During your relationship with a narcissist, you slept with your enemy for weeks, months, or even years. You thought you meant as much to them as they meant to you.
How much of that is left?
Nothing, not much, just an illusion, a nightmare. You never meant anything to the narcissist, and when you reach this point of understanding what you went through, you feel conflicted about them.
The narcissist is nothing to you anymore except a painful memory. Maybe you hate them, maybe you want revenge or justice. You thought you had similar goals and dreams, that you were working together for a better future, that you would grow old together, because you didn’t plan to change your partner the way the narcissist does.
During the “love bombardment” phase, the narcissist presented you with all your expectations on a silver platter. You gained complete confidence that the relationship would be wonderful. Soon after, life-changing moments arrived for everyone: living together, engagement, marriage, having children. You never expected that all this beauty would begin to unravel, precisely when your dream was about to come true, when your relationship was about to enter a new phase. You firmly believed that you would spend the rest of your lives together, but unfortunately, you were deceived in the most horrific way imaginable.
Unfortunately, from the moment you met the narcissist until the moment you discovered his personality disorder, and even then, and perhaps for much longer, you were constantly being deceived in a premeditated manner.
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Throughout this time, you were living with your enemy. It’s hard to believe, but sadly, it’s true. It’s difficult to comprehend that someone could be so broken that they could lie to everyone all day, all their life, without any remorse, sense of responsibility, or consequences.
The narcissist is incapable of feeling what we feel; it’s even difficult to imagine it. You loved someone who didn’t wish you well, but rather wanted to exploit and destroy you.
The narcissist wanted you to never be the same again. They wanted to steal what’s most precious to you. They wanted you to never be able to give anything to anyone. They wanted you to remain worthless, lying in the dustbin of history, rotting in that bleak place for as long as possible.
The narcissist wears masks; they have two faces, one for you and one for others. They are hypocrites, liars, two-faced, pretending to be someone else just to survive.
The narcissist is a hateful parasite who drains your energy and resources. You gave your all to the narcissist, believing you would be together through thick and thin. You believed in principles the narcissist also wanted to destroy. They wanted you to stop believing in love, trust, kindness, respect, and everything that matters to ordinary people.
A narcissist’s life plan is simple, consisting of several points that form an endless vicious cycle. The narcissist is always searching for another source of sustenance, oblivious to everything else. They exploit this person for as long as possible, and as soon as they tire of it, they move on to another. Once they hear the other person object, or when their resources run out, or their needs change, they might occasionally be exposed, but they always have a backup plan, and often a third plan in addition to a fourth.
The narcissist never truly cared about you. What appeared to be care was nothing but deception designed to ensnare you in a web of lies, gain your trust, and create a one-sided relationship for their own benefit.
It’s difficult to understand how someone you’re intimately involved with, or living with, could want to destroy you.
Is this what an enemy or a friend does? They betray you, lie to you, exploit you, manipulate you, cheat you, defame you, ignore you, and so on.
Day after day, minute after minute, the narcissist moves on to another victim, no longer caring about you because he’s preoccupied with someone else. Now, there’s someone sleeping with his enemy, unaware of what awaits her. To the narcissist, you’re just one flower among many in a meadow; there are always vast expanses of other flowers he can fly to. The narcissist also believes he can always return to the same place.
The narcissist is evil in its ugliest form, and he comes to you disguised as good. The narcissist was your enemy from the beginning, the enemy of every decent human being. How many times have you tried to talk to a narcissist? To resolve the problem, to repair your relationship, but unfortunately, to no avail, without any compromise. It’s impossible to reach an agreement with a narcissist. You’ve done everything you can, but the result has been a decline in your health and financial situation.
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You thought there was something wrong with you, and you often heard it and believed it. Under the guise of a relationship, the narcissist lives a parasitic, hostile, and treacherous life. Beneath a mask of perfection lurks an enemy, a monster, a coward, a vile criminal who escapes punishment.
You’ve been deceived all this time until you made a shocking discovery. You discovered he’s a narcissist, and the truth dawned on you. All this time, you were in a relationship with an enemy, an enemy who wanted to destroy you completely, who wanted you to never recover from what he did to you, so you couldn’t escape this vicious cycle.
