Being on the receiving end of a thoughtful man’s caring and attention is a sweet spot. It’s the complete opposite of minimal.
But how do you know if he’s thoughtful? What are the signs? Will it be obvious? Subtle? Will big red arrows be pointing to his thoughtful gestures?
Is it a one-time thing? A daily occurrence?
Let’s talk about that.
Specifically, the 11 subtle behaviors that a thoughtful man exhibits to an incredible degree.
1) Calm and steady consideration
A sign of a thoughtful man? He’s considerate. Constantly and without bells and whistles.
He just… does. Consideration is woven into his actions that you barely notice because it doesn’t change irregularly; it’s as natural to him as breathing.
Have you ever dated a guy who was great at first and the contrast was so obvious? Yep, not with this guy. He’s considerate from start to finish.
Even the seasons change more than he (at least in that regard).
2) He pays attention
A thoughtful man is a man who pays attention.
He doesn’t need to be reminded of what to do, he already knows. He’s already on the road. He’s proactive and anticipates.
He also pays attention to what people say and do, and verbal and nonverbal cues don’t escape his attention.
In a relationship, he pays attention to his partner’s preferences. He knows what to do and finds out what he hasn’t done yet. He knows the importance of getting information and making informed decisions based on that information.
3) He Takes His Time on Tasks
Does he take his time and still not delay others? Does he do his work carefully without annoying others with his speed?
He’s likely to be a thoughtful man.
He’s the type of person who puts 100% of his abilities into whatever he does. He’s the type who makes sure that what he delivers is what he can deliver.
He plans, strategizes, and executes those plans in the best way he knows how.
This doesn’t mean he’s infallible, it just means that he always does the best he can with what he’s given—and sometimes more.
This interest and intention is what sets him apart.
4) He’s Not Afraid to Ask Questions
A thoughtful man who isn’t afraid to ask questions? Sounds about right.
This man doesn’t take anything for granted. He understands that there’s always more to learn. He understands that there’s always more to learn.
He doesn’t mind being the one to ask the questions—which some of us may know can be difficult—even at the risk of sounding stupid.
He knows that’s not the case at all. Asking questions is clarifying, and admitting that you don’t know everything is not foolish. It’s very wise.
5) He’s Open to New Ideas
There are ideas to be unleashed, biases to be set aside, and prejudices to be let go of. These are not easy feats, and a thoughtful man understands this.
He’s still trying. He’s still allowing himself to learn outside of what he’s already doing. He’s allowing himself to venture into horizons that most people look at but never step into.
6) He is careful in making decisions
If he is careful about his tasks, he is even more careful in making decisions. A thoughtful man, after all, is a wise man.
The American Psychological Association defines wisdom as “a farsighted and deliberate concern for the consequences of one’s actions and decisions. It is a form of practical thinking and self-management that resists the urge to satisfy short-term pleasures at the expense of long-term goals.
He understands the gravity of his decisions and will not be so careless as to make a rash decision. He is rarely the impulsive type, taking the time to weigh the pros and cons.
7) He is tactful
He is thoughtful in a way that makes him considerate at all times. He never deliberately tries to be mean when he doesn’t need to be, but he will make sure that the truth always comes first.
8) He Gives the Best Gifts
Thoughtful people are the best gift-givers. They are the type who don’t give gifts just for the sake of giving them. Those who know what will make the best gifts.
A thoughtful man understands this. He will pay attention to your wants, your likes, your dislikes, and your desires. He will pay attention to your needs as well.
Even the things said in passing are not lost in the ether, but are Save for later.
9) He’s not selfish.
He is generous with his resources, including his time and energy. He doesn’t hand out that generosity, nor does he hand out his attention.
Where he’s needed, he’s there.
10) He Listens
He’s a man who won’t pretend not to understand what you mean. He understands the context, the reading between the lines, and all of that. He won’t lower himself to escape the responsibility of knowing (say “I” if you’re a personal victim of “I don’t understand what you mean”).
He understands. He gives everyone the respect they deserve.
11) He’s Present
Finally, he’s present. He’s in the moment. You have his full attention whenever you’re with him.
When he’s with you, you know you have his full attention.
No phones, no wandering attention, nothing superficial about him or the way he treats you.
In a relationship, if he says he’s totally into you, you’ll believe him because his actions show it. He’s present.
What do you think? Does this list sound familiar?
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