One day you wake up and you feel different.
The pain you felt burning your soul is no longer present. The panic you feel when you wake up to a new day is gone. You no longer wonder what it will bring; you feel an inner peace that makes you enjoy it.
The healing has already begun—and you are beginning to notice more and more signs that you are fully overcoming your narcissistic experience.
What a wonderful place!
There are so many ways to know you are in recovery, and it would be rude not to share them all with you!
Healing—A Place You All Wish You Were
And I know for a fact that all of you want to end up on the other side of your healing journey.
For that to be possible, there must be action on your part. Healing doesn’t happen by itself. To begin, you have to want it. And to want it, you have to know what you are healing from.
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- Stop Posting to Them
We’ve all grown to love and use social media. Most of us post whatever we want: photos, videos, thoughts, places we’ve been, funny pictures—whatever we want.
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When that person is on your friends list, everything can become about them.
I’ll give you an example.
Several years ago, I had a client who publicly admitted to posting songs just for the narcissist to see.
They were songs she knew the narcissist loved, songs they might listen to and sing along to. In those moments, she said she felt truly connected to them. She wished it was always like this, but it was intermittent.
So she would post them, almost as a reminder, and tag him in the song’s video.
She was doing this to try to maintain that feeling she had when they were together, but it was impossible.
If anyone posts to the narcissist, I personally ask you:
Stop.
If this is something you did in the past and no longer do (hopefully, they never have access to your profile), it’s a sure sign that you’re healing from all that abuse.
You’re no longer the people-pleaser you once were.
- Reduce Overthinking
Remember the days when you would sit and think until you thought your head would fall off?
Remember when a single thought would turn into a snowball of potential disasters looming like a dark, raging Category 5 hurricane?
When you notice those thoughts gradually fading, until you’re generally well-controlled—you’re on the road to recovery.
Narcissists make their victims overthink.
Why are they in a bad mood?
Did I upset them?
What did I say?
How did I upset them? What do they think of me?
They think I’m bad.
I must be bad.
No one likes me.
I think people just tolerate me.
What’s the point?
I am unlovable.
All this for what?
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The seed of doubt is planted in victims when the narcissist tries to push them into the center of overthinking. It’s a whirlpool of turbulent energy that you can’t escape, and it’s painful.
When you take time to reflect on these thoughts and realize they’re not serving you, you can reclaim control of your mind.
Narcissists are responsible for the growth of our self-reinforcing negative biases.
Not only is overthinking the answer, but so is indulging in it.
Healing prevents that.
- Dreams Fading
Maybe you’re still here or know exactly what I’m talking about.
Dreams.
Aren’t they so vivid?
You wake up feeling like a different person simply because you saw the narcissist in your sleep.
She was nice.
She was nasty.
They gave you everything you wanted.
They ignored you.
Whatever it was, it’s normal.
Think about what your mind is trying to process. Over time, it will. But you have to be patient and know that these things will happen less often.
- Your Nervous System Adapts!
Wow, how long this takes!
Your nervous system is programmed to respond to trauma, fear, grief, anxiety, and the actions of a toxic person, however long it takes.
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Time, therapy, and self-awareness will combine to allow your nervous system to heal itself.
When you notice this happening, you’re truly approaching a certain point where someone can say their name without your heart pounding and you breaking out into a sweat.
- “Apathy” – What a wonderful place to be!
Doesn’t it feel good not to care about the narcissist?
Getting there means you’ve done a lot of healing and acknowledged a lot of things as true.
It’s a wonderful place to be!
- Learn a Lesson
Lessons are hard to learn, and people keep making mistakes until they’re fully internalized and recorded.
Unfortunately, being involved with a narcissist is difficult, but necessary.
You can feel a great sense of satisfaction knowing you’ve “got the shirt” and are now able to stand as a survivor of narcissistic abuse and thrive in a new dawn.
- Moving On Becomes Something You Allow
The only person who’s ever held you back from moving on in life is you. Sure, they’d love to take credit for keeping you with them, but they don’t get it.
How you do that isn’t up to you. Live life as you see fit, and you’ll know you’re healing.
Don’t wait for others to see you before you see yourself.
- Stay Away from Connected People
Stay away from annoying people!
It’s wonderful to no longer feel compelled to connect with people the narcissist approaches just out of kindness, or out of habit.
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A clean slate really means a clean slate when it comes to healing.
It’s time, isn’t it?
- It’s none of your business anymore
And who cares!
Are they posting silly sunset pictures?
So what!
Did you hear they got a new job?
Whoa!
You’re your priority now, and you finally understand and practice it every day of your life.
It’s time!
- Inner Change
That’s a real shift in consciousness, isn’t it?
Suddenly, you’re less susceptible to the glamour.
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You’re stronger than you were.
You stand up for yourself without fear of what’s to come.
What happens inside you when you heal is irreversible.
Don’t think that won’t be you.
I don’t know where you are in your healing journey, but I do know one thing.
One day, you will be all of this. And if you’re starting today, I wish you the best.
I wouldn’t be writing this for thousands of readers if it were just you.
