It can be difficult to notice the signs that someone cares about you and wants what’s best for you, especially in romantic relationships. We’re often so blinded by the idea that someone wants to be with us that we can miss some red flags, but a woman named Jenny Thomas shared the best phrase you can say to someone to truly learn whether or not they love you.
Thomas said to watch your partner’s reaction after telling them they hurt you.
“I’ll tell you now. Do you want to know if someone loves you? Tell them they hurt you,” Thomas told viewers at the beginning of her video. “If this person isn’t in tune with you and loving you to the level you need to be loved, they won’t connect with that pain.”
Thomas explained that if you tell your partner that he has hurt you and he shows a demeaning attitude or has a hard-on behavior toward you, he doesn’t actually love you and isn’t invested in you or the relationship.
“A person who truly loves you and invests in you, that means time, that means length, that means future, that means distance. If they invest in you, they’re worried about what they’re going to do to you and they’re going to do it.” “You worry about how you feel,” Thomas said.
You admitted that someone who cares about your well-being always wants to see you happy and smiling, and if you’re not, they’ll do everything they can to remedy that, especially if it’s their fault.
“A person who is not invested in you will turn away from the project, and will be angry with you because you told them something they did wrong,” she explained.
If someone loves you, they want to connect with you spiritually and physically, and they want to do the things you love. If someone rejects your interests and is aggravated by your presence instead of wanting to be around you, they are not invested in the relationship, or you.
