Are you in a toxic relationship? Are you struggling for a long time and realizing that this relationship is ruining your life?

Many of us are in toxic relationships, the ones we can’t escape from, the ones that keep us from living our full lives, from living and loving and being our best selves.

We only have one life to live and we need to make sure that we live it to the fullest, even if we are in a toxic relationship that is holding us back.

how?

5 ways to prevent a toxic relationship from ruining your life

1 – Love yourself.

Many of us who are in a toxic relationship believe we are unworthy and full of self-loathing.

Years of being blamed by our partner telling us we were worthless, stupid, and total losers, took a huge toll on our self-esteem. On top of that, we know we stayed in the relationship, even though we were being abused, and that undermined our self-confidence even more.

It is important, if we are in a toxic relationship that is destroying our lives, that we make an effort to love ourselves. To set goals for ourselves and stick to them. Take care of yourself, exercise, and eat right. We practice self-care – whether it’s a massage or a walk in the woods.

Most importantly, we must spend time with the people who love us. Who reminds us how great we are. Who supports us in every way and helps us navigate the world no matter what.

If you are stuck in a toxic relationship, make an effort to love yourself every single day. you deserve it.

2 – Don’t take all the blame.

I know you’ve been told time and time again that whatever is wrong with your relationship is your fault. I know you think if you were a little more patient or gave them more sex or made them happier, everything would be fine.

Let me tell you this is not true. There are two people in every relationship, so yes, you take some of the blame but not both of you, no matter what you’re told.

Dealing with self-blame, and acknowledging that it’s a false premise, will help you love yourself and make you stronger in the relationship. It will allow you to regain some strength so that you can not only survive but thrive as you live your life.

3 – Get help.

Many of us who struggle in toxic relationships feel ashamed and, therefore, go it alone. Even if we realize that we need help, we hesitate to reach it because of our shame and self-blame. We are afraid of being judged and not seeing any kind of help that can make a difference.

Seeking help is the best way to get out of a toxic relationship before it destroys your life. Although women are strong, even the strong of us need help when we feel hopeless.

So, reach out to someone who can help and support you. Your priest, doctor, psychiatrist, life coach, lawyer, or family. Get help understanding what your options are as far as this relationship is — what you need to do to keep your life together despite the pain.

4 – Leave.

You might be making fun of me right now. Yes, you are right in thinking. And I understand that.

I know it seems like you can never leave this relationship. That you still love this person. Because you’ve spent so much time in it that it seems stupid to walk away from you. You don’t believe in giving up and you want to keep trying. Whatever the reasons, leaving seems unacceptable.

Leaving is always an option. Your life is short, too short to waste it on a relationship that makes you unhappy.

If physical fear is holding you back, some groups can help you escape your toxic relationship. If it’s the fear of what the future holds that’s keeping you stuck, think about what’s better – the ways things are going now or how things might be if you were free.

There are always options for women stuck in toxic relationships. Find the help you need to make it happen.

5 – I wish you hope.

I know you feel trapped right now. That your every day is filled with unhappiness, and perhaps fear. You wonder if you can leave this relationship, you will be happy again.

I am here to tell you that it is possible to find happiness in your life. To also feel good about yourself, find the love that will make you happy, and live the life you have always wanted.

I have this game that I play. I look at the women in line at the grocery store and try to figure out which are single and which are in an unhappy relationships. I can always tell the difference. Women in toxic relationships seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. It looks gloomy, gray, and unhappy. They live in a toxic relationship and it sucks the life out of them.

When you look at single women, who have escaped from a relationship that makes them unhappy, you see an air of lightness and peace around them. Even though they are alone, for now, they know life is theirs.

And women who carry lightness and peace, who trust themselves after taking the steps to leave a relationship that doesn’t nurture them, who let go of self-blame and have someone to support them, are the women who will find love and happiness. Love and happiness help them live the life they always wanted.