You’ve heard of the narcissistic reflex. But what happens when things turn upside down? What happens when the victim begins to imitate a narcissist?
Is this possible? If so, how do you do it? Why is it more useful than the gray rock method?
There’s only one way to get all the answers: keep reading!
What is the opposite of a narcissist?
Simply put, imitating a narcissist is about mirroring and copying their behavioral patterns to create the illusion of attachment and, ultimately, confuse them.
Portraying someone with narcissistic personality disorder is actually turning the tables in your favor. By doing this, you are beating them at their own game: you are using their own weapons and manipulation tactics against them.
Now, you’re the one who loves bombing, gaslighting, and playing with the narc. For the first time ever, you are creating codependency and destroying their sense of self.
Examples of the opposite of a narcissist
Let’s put this into practice: If someone with NPD gives you the silent treatment, you give them the silent treatment back. If they destroy your self-esteem, you do the same to them. If they don’t go no contact, don’t go no contact!
But that’s not the end of it! Imitating a narcissist means imitating his likes and dislikes, his mannerisms, his body language, and his facial expressions as well.
Will this get you into a healthy relationship? Will this help you change your secret narcissist? Will it make them stop being narcissists? of course not!
However, it will definitely help you deal with your narcissistic relationship. Most importantly, it will ultimately help you break the trauma bond.
What is a narcissistic mirror?
Under normal circumstances, the process goes in the opposite direction: your narcissistic partner mirrors your behavior. In fact, this is what all people with narcissistic personality disorder do, even your narcissistic parents.
Narcissistic mirroring means copying and mirroring your words, body language, facial expressions, life attitudes, likes and dislikes. It is a form of narcissistic abuse, and it can be devastating to the victim’s mental health.
Examples of the narcissistic mirror
Let’s put it this way. You meet someone new. You two are slowly getting to know each other better.
Then you realize that you have the same taste in music, movies, sports, and everything else. Let’s say you like to spend most of your free time watching your favorite TV show. Not only do they spend their weekends the same way, they also have the same favorite TV show.
Of course, the examples are endless. Every time you look at it, you have the impression that you are looking at a mirror image of yourself.
It’s normal to think you’ve found your soul mate. You don’t see any red flags here and assume that this is fate: you have finally found your other half.
Why do they do that?
So, why do people with BPD mirror their victims? Well, first, they suffer from a lack of empathy, so they have to fake it to assure you that they are empathetic and to hide their true narcissistic behavior.
However, the main purpose of narcissistic mirroring is to create an imaginary bond with the victim. This usually occurs during the love bombing phase, and helps the victim believe that the relationship they have with the narcissist is unique and out of this world.
As a result, all your weaknesses and insecurities come to the surface. You are letting your abuser in all the way and allowing him to get to know you completely.
After a while, the narc begins to use all the information they have obtained against you. The narcissistic abuse begins, but you won’t go anywhere because you’ve already developed such a strong dependence.
Before you know it, they become your main source of validation (this is especially dangerous when we’re talking about a narcissistic mother, father, or other caregiver), and your sense of self-worth is tied exclusively to them.
Voila, the narc got exactly what they wanted: endless narcissistic supply!
The opposite of a narcissist: a double-edged sword
Here are some things to keep in mind when it comes to mirroring a narcissist:
- Recovery time
If you try to see the process of imitating a narcissist as a way to get him to change his ways and cure him of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, then you are completely wrong!
Let’s get one thing straight: This is how you can get revenge on your narcissistic abuser. In fact, it’s one of the best ways to get even and destroy them with their own weapons.
Will it give you the satisfaction you crave? Will it help your mental health? Will it lead you towards self-love and help you save yourself from this toxic cycle?
Well, it all depends on you.
- They are professionals at this
However, you need to realize that you are just a beginner and that you are dealing with a skilled and trained professional. This is something you should always keep in mind.
The moment you forget this, you are doomed to fail. Does this mean that you have to keep your guard up at all times? Yes it is!
You are on a mission here, and your purpose must be clear at all times. If you relax for a moment and step out of your role, you’ll be back to square one.
- Reverse devaluation
The goal of drugs is to devalue the currency, this should be clear by now. They want to deepen your insecurities and make themselves your only source of validation.
Well, it’s time to turn this process around, and imitating a narcissist will help you do just that! Before you know it, they’ll be asking you for validation, and they’ll be the ones creating the interdependence.
- Losing your true self
But it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. There’s something else to be aware of: You’re at risk of assuming the role of the narcissist. You are at risk of losing your true self and becoming just like them.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying your narc doesn’t deserve this – I’m sure they earned it. However, you have to be careful not to get carried away and not let this become your lifestyle.
Does mirroring the narcissist work?
Yes, imitating the narcissist works. At first, they don’t see the warning signs, so you have plenty of time to continue your manipulation tactics. When they find out what’s going on, they’re already emotionally dependent on you, and you’ve put them exactly where you want them.
Is empathy a mirror of the narcissist?
An empath will reflect the narcissist more successfully than the other way around. First and foremost, your empathic skills will help you identify your covert narcissist and read their mind. Therefore, it will be easier for you to think not only about their behavior, but also about their feelings.
The second step is to deprive them of your sympathy. When a narcissist feels a lack of empathy, he is lost because he has become addicted to it, without even noticing it.
Related : 10 Red Flag Signs That You Are Being Abused By A Narcissist
What happens when you triangulate a narcissist?
Triangulating the narcissist will help you defeat him. Once you have someone else on your side, the narc can’t play with your head the same way he used to.
First of all, gaslighting becomes completely impossible. Second, there is someone next to you who will push him to self-awareness, and he can no longer act ignorant about his narcissistic abuse.
Why do empaths mirror narcissists?
In most cases, empaths actually mirror narcissists without even realizing it. These are actually two sides of the same coin, opposites of each other. The empath recognizes the dark side of their personality in the narc.
At the same time, they are toxically attracted to each other, and the empath has difficulty letting go of this trauma bond. Imitating the narcissist becomes a coping mechanism and a way to adapt to this narcissistic relationship.
Related : Does a Narcissist Get Jealous? Yes, and Here’s Why
However, sometimes, empaths mirror narcissists on purpose – to give them a taste of their own medicine. Their goal is to manipulate them, destroy their mental health, and break their hearts in the same way they did.
What is weak narcissism?
The name says it all: Vulnerable narcissists are more emotionally sensitive than “normal” covert narcissists. It’s much easier to break their hearts, play on their insecurities, and finally, pull off a successful reversal.
To conclude:
Now that you’ve mastered the art of mirroring a narcissist, I must warn you not to take it too seriously. Yes, it will help you with your drug abuse, but it won’t necessarily help you heal from your narcissistic abuse.
Instead, this method will only keep you stuck in your narcissistic relationship even more. But if you think it’s something you can handle, go for it. I’m just begging you to be careful!
