She was an ordinary girl, with ordinary dreams and hopes. She believed in love, and she knew deep in her heart that her story would have a perfect ending.
It’s not that she wasn’t familiar with stories of toxic relationships, where a person is left broken by an emotional psychopath, but she never thought those horrific tales would become a reality for her.
“There is nothing more painful than being disappointed by the person you thought would never hurt you.” – Jojo Mofokeng
All the while, she dreamed of a normal lifestyle where she could just be happy – a dream we all share, right? Her desires were simple: a place of her own, nothing fancy, just a comfortable place she could call her own.
And a loving man by her side, who admires and respects her for who she is, and eventually, she will start a family with him. She wanted to teach her children all the lessons she had learned in her life.
Is this too much to ask? She just wanted some happiness and peace, and the truth was that a girl like her deserved no less, if not more. Sadly, life set her on a different path.
All her dreams were shattered and replaced by nightmares. Worse still, she couldn’t escape this cycle of terrifying nightmares that sucked her life out. The vibrant shades turned into dark, gloomy colors. Happiness became a distant memory, drowned in misery and pain.
She trusted her heart and believed that he would never deceive her. Unfortunately, this time, even her heart had been deceived. Even though her gut warned her, she chose to ignore her instincts.
What a mistake! But he was attracted to her at first; She couldn’t stop herself from falling in love with him despite the warning signs from her body. It was as if he had cast a magic spell on her. She didn’t answer anything or anyone else.
If she knew that she was actually falling in love with an emotional psychopath, he would leave her broken and change her concept of love forever.
When she met him, she felt like all her precious dreams were within reach. She could picture their home in her mind, with him by her side, always guarding her against anything bad that might happen to her. She believed that she would finally get everything she wanted, and that she would finally be happy.
True colors are revealed…
How could this girl anticipate the subtle tricks he would use to control her mind and make her believe she was something she never thought she could be?
How could she ever imagine that her person would manipulate and emotionally blackmail her just to meet his own selfish needs? Will she end up being broken by an emotional psychopath?
If she knew how cunning he was, he would crush her dreams and destroy them completely.
She began to see the true nature of things when he could no longer continue doing what he did. The fairy tale she had been living all this time was shattered to pieces, and her bubble burst.
Revealing his true colors. His purpose, which was to make her so needy, had been served. She loved him deeply and it wasn’t easy to leave him or walk away from her dreams, and he knew that very well.
She knew this truth deep down, but she refused to acknowledge it in her consciousness.
She refused to accept the fact that he was far from the man she had fallen in love with. Little by little, she witnessed how he turned into the monster she had intended to stay away from all her life.
She was in denial because she knew how her life would turn upside down if she accepted the sad reality. Her current life would become one that had always filled her with fear. She was afraid to admit how broken she was after being in a relationship with an emotional psychopath.
Hence, she gave him chance after chance, hoping that next time he would change. But it’s all in vain!
He continued to abuse her, and this constant harassment sapped the last drop of her strength until she became hollow – a mere shadow of her former beautiful self. She was slowly being broken down by an emotional psychopath.
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She was wrong all along. All his mistakes and shortcomings have somehow been turned around and blamed on her. He will not even once admit his mistakes and apologize for them. He was unable to remorse, remorse, or understand how much he had hurt her.
This is the thing about the emotional psychopath; He simply cannot understand how a person can be so broken and hurt by his actions.
She had so much to give the world. Her gifts of compassion and generosity would do wonders if used for the betterment of humanity. But he couldn’t stand it, it made him feel insecure and jealous to the core.
He wanted absolute control over his girl. He wanted her to be timid, helpless, cowering in a corner, pleading before his absolute power and control.
As toxic feelings of jealousy filled his mind, he became more intolerant towards everyone associated with her. He wanted to isolate her from her support systems and imprison her in his cruel trap. Being broken by an emotional psychopath slowly takes away everything she loves from her.
To call him selfish would be an insult to the word. He was so closed up in himself that no emotions could penetrate his cruelty anymore. His self-obsession was endless – as long as his needs were met, all was well, otherwise all hell broke loose.
He was trying to make her believe things that were completely untrue, and that’s how he was manipulating and brainwashing her.
He knew all the ways to exploit her love for him. He knew how to convince her that it wasn’t a mistake on his part, that she was the one who misunderstood and overreacted. He did this every time he wronged her until she herself began to believe that she was the one at fault, and that there was something wrong with her.
She thought she had lost her mind and gone crazy. She thought she should seek help and address her mental issues. But she blindly trusted the emotional psychopath, believing that he was the one who would save her when in reality, he was the monster who was destroying her.
But there is something that the emotional psychopath ignores, which is the indomitable spirit and the hope that slowly but surely grows within her. After every episode of blaming and crying, a small ray of courage was ignited within her.
His constant mistreatment, manipulation and false accusations almost destroyed her. She had gone through the darkest and most depressing phase of her life and felt completely hopeless. But he never imagined that the small ray of hope and strength remaining in her would grow strong enough to break free from him!
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The journey of healing after being broken at the hands of an emotional psychopath
She was devastated, broken and left very lonely by her emotional psychopath boyfriend, but she decided to fight for herself, her dreams and her life. Her story wasn’t over yet, not until she wanted it to be.
She realized that her journey did not have to end yet. In fact, it would start as soon as you left it. She learned to let go of her need for him. Her wounds were healed. She turned a deaf ear to what the world thought of her. She didn’t let her pride mess with her healing process.
The journey to recovery as an emotional psychopath has been a long one. She had to rebuild herself from the ashes and rise again like a phoenix.
She had been a victim of this man for a long time. He drained her of her essence and destroyed her to the core. You will be a mess for a long time now, but that’s okay. She will bury herself in her bed and cry a lot, and that’s okay too.
She has every right to be suspicious of people, especially those who try to come into her life and offer free help. She will be suspicious of everyone who wants to communicate with her.
But can she help her? The emotional psychopath has turned her into this person. Her self-worth was almost non-existent. But she has the ability to heal and be happy again.
Her dreams have changed. Love no longer has a place in her life. Those were her old dreams before she knew him, which were shattered beyond repair.
She knew that she would be afraid to give her heart to someone again because her perception of love had completely changed, and it was no longer beautiful in her mind.
Love felt like pain because of it, and it would for some time now. It made her hate the experience of love. Through his manipulations and emotional traumas, he makes her want to run away from love. She won’t be able to fall in love again, unless she finds her old self.
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She never had the opportunity to experience true, selfless love and enjoy the security and support that comes from a place of true care. Her image of love was one of neglect, loneliness, and a lot of pain, a far cry from the true nature of love.
It will take a lot of time and healing before she can trust someone again and open her heart to love. But on the other side of doubt and resistance is acceptance. Because true love finds a way into your life, it doesn’t give up.
For now, she should be alone. She needs as much time as possible to heal her wounds, reformulate her thoughts, understand her feelings, and correct them. She needs to understand right and wrong. This is her second chance at life, and she has to learn how to live it well first.
But one thing is certain – she will win this battle. You will emerge as a stronger woman who never gives up. No matter how broken she feels due to emotional psychopathology, she will find the last shred of strength to fight for herself.
It will be a pillar of strength, as strong as a night weathered by a storm. In the end, the loss is the emotional psychopath, who tried hard to destroy her but failed, nonetheless.
The truth is that her life can never be the same as it was before the abuse. But her experience helped her develop a realistic outlook on life and taught her many things.
He enlightened her and gave her a thousand reasons to be happy with life. She realizes that she only has one chance at life, and she will not waste her precious time pitying herself, nor will she settle for anything less than the absolute best.
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only option you have.” -Kayla Mills
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You may never have to experience the life-destroying feelings that overwhelm you when you’re broken by an emotional psychopath… but if you have terrible experiences to share, share your thoughts in the comments below!
