Finding your soulmate isn’t always a walk in the park. It can be a journey filled with joy, heartache, and a whole lot of self-discovery.
As the founder of Love Connection and a relationship expert, I’ve seen it all. And I’ve identified 7 behaviors that indicate you’ve finally found “the one.”
These behaviors aren’t about grand gestures or Hollywood romance. They’re about the little things, those everyday interactions that build a strong, lasting love.
So, let’s dive in.
1) They Respect Your Boundaries
Respect is the cornerstone of any relationship, and when it comes to your partner, it’s non-negotiable.
And that respect isn’t just about the big things like respecting your time or career choices. It extends to the smaller things, too—respecting your personal space, your alone time, and even your choice of pizza toppings!
Someone who respects your boundaries understands you as an individual. They understand that you’re two different people with different needs and desires. They’re not trying to control or change you—they appreciate you for who you are.
2) They Listen
Let’s talk about the art of listening. It’s an often underrated skill, but it’s one of the greatest signs of a strong, healthy relationship.
I remember there was a time when I felt like I was talking to a brick wall with the people I was dating. It was frustrating, to say the least.
But when I met my current husband, I realized what it truly meant to be heard and understood. His ability to listen without interrupting or trying to fix things made me feel appreciated and loved.
As the great Stephen R. Covey once said, “Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” If your partner listens with the intent to understand, it’s a sure sign that they’re the right fit for life.
Listening is more than just hearing words. It’s about showing empathy, understanding, and love.
3) They Support Your Personal Growth
One of the most beautiful things about a relationship is growing together. But it’s equally important to have space for personal growth.
I’ve been fortunate enough to have a partner who encourages my individuality and supports my dreams. For example, he was my biggest cheerleader when I was writing my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. His faith in me gave me the confidence to share my vision for how to build healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Your partner should also be your biggest admirer and most constructive critic. They should push you to be the best version of yourself, just as you push them. If you find that person, hold on to them; they are a rare gem!
4) They’re Not Afraid to Argue With You
Now, this may seem a bit unexpected on this list. After all, aren’t fights and arguments signs of a troubled relationship?
Well, not necessarily. Disagreements, when handled maturely, can be a healthy part of a relationship.
You see, two people won’t agree on everything. Disagreements will arise, and that’s perfectly normal. What matters is how you handle those disagreements.
Your partner won’t shy away from disagreements. Instead, they’ll be open to constructive discussions and arguments. They’ll value your opinion and be willing to find common ground.
It’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong; it’s about working through the problem together.
5) They See Your Imperfections and Love You Anyway
Let’s be real. We all have flaws. We all have quirks and traits that may not be the most attractive. But to the person who loves you, those imperfections aren’t a hindrance; they’re just part of what makes you you.
Your partner will see your flaws, your messy morning hair, your weird snore when you laugh too hard, or your stubbornness. And guess what? They’ll love you even more for them.
They won’t expect perfection from you because they understand that it doesn’t exist. Instead, they’ll embrace your flaws and love the imperfect person you are.
6) They’re Your Safe Haven
Being with your partner should feel like coming home. They should be your haven in the storm.
I’ve been through my fair share of turmoil, and in those times, my partner has been my rock. His arms have been my refuge and his words have been my comfort. It was in those moments that I realized he was “the one.”
If you also feel at peace and security with your partner even amid the chaos, you’ve found more than just a lover; you’ve found someone who could be your life partner.
7) They Fight for the Relationship
Every relationship has its ups and downs. There will be times of stress, disagreements, and even heartache. But your partner? They will fight with you through these storms.
They won’t walk away at the first sign of trouble. Instead, they’ll roll up their sleeves, stand by you, and work through the issues together.
They will understand that love isn’t just about the good times. It’s about sticking with each other even when things get tough.
Final Thoughts
Finding your soulmate is a journey, not a destination. Recognizing these behaviors and appreciating the person who consistently exhibits them is key.
Remember, no relationship is perfect. It’s about finding the one person who isn’t quite right for you.
If you recognize these behaviors in your partner, congratulations! You may have just found your soulmate. Cherish and appreciate them and continue to grow together.
And remember, if you need more guidance on building a healthy, fulfilling relationship, my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship is always here to help.
To a life filled with love and happiness!
