are in a kind of symbiosis.

One is bad and the other is good. So, if you stop for a moment and think about it, you will see that all the time in life, somehow, a good thing ends up with a bad thing.

The same goes for empathizing with the narcissist. Empathy is like an angel sent from heaven to bring peace between people.

This type of person believes that everyone around him is good and never believes that people have hidden intentions or that they can hurt them.

They believe that they should not judge anyone and that they should allow others to do so.

An empath is someone who feels all those feelings that you don’t talk about, but since he has an acute sixth sense, he can see what you feel just by looking into your eyes.

They are aware of the fact that you are suffering and will always try to help you as much as they can.

In some situations, they will put you first and neglect themselves because they know how much you want some kind of help.

An empath is a person who you want to have in your life because he is an honest and loyal friend, a loving partner, and someone who can turn your life into the most beautiful story.

Then there is the narcissist. A narcissist is someone who is not that way by choice.

They probably experienced some kind of trauma in the past that affected them greatly and turned them into the monster they are now.

A narcissist is a person who will only lead you to get what he wants, a person who will use you in every way possible, and a person who will not stop torturing you, even if he sees you crawling on the ground, begging for mercy.

They will always want to feel worthy and in a relationship, they will feel above their partner just so they can feel good in their skin.

The feeling of superiority and control is greater than any kind of love and this is something all narcissists believe in.

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The worst thing is that they never feel any guilt for doing all the bad things to the people they love and never accept help from others to change.

They are people you don’t even want to know or be in a love relationship with.

He is someone you should stay away from because he knows nothing but hurting people.

So, you have an empath and a narcissist. You have a good person and a bad person. What’s worse is that in most cases the two fall in love.

You may be wondering why but there is an explanation.

There is some unknown attraction between them and they always clash with each other.

They fall in love easily and every moment they spend together feels like a fairy tale.

They don’t even get to know each other well, thinking they have chosen the best person to be with.

The narcissist doesn’t mind what happens because he is emotionally unavailable.

He needs someone to feed off of and Empathy is the perfect victim for that crime.

An empath, on the other hand, falls in love with a narcissist, believing he has found his soulmate.

They think they’ve hit the jackpot when they meet them but will soon reveal they’ve hit rock bottom.

A relationship between an empath and a narcissist is not something that can work.

It’s something that was doomed from the start. It’s something you would never experience if you only knew how much you’re suffering.

Even if you think that a relationship like this is worth trying, you are very wrong. This is not love at all.

It is just a way for the narcissist to express his anger to an innocent person such as sympathy.

It starts as a beautiful thing but over time, it turns into a horror that you just want to get away from.

An empath is someone who is always trying to make things work, while a narcissist sees this and exploits it.

It causes pain to the empath every time the empath shows more love and affection.

Once the empath shows that they are in love and need their partner, the narcissist will see his opportunity to hurt them and in this way, he will make himself feel better.

They will do all kinds of things just to get what they want.

They will use the love their partner feels for them and will abuse them mentally and physically, blaming them for making them behave this way.

They will tell the empath that their behavior is causing them to act this way and that they must change.

The narcissist will convince the empath that they are the crazy ones and that they are creating problems that don’t exist.

They will gaslight them, ignore them, neglect them, and act like they are their own worst enemy.

And every time an empath says they are leaving, the narcissist changes the story by telling them that they are completely out of their minds because of their immense love, that they want them to succeed, and that they are their only bright light in life.

They know that the empath will feel sorry for them and that they will come back to their claws again. And when they do, the torment continues.

More tears, more pain, more sleepless nights, more abuse but less love.

Empaths will feel like they’re between two fires because on one side there’s someone they love, no matter what they’ve done to them, and on the other side, they don’t feel good about them.

Being at this kind of crossroads, most of them choose their attacker over themselves. They choose to live in agony until the next time their world collapses.

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Until the next time, they feel like they are losing their minds, until the next time an ambulance takes them to the hospital, they fight for their lives.

But what you need to know is that there is nothing you can do to change a narcissist.

There is no amount of love you can give them to make them behave normally.

They’re broken and don’t want to fix them. They feel comfortably numb as they are, and because they are, they want to make someone else feel hopeless.

Their main priority is to ruin the life of a person who is capable of love because they cannot do that and they are jealous of everyone who shows those feelings.

That’s why every empath’s best decision is to run as fast and as far as possible after seeing the first red sign of a toxic, narcissistic relationship.

If you see that you are not getting the love you need or that you are not feeling satisfied in your relationship, try to talk to your partner, but if he is a narcissist and does not want to change, then you should leave.

I know it hurts to be away from someone you love. I know it’s bad to leave everything you have but let me ask you something:

Who is the first to give up on your love? Are you the only one who needs to try things until they work? I don’t think so.

Love is not a one-way street and you should know that. Love is sharing your happiness with the one you love, not when he destroys it.

Love is when you tell them all your dark secrets because they are your human diary, not when they are a dark secret you hide from the world, just trying to project an image of a happy relationship.

Love is sharing all the good and bad with your other half and feeling fulfilled in that relationship.

Love means feeling worthy and enough for the person you share your bed with. Sympathy for a narcissist is not love.

He may not be using his fists but it’s still abuse. He is constantly walking on eggshells.

It’s the fear of admitting to them how you feel about the love you have for them because you know you’ll make them angry by saying so.

She does everything they want and nothing she wants. It’s ridiculous and it’s not what you deserve. This is something no one deserves.

It’s something that can eventually kill you because you won’t be able to tolerate all that toxicity for long.

So, leave while you can. Leave and never look back. Leave without thinking about the consequences. Leave while you’re still alive.