Love bombing is like the best night of your life followed by the worst hangover you’ve ever had.
You go from feeling ecstatic and in love and bliss to hugging the toilet and regretting that you got that drunk.
The problem with love bombing is that it’s not always easy to notice that it’s happening. If you are with a love bomber, they make you feel so happy and wanted that you might think they are in love with you.
But if you pay close attention to the following signs, you will see extremely affectionate, exaggerated behavior designed to manipulate and control you: This is called love bombing.
1) They push you away and make you feel extremely desirable
The first and most severe symptom of love bombing is how desired you feel.
Cults are known to engage in love bombing, recruiting new members by making them feel completely accepted, loved and appreciated.
A partner who bombards you with love does the same thing, ignoring your flaws and emphasizing every positive aspect of you. He or she will praise your beauty, intelligence, intelligence, and talents.
A love bomber will make you feel like the most special person on the planet, like they (and only they) truly see you because of the deep value and potential you possess.
2) They buy you thoughtful gifts and compliment you often
Along with constant appreciation and affection, a love-bombing partner will buy you thoughtful presents and gifts.
He or she will make sure to think a lot about these things and offer you things that you actually like or that indicate a relationship between the two of you.
This includes them remembering things like the day you met, remembering that you like white chocolate or any other little details you may have mentioned.
All of this increases the impression that you are very special to this person, and also increases your feeling of being deeply appreciated and loved.
Who doesn’t like that, right?
Well, the problem with love bombers is that they use the rush of affection to get a hold of you and then manipulate you, walk on you, and often leave you without warning…
3) They text and call you all the time, attracting a lot of your attention
The love bomber is very attentive.
Your phone will ring and ring everywhere with cute pictures, funny jokes and thoughtful messages.
You’ll feel warm inside seeing a “Good Morning Beautiful” message with a sun emoji, and you’ll laugh when they compliment your looks or joke about their job.
Every interaction seems amplified, and everything they say seems funnier and more charming than it actually is. Without realizing it, you are mirroring their intense focus on you and responding in kind.
It starts to consume your time and attention, but you don’t mind. In fact, you start craving those strikes and calls.
4) They are very polite and treat you like royalty
If you want to open doors for you and serve you coffee in bed, the Love Bomber becomes your new god.
This person will treat you like the absolute bee’s knees.
Everything you do seems to please them, and even when you’re average or entitled, they don’t seem to mind.
They are always there, taking care of you and checking if you are okay.
5) You’ve never seen their “bad” side in any way and they seem too good to be true
When something or someone seems too good to be true, it usually is.
I wish I didn’t have to write this, but painful life experiences have taught me that this is almost always the case.
This is largely the case with love bombers, who rarely show their bad side. You may even try to argue with them, but they are very agreeable and understand that it is basically impossible.
They are by your side and support you in every way.
What interest? Have you finally found someone who truly appreciates you?
6) They build you up to feel so incredible that you let your guard down
A love bomber’s goal is often to break down your defenses and “win you over.”
They conquer hearts and seduce through oversized affection.
This is their way of getting what they want and knowing that you love and need them.
“At first, you may feel safe, secure, and impulsive because grand gestures boost self-esteem and make you feel important and wanted.”
However, once the person committing the love crime gets what he wants, the picture becomes much less rosy.
They tend to go into avoidance and withdrawal mode or start showing their shadow side in a very toxic way.
7) They promise you the moon and talk openly about your future together
The future does not scare the love bomber.
Your partner will likely be excited to talk to you about the future, making promises and painting a beautiful picture of what it will be like.
They are selling you on a future dream for both of you that poisons your soul.
You can’t stop thinking about it and you actually start to feel more and more committed because of this person’s openness to the future.
8) They never ignore you and always seem to be there when you need them
A love bomber is defined by his availability.
When they are in the loving phase, they are always there for you and never far away.
They want you to know that they care about you and that they are willing to come over if you are in trouble or even just need someone to talk to.
This can be a big change if you’re used to avoidant or emotionally unavailable partners.
But the bad news is that love breakers are rarely consistent and eventually fall away from that kind of reliability.
9) They prefer to spend time just one-on-one and say it’s because they feel strongly about you
The other part of the love bomber’s recipe is that they would rather see you face to face.
When you invite them out in groups, they usually turn you down, and are not inclined to introduce you to their friends or family.
They want to keep it just the two of you, which can seem romantic in the right setting.
But this is also a way to control the temperature and make sure you don’t get distracted and don’t break their spell.
10) They constantly tell you how much they love you and how you changed their lives for the better
A love bomber is very expressive and will make you feel appreciated.
This includes their many love professions and how happy they are to find you.
You will feel like royalty as I mentioned earlier, as if you had fallen from heaven and suddenly your blessed light was shining on this person’s existence.
You will definitely feel that this is true love, especially if they have a strong reaction.
They tell you how much they love you all the time and how much you’ve changed their lives, how can you doubt that? Why do they lie?
Separating love bombing from love
Love bombing is similar to love, but it is not the same.
Both involve strong bonding, expressions of affection, trust and commitment.
But love bombing is next level, and it often feels like it comes out of the blue as if you were suddenly chosen to win the lottery.
