One of the most important characteristics of narcissists is an exaggerated sense of entitlement. They feel they deserve things that others don’t have, for no reason other than that they are them.

The narcissist may not have done anything to deserve this entitlement. Nor would they give it to them if the roles were reversed. But in their deluded mind, they deserve special treatment. That’s all there is to it.

A narcissist’s sense of entitlement drives many of their behaviors. This is one explanation for their outbursts for no apparent reason. They may become filled with anger when they are not given a place of honor. There are many subtle and unusual things that narcissists perceive as disrespect.

Recognizing narcissists’ sense of entitlement helps you understand them and predict their behavior. Here are some of the things narcissists typically feel they deserve…

Narcissists Feel They Entitled Special Treatment

When a narcissist goes somewhere, like a restaurant, they expect superior service levels. Anything less may be met with hostility.

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The narcissist inherently feels superior to their “hired servants,” as well as to other guests. They expect to be recognized for their superiority by going above and beyond the call of duty.

The narcissist doesn’t care that not all customers are treated as they request, because they are not “ordinary” customers. They are special. Everyone should recognize this.

This arrogant mindset leads to unrealistic demands and unreasonable behavior if these demands are not met. This is why narcissists often explode in anger over trivial issues and make a big deal out of things we consider trivial.

At home, the narcissist may expect to have precedence over everyone. Something as simple as handing a cup of tea to someone in front of them can set them off.

This may manifest as sudden, “unjustified” anger. Or, if they suppress their anger, they may punish you later, even if you have no idea what you did wrong, or even that you made a mistake.

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Narcissists feel they deserve to be taken advantage of. They often follow the mantra, “The world is too cruel.”

Narcissists feel that if someone can be taken advantage of, they deserve it. They justify this by considering themselves doing them a favor, because they learned the hard way.

However, narcissists don’t hold onto this energy when they’re being taken advantage of. They’re the first to scream and kick when someone takes advantage of them. This is because they believe this entitlement only works in one direction.

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If a narcissist is outspoken, they may feel they deserve to be the center of attention. All the time. No matter how many people are around them, or what’s going on.

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A narcissist may speak loudly and constantly, trying to get attention, even if someone else deserves more time. They don’t realize that others want to be heard. They may want to listen to someone else for a change.

If a narcissist doesn’t receive attention, they may exaggerate and cause problems. For most narcissists, negative attention is better than none at all.

Narcissists often cause a stir at other people’s celebrations because they can’t stand others being in the spotlight. It’s their right, so they seize it by any means possible.

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Narcissists often feel entitled to be in control and to direct people as they see fit, regardless of their worthiness.

Narcissists love the power that comes with leadership. But they often turn their backs on the responsibility that comes with it. They are only entitled to appearances.

Narcissists believe they are the arbiters of right and wrong. What they say goes, no matter how selfish and outlandish it may seem.

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If you’re close to a narcissist, they may feel entitled to your time, whenever they want it.

As you probably know, most narcissists hate being alone because they don’t have anyone to hold them steady and prevent them from delving into the dark depths of their minds.

Therefore, they feel it’s the responsibility of others in their lives to provide them with company whenever they need it. In their view, it doesn’t matter if you’re tired, busy, or unavailable. They expect you to drop everything when they want your time.

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This is why narcissists are often pushy when it comes to getting out and may not accept rejection. They deserve your time, and they feel insulted when you don’t give it to them.

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If you’re close to a narcissist, they likely feel entitled to your money and possessions. They may even take them without asking. Because, in their view, what’s yours is theirs.

However, this sense of entitlement doesn’t waver between the two parties. The narcissist isn’t happy about you taking their possessions. But they seem completely oblivious to the hypocrisy of this.

Narcissists Feel Entitled to Promotions at Work

Narcissists often feel entitled to promotions at work, even when there are more qualified and deserving colleagues.

Narcissists feel that top jobs are theirs, no matter how good they are at their job. So, if they don’t get them, it’s as if someone stole them.

They may bully the person who “took their job,” criticize minor “mistakes,” and generally make their lives hell.

Narcissists may also cause problems with their bosses because they don’t recognize their brilliance and make life difficult for everyone in the workplace.

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I’ve even seen narcissists make a fuss about not getting a promotion they never applied for. They believe everyone should beg them to accept it because they’re so competent.

Conclusion

Narcissists believe that normal rules don’t apply to them. They’re entitled to the best treatment and all opportunities, even if they haven’t done anything to deserve it.

They also feel entitled to take whatever they want from their loved ones, whether it’s their time, money, or possessions.

Narcissists are so self-absorbed that they don’t see how biased they are and how impossible it is for their entitlements to apply in the real world.

So they make a fuss when they don’t get the treatment they feel they deserve, even if it’s practically impossible or unreasonable to expect. This is another reason why dealing with narcissists is difficult.