Are you ready to change your life?

I can’t hear you from behind!

If you wait for the narcissist to lose his mind, I guarantee you it will drive him crazy.

And it’s time, isn’t it? You’ve counted the hours, and you’re ready to watch him collapse the way he’s made you collapse all this time.

You need one sentence!

Say This Once – And Watch His Mask Fall

The narcissist’s mask is a huge topic in itself.

Let’s start with your first encounter with him. That mask is what you see at first, right? The problem is, you don’t know it’s a mask until it’s too late.

Related : 10 Secrets a Narcissist Will Never Admit to You

All that time and emotion you devote to him will give way to all the missteps you witness. Excuses will be made for him, and the abuse will hide under your angry eyes. When it’s time to take off the mask, there’s no doubt that this is the phrase that will set the fuse in motion.

I personally believe this phrase is also the catalyst for your complete breakup with the narcissist. It feels like there’s no going back.

Hit Them Where It Hurts – Without Raising Your Voice

I would never encourage anyone to raise their voice, and I mean that specifically on this occasion.

Narcissists always assume that raising their voice brings great power. But what usually happens with raising their voice is a level of disorganization.

It feels like you’re out of control, and the narcissist loves it when you’re in this position. It means they can get you where they want you without any significant control from you.

A low voice gives you a powerful sense of control—and that’s new to narcissists. So, hit the narcissist hard, and keep your tone intact. It shows you’re in control.

Show them a version of yourself you can transform into without the narcissist’s resistance holding you back.

The_Vertical_Line…

When you know you’re fed up with the narcissist’s treatment of you, you can start changing your perception of their treatment of you.

Related : Red Flags: What Narcissists Say at the Start

All the vertical lines in the world can’t be as powerful as reclaiming your power in real time, so the one you need is:

I no longer need your validation to know my worth.

Wow! That was so powerful, wasn’t it?

Your constant validation isn’t what you need to fully know and appreciate yourself.

It’s striking because it tells the narcissist that you don’t need them as much as you thought. It tells them that something has changed inside you, and that you now feel free.

And they can laugh all they want—they might even try.

This doesn’t mean you have to take back what you said.

It means they’re terrified by what you said because, deep down, they know they’re not just losing you, they’ve already lost you.

So all this time, you’ve been looking to them as a solution to all your problems, or as a human sanction from you…

Now you’ve regained your independence of thought and action.

One_line_says: “You’re no longer mine.”

This is where many victims come to their senses:

I no longer need you to help me grow.

Actually, it’s deeper than that. After all, did the narcissist really help you grow?

They didn’t. They just suppressed your feelings and made you feel powerless and insignificant.

Without a nod from them, you couldn’t move forward. You had to turn to them for answers that would help you know you were doing the right thing.

Related : Narcissist Hobbies that are Instant Red Flags

But somehow—it was never the right thing, was it? Because no matter what you did, the narcissist always made you feel bad.

That’s how you know you’re stuck in this vicious cycle you want to break out of.

I remember a client of mine many years ago telling me that whenever she did something, she would text her father.

She’d get a good grade, and she’d run to him first. She’d serve cold water to delivery drivers on hot days.

She’d cook and serve dinner like a professional chef, and send him pictures.

She was fixing the toilet lid and had to tell him about it. This was a common occurrence, almost daily. She thought she was celebrating a good deed and sharing it with her father, but it wasn’t.

This was a constant quest for the approval of a man she knew she would never receive. He didn’t even respond 85% of the time.

What was she doing? She was trying to find her value in someone who was never willing to give it.

A huge mistake, but I’m happy to tell her that she’s healed from this and stopped doing it altogether.

So her father lost his mind, and after a while they separated, as those dynamics permanently shifted.

Fear: It’s Real

It may not be as present as it is with you or me, but that doesn’t mean the narcissist doesn’t feel or experience fear.

It’s their worst nightmare to lose to you. Life is a big game, and the players are the players—like it or not.

Because this is the case, part of this game is making sure you turn to them for every kind of validation you need. They will then choose whether to give it to you or not. What a painful way to live, but I understand why victims do it.

Related : The 7 Desperate Moves Narcissists Make When Relationships End

They grew up in an environment where they were neglected in some way. So every time they did something good, they wanted the neglects to hear that they did something good, to know they were still valuable.

Carry this on into adulthood, and you’ll only find a huge pile of unresolved trauma inside you.

You look for someone with the same power over you to repeat the pattern over and over again—not because you love them—but because you don’t know any better.

The narcissist comes in—their role in life is to assert their power over people.

And when that power is taken away from them by your most powerful statement, they fear what comes next.

This doesn’t mean you leave the dynamics as they always were.

Clearly, this game shouldn’t be played, and if it drags on, it will be too late.

So seize it. Take your value with you, and water it yourself every day.