It doesn’t matter how many times someone tells you you’re in the wrong relationship…

You don’t understand until that moment. The light bulb goes on, and within seconds you clearly know you’re in the wrong relationship.

I want you to realize you’re in the wrong relationship, so you can get out of it and find the right one.

Here’s how.

IKNOW YOU WANT IT TO BE REAL

When something forces us to reconsider our relationship, you can’t undo it.

It’s a hard day to wake up to because all you want is for the two of you to work together.

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You want to love and be loved, and you want to care about someone as much as they care about you.

The desire for a relationship to be real and respectful is natural and part of our human nature, and narcissists really deliver all of that when you first meet them.

They seem to want it to be real, too. You believe them when they say they’ve never met anyone like you, and why wouldn’t you? Good people are good at it.

With time, there will come a moment when everything makes sense.

When you realize you’ve been living a lie.

When Time Flies

Victims of narcissistic abuse always regret the time they gave away to someone who turned out to be an abuser.

The lucky ones escape quickly, within weeks or months, but for the less fortunate, much more time is lost to the depths of life.

Time you can’t get back.

I still firmly believe that no matter how much time you waste, you can always save yourself and live the rest of your life without hurting.

Something good has to be said about that, right?

No one controls time. We can’t slow it down, nor can we speed it up. We can’t reclaim any part of it after it’s gone, nor can we predict what will happen in the future. #AdmittingItIsNotRight

It may happen in a moment, but once that moment passes, I assure you, what happens next will never be the same.

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When you admit it to yourself, you offer your heart a small way out of what once seemed impossible.

Acknowledging the truth is a powerful way to give yourself a lifeline, right here.

How To Know You’re In The Wrong Relationship : Five Steps Toward Freedom

I want you to use these steps to help you determine if you’re in the wrong relationship.

I feel like if you’ve been through it, you might know the answer to this question.

1 It Gets Physical for All the Wrong Reasons

If you think a relationship is wrong the moment the other party abuses you, you’re right.

What I would add is that physical abuse is only one form, and those who can’t handle physical pain often endure emotional pain for years.

Don’t be either of those—but if you’ve been abused, your relationship has no chance of survival.

Any kind of physical abuse lasts seconds, and that’s when you know it’s over.

2 Discovering Your Partner’s Infidelity

Couples forgive infidelity, learn from it, and move on together. Some even grow stronger after infidelity.

Narcissists can’t think about infidelity. They don’t realize what they did wrong, and they may blame you in some way for it.

Don’t tolerate any of that. If it happens—and it has before—it’s time to end the relationship.

The relationship is on the verge of collapse, and the sooner you admit it, the sooner you can be free.

If you’ve been betrayed, you’ve been ignored and treated like you don’t matter.

You deserve to be in a loving relationship, not one where you’re just one of many.

3 Disrespect

Disrespectful people often don’t go away after one incident, but that can be the final straw.

Every time you ignore their comments, hoping they’re just having a bad day, or maybe they’re not feeling well, or maybe they’re right.

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No, I don’t think you need to worry about any of that anymore.

Trust that you’re following your heart the moment it tells you to stop letting abuse be your standard.

Raise the bar for what you’re worth, and as you do, you’ll find that no narcissist can ever reach, let alone surpass.

4 “You’re so…”

The criticism has been going on for so long, and you’ve had enough.

Something inside you snaps, and you make a promise to yourself to trust your gut and know you’re in the wrong relationship.

God, you’re so annoying.

I can’t believe you actually like this show.

You have a habit of trying to ruin everything.

You’re just a normal person.

I don’t even know why I’m with you.

You’re too fat/skinny.

You’re a terrible driver!

You can’t cook.

You’re useless.

The comments could go on and on, filling a book.

But there will come a time when it only takes one comment to change everything.

5 Where did you go?

You lost yourself.

You don’t know what happened or where you went. All you know is that you miss the old you, and you hate—or don’t even recognize—the person you’ve become.

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One day, you’ll look in the mirror and want them back.

And I want to add, you can reclaim a version of yourself, with a few improvements if you like.

These improvements are all the ways I’ve learned to avoid narcissists.

That One Minute Makes All The Difference

It doesn’t last long, does it?

Sixty seconds pass, and before you know it, time is up.

I’m happy to say yes—it may be all you need.

When_the_Narcissist’s_Time_Is_Over – Yours Is Too

All the time you’ve given them will end the moment you decide enough is enough.

While you can’t take back anything you’ve given, you can trust that all your time from now on is yours to use in more positive ways.

So look at it this way—a failed relationship is a lesson learned.