The first thing you want to know right after a breakup is how to make him regret losing you. Maybe if you break up with him, he’ll miss you or if you leave him alone, he’ll come back, but you never know. What you want more than anything is for him to feel, even for a moment, the pain and anxiety you’ve been feeling nonstop. You want him to feel remorse for what he did and what he put you through. You want him to realize how much you loved him, believed in him, and stood by him, despite his confusing signals and treating you like garbage all the time.
When it comes to knowing how to make him regret losing you…
While you shouldn’t care if the person who disrespected and hurt you regrets losing you, it doesn’t matter. That’s what you want and I get it. If you don’t want that, even for a short period, then your blood won’t be flowing. We’re human, we have feelings, we all feel insecurities, and we all feel pain.
Is there a way to make him regret losing you? In my experience, yes. So here’s how to make him regret losing you…
First, you have to realize that when you’re dealing with an emotionally unavailable ex, he’ll never have that moment you hope he will. He’ll never realize your value because he can’t recognize his own. People who truly know their worth shouldn’t be putting anyone down, let alone the person they’re supposed to commit to and love.
No matter how high you think he thinks he is, he’s a narcissist who appears to have high levels of self-confidence. But the thing about narcissists is that they’re the most insecure and toxic type. Emotionally unavailable narcissists can’t and will never be able to empathize with anyone.
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The only way to get to an emotionally unavailable narcissist is through his ego.
Want to know how to make him regret losing you? Break up with him.
Let him see what life is like without you. Let him wonder why you’re avoiding him. Let him miss the light that you are. I know you don’t feel like “missing you” is a big deal and that you’ve made enough mistakes in the relationship for him to want to move on and forget about you right away, but what happened? You didn’t. Breaking up with him and talking through your actions would crush his ego.
As hard as it is to break up with someone you want to talk to and get back in bed with… you have to do it. Your love life depends on it.
If this guy was capable of acting with a modicum of integrity, dignity, respect, honesty, and loyalty… you wouldn’t be reading this right now. So why do you think that stalking him online, crying, begging, and explaining how much he’s hurt you won’t work? The cat will always meow, never bark.
You have to speak through your actions.
When you speak through your actions, two amazing things happen:
You’re communicating to the world that you’re a dynamic character in your own life story.
By taking action (even if you have to fake it until you succeed and are initially depressed), you will inevitably gain more confidence and begin to build your self-esteem and self-worth back. By setting boundaries and being honest with yourself and others, you will begin to see the benefits of being committed to yourself because you will gain power through the decisions you make. Decisions that contribute to your mental health.
Stay on your white horse and be the one who got away instead of the ex-girlfriend who needs a man to validate her.
That’s not you.
Yes, breaking up with a guy like this will make him think. Yes, it will make him remember the good times, and yes, he will start to rethink his decisions (because you broke up with him and gave him no reason to label you as needy or negative). He will start to miss you who was willing to do anything for him.
Reintroduce him to the real you: the girl who speaks with her actions. The girl no longer wants to be associated with anyone who treats her less than she treats herself. And contrary to what he thinks, the girl has a backbone, standards, and boundaries.
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Yes, this will make him think, rethink, regret, and maybe even reach out to you, but what do you expect?
When you prove through your actions that you don’t care and that you’re done, you’re making him feel like he’s lost control. He’s likely to panic because these guys are all about being in the driver’s seat. And because he feels like he’s lost control, he’ll reach out to you. It’s not because he misses you in the way you deserve and wants him to. He just wants control and access to you again. Remember, you’ve dismantled his currency and his oxygen (his ego).
Remember that he’s only capable of selfish regret, not selfless, honest regret. If you stick to your guns and continue to not engage on any level, you’re going to feel regret. You will feel regret because the girl who put up with all this nonsense is long gone.
That girl doesn’t have time for nonsense anymore.
