Not every exchange of words has to lead to an argument. Let’s learn how to stop arguing and turn it into a fun conversation.

I’ve noticed that most conversations lately end in a discussion or argument. There are so many hot topics like politics and religion that seem to put everyone at odds. It’s ridiculous, and you see it everywhere you go. Is it so hard to stop arguing and makeup with friends?

One look at social media is also shocking. It will make you want to go back to bed and forget about your troubles. Within moments of scrolling through the topics, you’re bombarded with fights, feuds, and rants.

It is no wonder that anxiety levels have increased and everyone is stressed. This is because everyone is offended!

If there is a better way to talk to each other, stop our arguments and have healthy conversations.
So how do we do this?
Well, if you want to change the way we communicate, you have to start with yourself. Yes, I know this saying is corny, but it starts with you! Here are some ways to get started in the right direction.

Decide how it goes

First of all, you can argue or remain at peace while communicating. Another great suggestion is that you can pre-select how the conversation will go. If you do not want to have a heated discussion, refuse to go in that direction.

Once the conversation starts to get dramatic, warm up a bit and restructure what you have to say in response. This will help keep the conversation on track and the topic as well. You don’t have to get angry to get your point across.

It is best to keep a balance at all times. Decide to have a peaceful conversation and keep it that way until you’re done. This will also help you stop a heated argument.

Visual communication

Now you can’t do that with online chats, of course, but they work wonders for face-to-face encounters. If you can maintain eye contact, you will retain a sense of humanity while speaking.

You are more likely to be sensitive to the other person and respect their opinions. Call and keep in touch, without staring of course, and you’ll keep the conversation on civil terms.

maintain focus

Many conversations turn into arguments simply because you veer into sensitive territory.

When communicating, try to stay on topic and only give necessary details. If you can’t stay focused on the topic at hand, you will be prone to start discussing some small details that are irrelevant to the topic.

Staying on track helps you rely on facts and facts alone, eliminating offensive words and actions from the meeting. If your conversation partner starts to get off track, please bring them back to the topic at hand. They will thank you for that later.

Do not interrupt!

I watched a TV show once where this man and a woman were having a conversation. I found that their conversational style was strange at first because if one interrupted the other, the partner would correct them by making this statement: “Wait, now it’s my turn to speak. It’s your turn.”

It sounded cold and dominant, but after some thought, I realized it was just to make sure that both parties had a chance to express how they felt. To stop arguing, you have to see the reality of how rude it is to interrupt someone when they are speaking. It is a childish thing to do.

No misquote / no misinformation

One surefire way to get into an argument is to talk about something you know nothing about. If you think you know a quote from an author but aren’t sure how to go about it, leave it as it is. It is important to understand the facts and know the details of the information before you can share it. Knowledge is key.

This is because the exact information you wish to share will be the only thing your conversation partner will understand. They will know which quotes have been misquoted and will find fault with alleged “facts”. If you are unsure of the information, do not attempt to play with the “big dogs”. You better do your homework first. If not, you may find yourself in a heated argument, and stand to lose.

Just talk about what you know and keep it simple
Here is the solution to the above problem. If you know something and want to share it, do so. Keep it simple, don’t go overboard with details, and don’t be ostentatious. If you stick to this structure, you are sure to have an interesting conversation, even with the argumentative type. If they have nothing to hold you back, you are safe from confrontation.

Do not insult or call people

Never insult someone while having a conversation and don’t call them out on a lie unless it’s necessary. Even if you know someone is lying, if it has no bearing on the situation, let it go.

Not everything is worth facing. And by all means, don’t call anyone “stupid,” “heartless,” or a slew of other derogatory nicknames. He is mean and has no purpose other than to hurt someone.