There’s a big misconception about strong marriages. Many people think it’s all about grand gestures and romantic surprises. But let me tell you this—you’ll likely find the strength of your marriage in the everyday moments and subtle signs that show you’re a team.
If you can relate to these 10 signs I’m about to share with you, your marriage is likely stronger than you think.
As the founder of Love Connection and a relationship expert, I’ve seen it all. I know that every relationship has its unique nuances and complexities.
So, with my years of experience, let me walk you through these signs. They’re not about expensive trips or expensive gifts, but rather the small, consistent actions that build a strong, resilient marriage.
And remember, not every sign has to be a part of your daily life. Every couple is different. But if you can relate to most of them, well… your marriage might be rock solid without you even realizing it.
1) Smooth Communication
Communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. But in marriage, it goes beyond just talking about your day. It’s about being able to discuss anything, from your deepest fears to your wildest dreams, to the most mundane details of your life.
When you can tell your partner that you’re scared, excited, or nervous without fear of judgment or rejection. When you can discuss sensitive topics like finances or family issues without it turning into a heated argument.
Does this sound familiar? If so, you’re on the right track. This level of open, honest communication indicates a deep level of trust and understanding—two essential components of a strong marriage.
Remember, smooth communication doesn’t mean that you never fight. It means that you’re able to resolve disagreements in a respectful way, where both parties feel heard and understood. If this is your norm, your marriage is stronger than you might think.
2) Comfortable Silence
This may seem a little counterintuitive. After all, I just talked about the importance of communication, right? But hear me out.
In a strong marriage, you don’t always have to fill the silence. There’s a level of comfort in just being in each other’s presence without having to constantly chatter.
Let me paint a picture. You’re sitting in your living room, immersed in your books or hobbies, with no conversation going on. Yet there’s no awkwardness or tension. On the contrary, there’s a sense of calm and contentment.
This sign of comfortable silence shows that you’re secure in your relationship. You don’t feel the need to keep up the constant chatter to validate your connection. Instead, you appreciate the quiet moments when you can just be together quietly.
If this resonates with you, give yourself credit. It’s a clear sign that your marriage is stronger than you realize.
3) Healthy Independence
Independence in marriage? Yes, you heard that right.
One of the most important indicators of a strong marriage is the ability of each partner to maintain their individuality while still being part of a team. This means that you have your interests, hobbies, and friends outside of the relationship, and that’s perfectly normal.
I cover this in detail in my book, Breaking the Attachment: How to Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s all about finding the right balance between connectedness and individuality.
If you’re able to pursue your passions and interests without feeling guilty or facing resentment from your partner, you’re doing something right. Likewise, if you’re supportive of your partner’s pursuits, that’s another point in your favor.
So if you find yourself agreeing with this, that’s another great sign. Your marriage is not only strong; it’s healthy and balanced, too.
4) Shared Laughter
There’s a great quote by Audrey Hepburn that says, “I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think laughter is the thing I love most of all. It cures a lot of diseases. I couldn’t agree more.”
Shared laughter is a powerful bonding factor in any relationship, especially in a marriage. It’s not just about cracking jokes or watching funny movies together, although that certainly helps. It’s about finding humor in everyday situations and sometimes, even in the face of adversity.
Do you and your partner often find yourself laughing together at silly things? Maybe it’s an inside joke that only you two get, or maybe it’s just the way you both find humor in life’s absurdities.
If laughter is a shared element in your relationship, you’re doing more than just strengthening your marriage. You’re also creating a reservoir of joy and positivity that can help you get through tough times.
So give yourself some credit; your marriage is stronger than you might think!
5) Mutual Respect
The spice that makes any relationship, let alone a marriage, delicious is mutual respect. It’s one of those things that seems obvious, but you’d be surprised how many couples ignore it.
In my years as a relationship expert, I’ve learned that respect doesn’t just mean treating your partner well. It’s about appreciating them for who they are—their thoughts, feelings, desires, and even their quirks.
Do you value your partner’s opinions even when they differ from yours? Do you value their dreams and aspirations as much as you value your own? Do you respect their boundaries and give them space when needed?
If your answer is a resounding “yes,” take a moment to celebrate. You’re nurturing one of the most important aspects of a healthy, strong marriage—respect. That, my dear readers, is no small feat.
6) Shared Values
You and your partner may come from different backgrounds, have different personalities, and even have distinct interests. But what keeps you together are shared values—the core beliefs and principles that you agree on.
These values can be about anything—your views on family, finances, lifestyle, or personal growth. When you share the same core values, navigating life becomes a shared project, not a tug of war.
Now, if you’re sitting there thinking, “That sounds like us!” let me assure you—your marriage is stronger than most.
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7) Weathering Storms Together
Let’s be real for a moment. Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. It throws curveballs, and sometimes they hit hard. But what truly shows the strength of your marriage is how you weather these storms together.
That’s when things go wrong, and instead of pointing fingers or splitting up, you come together and work as a team. You support each other, share the burden, and face the challenge together.
Maybe it’s a financial crisis, a health issue, or a family problem. It could be a personal struggle with stress or anxiety. If you’ve weathered these storms together and come out stronger, that’s a testament to the strength of your bond.
Remember, it’s easy to love when everything is perfect. But if you can love and support each other when things are far from perfect, then your marriage is stronger than you realize.
Embracing Your Strengths
As we wrap up our exploration of the signs of a strong marriage, it’s important to take a moment to appreciate the journey. Recognizing these signs in your relationship not only confirms your strength as a couple but also gives you a glimpse into the deep-rooted love and companionship you share.
