All relationships have the potential to drive us absolutely crazy. It’s one of those wonderful side effects of falling in love.
Although it is normal to go crazy from time to time, if the crazy is constant, then something is very wrong.
This is usually a sign that at least one partner has a personality disorder, such as narcissism.
We like to use the word narcissist to describe our exes and bad bosses, but the reality of it is much more cruel and dangerous than someone acting like an idiot.
Narcissists can make you doubt everything you think you know about yourself, which in turn makes you feel completely crazy.
Being with someone who thrives on power and control can put you in a very vulnerable place.
People with this type of personality disorder rub off on your self-confidence as a way to make you feel like you need to be okay. Which makes it even more difficult to want to leave.
And once you realize what they are doing to you, and try to make light of their behavior, they can suddenly turn the tables and make you feel like it was all your fault.
Here’s a quick example. On his phone, you see the same girl’s name appears on his Snapchat account.
You confront him about this and tell him that you think he is cheating on you or at least crossing the line.
He gets angry/sad/whatever feelings he knows you’re triggering, and accuses you of snooping because you feel insecure about yourself or the relationship.
Suddenly you are the one crying and apologizing even though you did nothing wrong.
It’s manipulative behavior at its best.
If you are experiencing this type of personality disorder in your relationship, you need to leave. Get out. Stay away. Don’t look back.
