We are likely to endure traumatic experiences in our lives. However, depending on the severity and frequency, some experiences can leave deep emotional wounds that end up affecting our entire perception of life, the way we see ourselves, and the choices we make.

In most cases, we go through these experiences very early in our lives, making the quest to heal emotional wounds intertwined with the challenge of healing our inner child. But before we learn how to heal emotional wounds, let’s look at the most common types.

8 Types of emotional wounds

The phrase “emotional wounds” has psychological and spiritual connotations and we have compiled our list by combining these two discipline courses.

1. Wound pain
   Although it is generally seen as a mother-daughter phenomenon, sons and daughters alike can be on the receiving end of maternal hurt, caused by the emotionally unavailable and often overly critical mother. A wounded mother is a traumatic experience where the child is not provided with much-needed emotional support and nurturing care. The child grows up desperately asking for validation from the mother and always feels nervous and scared in her presence. Such a child cannot turn to the mother for comfort and care.

It is often a generational curse. Women who cannot heal their mother’s wounds tend to pass the toxic behavioral pattern on to the next generation. Unresolved issues from a hurt mother can also make you question your self-worth, crave external validation, and become unable to manage emotions.

Steps you can take toward addressing maternal wound problems:

• Forgive your mother even if she doesn’t deserve it.
• Ask for help from a peer group with similar experiences.
• Be your parent and take care of your needs.
• Work on yourself and develop deep self-awareness.
• Communicate and express your pain constructively.
• If necessary, distance yourself from the dysfunctional relationship.

2. Dark Soul Night

Coined in the 16th century by a Roman Catholic priest, the term refers to the suffering of the soul when it is separated from God. Since then, the idea has been adopted by various religious, spiritual, and psychological practices and has been used to describe an extremely painful period of existence during which a person loses all hope and motivation to live.

The faith of the suffering individual is shaken to the core and the universe ceases to understand him. The tormented soul faces one hardship after another but eventually emerges as an empowered and conscious being. The spiritual belief behind this concept is that our souls choose to go through painful lessons to attain enlightenment. By shedding the skin of ancient beliefs and knowledge, the soul becomes more attuned to the ways of life and the universe.

Steps you can take to address your Dark Soul Night problems:
Work on the recurring behavioral patterns that you maintain in your life.
Focus on the lessons your pain brings to your attention.
When the outside world stops making any sense, step inside and learn your inner truth.
Think about your journey so far and realize what you want from the future.
Know your authentic self and stop trying to fit in with others for validation.
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3. Desertion
   This can be one of the most damaging causes of emotional wounds. When a parent abandons their child or fails to provide them with a secure life, far-reaching damage is done to the child’s vulnerable psyche. The absence of the parent and lack of care causes the child to grow up with a host of emotional problems.

As adults, these children may become withdrawn or develop a fear of loneliness. They are likely to become emotionally dependent and insecure by nature. People with abandonment issues have been known to quit projects and dump their partners the most. Their constant fear of being left out in the cold drives them to act this way.

Steps you can take to address abandonment issues:

Understand your fears and don’t project them onto others.
Set healthy boundaries in all of your relationships.
Prioritize self-care and take better care of yourself.
Seek therapy to address your trauma.

4. Rejection
   Rejection can come in many forms such as rejection by peers, by a partner, or by parents. No matter who the rejection comes from, it can have detrimental effects on our self-esteem and self-awareness. Especially when a child experiences rejection from their primary caregiver, instead of unconditional love and acceptance, it opens a hole in their little heart.

Even after growing up, such a child will think of himself as unworthy and unworthy of love. A person with rejection issues will always belittle their accomplishments and live in isolation, afraid to open up to others.

Steps you can take toward handling rejection issues:

Face your inner fears and anxious thoughts.
Take more opportunities to showcase your talents.
Be firm.

Work on letting go of your fears and doing the things that make you happy.
Don’t tie your self-worth to the esteem of others.

5. Injustice
   When we are exposed to an unfair environment in our childhood, our idea of ​​right and wrong becomes tainted. Growing up with an authoritarian parent or witnessing nepotism in school can affect our sense of justice. As a result, some of us can become very strict in our approach and set very high standards for ourselves as well as for others.

People who have this emotional baggage tend to become rule stickers and expect the same level of perfection and sincerity from others in all areas of life. As a result, they come across as obnoxious and don’t have many friends.

Steps you can take towards addressing injustice issues:

Identify your trust issues.
Reduce your stiffness and be more flexible.
Lower your high expectations.
Open up more and take chances with people.
Accept others without judgment.

6. Violence

Children who grow up in toxic family often witness violence between their parents or experience violence as a form of disciplinary action. Needless to say, such an unhealthy experience distorts and destabilizes the child’s mind and begins to internalize the violent pattern.

As a result, even after maturity, a child with this bad behavioral reference will repeat this abusive cycle in their adult life. They either become aggressive or violent with their partners or attract abusive lovers.

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Steps you can take towards addressing violence problems:

Seek treatment or consult a mental health professional.
Recognize the need for effective anger management.
Improve your self-image and make healthy choices while choosing your romantic partners.
Identify the reasons why you are perpetuating the toxic cycle of abuse.

7. Humiliation
   When people are systematically humiliated, they begin to develop low self-esteem and anxiety. Whether it is being bullied at school or being mistreated for expressing an opinion at home, being humiliated for days on end can destroy our self-confidence and well-being and make us mentally dependent on others.

People who have been humiliated for a long time either lose their ambition or become authoritarian as a defense mechanism. They may choose to humiliate others to protect their feelings.

Steps you can take towards addressing humiliation issues:

Be more independent.
Work on your life priorities.
Express yourself more.
Know where your fears begin.
Be nice to others and stop putting them away.

8. Treason
   When parents often go back on their words or do not keep their promises, children begin to develop a habit of mistrust or fear of trusting others. Children who realize that they cannot rely on their caregivers tend to become suspicious and suspicious of everyone.

Adults who have experienced betrayal sometimes feel they need some form of control or leverage over others. This belief makes them the suspicious and controlling type.

Steps you can take toward dealing with infidelity issues:

Learn to trust others.
Delegate responsibilities at work.
Improve your patience level.
Be more tolerant of others.
ends with you
Even though you had little control over the situations that led to your emotional wounds, you can always take your power back. What happened to you is not your identity nor should it become your future. You are the writer of your own story. Don’t let your emotional wounds fester and infect the next generation.