The narcissistic false self is charming and confident and hides insecurity and emptiness behind it. Let’s find out what other secrets they’re hiding!
Narcissists have a false self. They are professional scammers. They act like a little king or queen – whether they are showing off or sulking. Their entire personality is a charade designed to trick you into believing that they are confident, superior, self-sufficient, lovable, and caring.
In studies, groups of people met a narcissist and liked them, but after 6 more encounters, they discovered the narcissist’s true nature and changed their minds.
Their personality is designed to impress and compensate for their hidden shyness, which is revealed when their greatness does not match reality. Most of the time, they change their perception of reality to protect the false self.
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#What is the false narcissistic self?
An air of self-confidence and superiority inflates narcissists’ opinion of themselves, protecting them from unconscious feelings of inferiority. It also transforms shame by projecting inferiority onto others.
They distort, justify, and distort facts and deceive themselves to avoid anything that might cause a chink in their armor.
They shine in their grandiose fantasies of perfection and greatness, where they are the most attractive, talented, powerful, smartest, strongest, and richest. All this is to convince themselves and others that they are superior, not inferior.
They are not independent at all but are very dependent on what others think of them or at least what people think of them. If you love or admire them, it inflates their ego and they feel more powerful. They manipulate and try to control what others think to feel good about themselves, which makes narcissists dependent on recognition from others.
They are very alert and sensitive to threats to their image and vigilantly pay attention to signals that may affect their image in the eyes of others.
To this end, they have improved their presentation of magic and made use of impression management. They constantly scan their environment to make sure they receive the most attention and power.
They look friendly and cuddly, but this trick is to make you like them and does not mean they care about you. Beware of dating a narcissist. Some play games and may like to bomb you.
They may even pretend to be sympathetic and concerned, but you can see it in the way they treat and talk about others. Research shows that all types of narcissists share the basic trait of lack of acceptance. Their needs come first and they will raise arguments to gain more power.
When magic fails to work, they use domination. Since they are insecure and afraid, having power is their primary concern. If you don’t like them, they are satisfied that you envy them or are afraid of them. This strategy requires sustained effort.
They therefore prefer hierarchical relationships, workplaces, and groups, such as the military, politics, and corporate environment. They avoid intimate or unfamiliar environments, where they feel unsafe, become socially awkward, and are often inappropriate.
When they want to impress, they can act caring, but when it doesn’t fit with their personal goals, their selfish nature becomes evident. The needs or misfortunes of others are felt as burdens or inconveniences. Relationships are like business transactions. Their agenda is “What’s in it for me?”
Although they may create the impression that they do not need anyone or care about their relationships, in reality, they are desperate to receive their “narcissistic supply.” They make endless requests for attention, praise, and accommodations to ensure their comfort.
When denied, they feel hurt and often explode into narcissistic rage and abuse. In intimate relationships, as abuse escalates, partners and coworkers become passive and submissive to avoid exposure and maintain the relationship. By assuming a submissive role, you establish an unhealthy dynamic in relationships with a narcissist.
