“Personality is the effect of a relationship,” wrote Christopher Bollas, the brilliant post-Freudian psychoanalyst, in his ominously titled but hopeful book, The Shadow of the Object. What he meant was that we all develop in context, collecting bits and pieces…
It is a difficult journey of anxiety, longing and acceptance for a narcissistic child. There is intense emotional pain. Hope desires more from the abandoned narcissist. And ultimately, the harsh acceptance and reality of narcissistic personality disorder. The narcissist is…
It’s hard to break up with someone, but when it’s with a narcissist? You must have a plan ready otherwise things could go very wrong. You see, narcissists like to be in control, expect admiration from you while giving nothing…
Everyone seems to consider themselves therapists these days, handing out accusations of narcissism left and right. It also seems that anyone who is perceived as toxic, manipulative, or exhibits negative behaviors is thrown into the pool of undiagnosed malignant narcissism…
You want to produce your best work, be part of something meaningful, enjoy your colleagues, and achieve your career aspirations. Unfortunately, your workplace may not be conducive to this. One of the most important factors that affects your job happiness…
Attraction between people is such a mystery. It involves a combination of factors such as biochemistry, culture, senses, thought and timing. If I had to put it all in one word, I would choose “familiarity.” We gravitate toward what feels…
Were you raised by narcissists? Growing up with a parent with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) — a disorder in which a person has an exaggerated sense of self-importance, likely derived from genetic and environmental factors, and is more common in…
The fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) lists exactly the same nine criteria for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as the previous edition, published 19 years earlier, did. So these ancient diagnostic scales are now…
We’ve all been forewarned about romantic vampires—the predators that suck the life out of us. However, no matter how hard we try, sometimes it comes unexpectedly and we need to find a way to rid ourselves of negative energy. So,…
Simply identifying your problematic relationship habits is a monumental task in itself, so don’t expect it to happen overnight. Breaking your toxic habits will take hard work because you won’t notice they’re there until you encounter the same issues with…
