The worst thing about being part of a toxic relationship is those people who judge you or consider you a weak person. They view you as someone who has very little or no self-esteem.
They think you are too cowardly to save yourself. But they have no idea how you feel.
Everyone who’s been there before, everyone who’s dealt with a toxic person in their life, knows how strong you actually are to get through it all.
I refuse to be ashamed of myself. I refuse to let anyone look at me as a weak person. Because I am a strong person.
It took a lot of strength to get through what I went through and survive. It took a great deal of courage to survive in the end and be the last person standing.
Yes, I’m a little bruised, but no one ever leaves a fight without a scratch.
In toxic relationships, you break down day by day, but you also develop incredible strength throughout the entire process.
In toxic relationships, you will hit rock bottom, but you will eventually bounce back.
Letting go is never easy, but you have to do it. Because letting go may not be easy, but sticking to it is much more difficult.
And you know what else is there that nobody ever talks about? People think once you’re out of the toxic relationship, it’s the end. But people are often wrong.
The after-effect of a toxic relationship always lingers a little longer.
God knows that in my case, the consequences were as bad as the toxic relationship itself.
What no one tells you is the fact that no matter how toxic your partner was, no matter how much pain you went through, and no matter how relieved you felt when the relationship ended, there is some love in a toxic relationship.
And this love is what you hold on to. This love is the only thing familiar to you.
And after a while, once you get used to this toxic kind of love, you think that the only “right” love is the love similar to the love you felt before. Everything else you get seems wrong.
After a toxic relationship, a normal relationship feels awkward.
I had a hard time accepting normal love until I realized that not all relationships are full of screaming, fighting, and making each other feel bad or even miserable.
But the lessons you learn in life always start too late. They are never on time.
You have to push some good people away like you did before you realize what you’re doing. And you push them away not because you don’t want them, but because you don’t know how to deal with them.
You push good people away because you fear that unknown feeling you get when someone treats you the way you deserve.
You also push good people away because no matter how much you want to see your old love in them, you are still afraid that what you wish for will happen.
Completely contradictory and chaotic, but that’s the result of being with a toxic person.
But toxic love is no good reason to fear new love.
It takes time to get over what you’ve been through and purify your blood of all the toxins, and you’ll probably be angry because it’s taking so long, but you’ll also need to be patient.
Because it will hurt, but it won’t hurt forever. The past will torment and haunt you, but it will not last forever.
Then you will learn to accept normal love. You will welcome someone who will choose to cherish you and see things from your perspective instead of crucifying you.
You will see that there was no L of love that you thought you had with your toxic partner.
You will realize that you need to go through hell to be ready to enter heaven.
You had to be with a toxic person to know the value of those who treat you like you deserve.
No matter how late your lessons started, you’ll be grateful they showed up at all. You will thank God that you did not get what you wanted, and that He did not fix what was broken.
Because instead of answering your prayers, he made you realize that you deserve much more.
Because instead of getting what you wanted, you got what you needed.
