Narcissists are convinced that people find them captivating. Their enduring charm is part of their self-superiority. This absurd belief is what makes the narcissist a “pathological wizard.”
The physical narcissist (also known as the hysterical) flaunts his sexual attractiveness, sensual prowess, and attractive body. Physical narcissists are always in the latest fashion, drive fancy cars, and pose for celebrities.
The cerebral narcissist, on the other hand, seeks to captivate and impress his target with a clever pyrotechnic display—and derives his value from his intellectual abilities and accomplishments. Their mind is the source of their cerebral narcissistic vanity. He or she prefers to have vague information, use big, complex words, and write long, drawn-out treatises about their “leading ideas.”
They do not usually draw attention to themselves, and prefer to enter into a full personality by withdrawing from society; Going out in public only occasionally…to remind the humble human race of their divine presence.
Cerebral narcissists will try to impress others with their scientific intelligence and command of the language, which is used not only to impress them but also to destroy anyone who asks them. They are convinced that they are unique and should only associate with other special or high-ranking individuals. When faced with anything that conflicts with their sense of God’s status, you can bet that their reaction will be explosive and malicious.
Shows contempt for those they consider inferior. When this narcissist suffers a loss of admiration, he will become emotionally and/or verbally abusive. Their verbal intensity is such that one leaves stunned in the aftermath. Despite these mischievous traits, such a person can be charming and exhibit behaviors that are widely admired in society. There can be a real ‘show’ of kindness towards others – even though they are not loyal by nature.
How does a cerebral narcissist work
A cerebral narcissist generally works in the same way as a physical or overt narcissist when it comes to securing a source of supply. However, some subtleties set them apart, such as:
During the idealization stage: They follow the blueprint when it comes to showering their target with affection and praise. However, the cerebral narcissist goes one step further by declaring that the new show is his intellectual equal. That very well may be the case, but a cerebral narcissist doesn’t believe in it because, in their mind, no one can match their mental prowess. Their claim is endless. Gifts often include poetry, books, and handwritten letters that signify their undying love.
As with all narcissists, this stage makes you addicted to constant attention. Once the emotional and chemical cravings kick in, the devaluation phase begins.
The devaluation stage is very similar to other narcissists, although it manifests itself in a slightly different way. Instead of direct, sarcastic remarks meant to lower the target’s self-esteem (which is something the less intelligent narcissist does), the cerebral narcissist will suddenly blow hot and cold, withdraw his attention, and give you the general sense of not being as high a priority as he once was. They start throwing out occasional shots to keep you in their loop. But don’t be fooled, they secretly resent your perceived ignorance and mock you under such a quiet demeanor.
While it may not come up in the discussion, you start to feel needy or clingy, so you back off in hopes of regaining the attention you initially received. Around this time, you may begin to question the depth of their feelings for you, trying to make sense of the widening chasm that is forming.
They make a virtue out of their emotional absent-mindedness by convincing you that they are simply giving you space and freedom, or that they are busy with some big project.
The phase of throwing it all out is where it all comes out. It becomes clear that the narcissist sees himself as a gift to civilization. Their clever accomplishments are paradigm-shifting, forever penetrating, and transcendent.
Periodic interaction with contentious objects perpetuates their inner turmoil, which keeps the narcissist on their toes…and this infuses them with a cheerful vitality. If you ask for more – you will become a hindrance. They will dump you, and disengage quickly and ruthlessly. Cerebral narcissists are often quickly dumped because they simply don’t have the stomach for the chattering fools they call partners.
During the neglect phase, the narcissist reveals his authentic self. You experience callous indifference as the relationship ends. You might think this is just a passing gag, but in fact, this is their true nature which was hidden under a dark cloak.
The charm of intrigue that was there, in the beginning, is gone — instead, it’s been replaced by the genuine contempt the narcissist had for you from the start. They feel absolutely nothing to you except the excitement of getting rid of yet another unsuspecting target. At this point, you must accept that the dreamlike bond that existed when you first met was only an illusion.
