Why do you want to make a narcissist addicted to you? Is it because you know you will never be able to have a normal relationship with them? Or maybe you want to get revenge on your narcissistic ex?
Whatever the reason, it is important to understand that you are playing a dangerous game. Listen up! Narcissists do not play fair, and unless you have the courage, you are in for a rough ride. Are you strong enough?
Can you handle the emotional turmoil and insults that will be part of this challenge? Because that is what you will get. When a narcissist realizes he is losing, he will throw a tantrum, spit out a dummy from his stroller and do everything he can to make you give in to his demands.
How to Make a Narcissist Addicted to You? Narcissists are relentless. They will not stop until they get what they want. But if you are serious about making a narcissist addicted to you, you will learn exactly what to do here.
Can a Narcissist Become Addicted to You?
Yes, it can happen, but it will not take long, so don’t get too excited. If you don’t know, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is classified as a mental illness.
One of the traits of narcissists is that they need a constant source of narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply is the admiration, attention, and praise they need at all times.
Deep down, they are insecure and hate themselves. To hide it, they create a false self that they present to the world. To control their feelings of self-loathing, they need to be around people who tell them how great they are.
If they don’t get it, they’ll move on to the next game. So, if you want to play this game, there’s a time limit.
I can’t tell you how long it will be, but once they realize you’re not going to be their source of supply, they’ll leave.
How to Make a Narcissist Dependent on You?
By Being a Bad and Malicious Person! Unless you’re a bad and malicious person by nature, you’ll really need to shed your nice girl persona and step into this persona.
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In her book Why Men Love Bitches , author Sherry Argov says that despite women being raised to be needy, desperate nurturers, most men don’t want that type of woman.
While researching the content of her book, Argov found that men secretly desire strong women. They run a mile as soon as they sense a hint of desperation.
Narcissists are no different; they hate needy women (or men) but not for the same reason that the average man does. A poor woman will not cater to a narcissist the way a strong woman will because she is easily broken.
She is predictable, he knows how to push her buttons, and it doesn’t take long to destroy her self-esteem because she didn’t have much to begin with.
A strong woman, on the other hand, is more exciting to a narcissist. They need to be more strategic, and come up with new ways to get her hooked. So, if you pretend to be a strong girl, he won’t rely on you because he is obsessed with you and wants to be with you so badly.
Instead, he will rely on you because he has become obsessed with the day he can finally destroy your self-esteem.
8 Ways to Make a Narcissist Addicted to You
The good thing about narcissists is that they are predictable, and if you understand how they work, they are easy to manipulate. So, here are eight ways to make a narcissist addicted to you:
1 Be presentable at all times
Whether you are just stepping out of the house to take out the trash or taking your mom to the dentist, make sure you look presentable at all times.
Narcissists are obsessed with appearance, if they are in a room full of people, they will target the most handsome person. The person that every man or woman drools over.
So, to start, to get a narcissist’s attention, looking presentable at all times is essential, because you never know where you might bump into them.
When a narcissist finds someone attractive, they will do whatever it takes to get them.
2 Act like the narcissist doesn’t exist
Narcissists thrive on attention, but not just any attention, they want it from their potential victim. The chase is exciting for a narcissist, and the harder they work to get someone, the more satisfaction they feel when they finally defeat them.
Another reason a narcissist will obsess over you is because they hate losing. Life is a big game to them, and they play it to win.
So when you walk into a room and the narcissist is there, walk past them, act like you didn’t see them, and go and mingle with other people. They will spend the rest of the evening chasing you like a lost puppy.
Let the phone ring at least three times before answering it when they call. A narcissist will call you all night long if they have to.
3 Don’t fall for their charm
A narcissist will go through three stages in a relationship.
The love bombing stage – where they treat you like a king until they realize they’ve successfully made you fall in love with them.
The devaluation stage – where they begin to destroy your self-esteem.
Finally, the disposal stage – where they drop you like a hot potato.
If you want to make a narcissist obsessed with you, the key is to stay in the love bombing stage. You can do this by acting without being bothered by their magnanimity. No matter what they buy you, or where they take you, don’t act too enthusiastic about it.
Say thank you and leave it at that. You have to play the narcissist at their own game and keep your feelings to yourself.
The only way they can manipulate you is if they know what cards you’re holding, so keep them close to your chest.
After a while, they’ll get frustrated and try to move on to the belittling stage. They’ll test the waters to see how you react.
Expect them to start making random, indirect criticisms of you. They’ll focus on what they think makes you feel insecure, like your weight, and they might say something like, “Please don’t wear that white dress, it makes you look fat.”
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When they make a comment like this, confront them face to face and say, “Yes, honey, I would love to have some junk in my trunk!” They won’t know what to do with themselves next.
4 Play with Their Emotions
As mentioned, playing with a narcissist’s emotions is the only way to get them addicted to you.
Narcissists have mastered the art of playing with people’s emotions. They are thrilled to know that they can play with you like a puppet on a string. Narcissists thrive on knowing that they control their victim’s emotions.
Because they are such control freaks, it gives them an immense sense of satisfaction to know that they have the power to send their partner on an emotional rollercoaster ride. By playing with a narcissist’s emotions, you will completely surprise and overwhelm them, and they won’t know what to do with themselves.
This includes being nice to them one minute and mean to them the next. You might want to start the day by serving them breakfast in bed, compliment them throughout the day, send them random lovey-dovey texts, and give them amazing sex in the evening. The next day, turn them on.
When they call, give them an attitude, and if you see them, point out all their flaws and act like a miserable cow. They won’t know what’s wrong with them, and they’ll try their best to figure out what they did wrong.
5 Be a Drama Queen
Narcissists are the ultimate drama queens, they love to be surrounded by negative energy, and they will do whatever they can to stir up conflict.
Since they love to be around drama, it will make the narcissist eat out of the palm of your hand by bringing drama. So you can do something like tell your narcissist that someone said something bad about them.
But when you tell them, don’t mention any names. Instead, say, “Listen, you need to be careful about who you hang out with because I’ve heard through rumors that some of your friends have not the best things to say about you.”
They’ll want to know what was said, and who said it, so they’ll keep pestering you until you give them the information. But there’s no information to give, so you’ll keep throwing carrots in their face.
6 Give them a hint of what’s coming
Okay, I know I told you not to fall for the love bomb. Well, you’ll only need to fall for it for a second.
So start acting like you’re crazy about them so they think you’re addicted. Then, when they start abusing you, pretend to be upset and start spouting desperate feelings.
Then, through your fake tears, tell them how much their harsh and insensitive words hurt you because you love them so much. Keep this up for a week or so, then get back to normal.
They’ll be in for the shock of their lives, and they literally won’t know what to do with themselves.
7 Try to fix them
Narcissists convince themselves they’re perfect. They’ll never admit they’re wrong, they don’t make mistakes, and they’re always right.
This is how they see themselves, and this is how they expect others to see them. You can make narcissists feel extremely uncomfortable by refusing to acknowledge their perfection.
Randomly tell them you want to take them to the hairdresser for a haircut. Pinch their belly and say, “I think you need to work harder at the gym, you know, your curls are starting to show.”
When they cook you dinner, say, “This isn’t very tasty, I think you should buy a Jamie Oliver cookbook, my ex made us the best dinner there.”
If you hear them arguing with someone, step in and say something like, “Why do you always feel the need to argue with people? Your behaviour is absolutely ridiculous.”
These attacks on their self-esteem will make them feel bad, will hit a very sensitive nerve, and they will start to feel unworthy of your love.
8 Tell them they can’t live without you
Narcissists love to tell their victims that they are nothing without them. It’s one of the strategies they use to attract their partners. Play the same game, but take it to another level.
Pay attention to all the areas where they are not doing well, it could be ironing or tidying. The next step is to spend about a week doing these things for them, making them dependent on you.
When you don’t come to clean and iron their clothes, they will call and ask why you didn’t come.
At this point, tell them how useless they are and that they can’t function unless you are at their command. They will hate you for getting them caught, but they love you for having the nerve to say so.
How to Make a Narcissist Addicted to You?
You can’t keep a narcissist addicted to you forever, but you can make them addicted to you. I can’t tell you how long he will stay this way. However, you will need to keep him on his toes at all times, and never let your guard down.
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When a narcissist realizes that you are not like his other victims, he will become obsessed with you and want to know why. He will spend sleepless nights trying to figure out why he can’t break you.
The path to victory is to make them wonder, to make them curious, to want to know why you are different from everyone else.
You will make them chase their tail and spin in circles because they will never break you, and they will never find out why.
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So, that’s all you need to know about making a narcissist obsessed or addicted to you.
Remember, this will take a lot of time and energy, as I’m sure you realize, narcissists are a different breed.
However, if you play the game right, you will be able to control the narcissist in no time. But if this is a good thing….?
