Many of us suffer from some of the same behaviors as narcissists…at least some of the time. Some of us do it more often than we like to admit.
In my article “What is a Narcissist” I discuss the psychology of the narcissist. In particular, I browse sources on narcissism. It’s important to understand these sources because if they apply to you…you will be at greater risk of being a narcissist.
It’s also important because if it applies to you, it’s also the key to overcoming your narcissism. Which should really be your goal if you want to live a healthy life.
What are the sources of narcissism?
Basically, here’s where this kind of behavior comes from…
The narcissist overestimates his self-worth to compensate for feelings of inadequacy. The narcissist creates a strong personality to cover up the reality of:
absence of security
weakness
And weakness
Narcissists compensate for feelings of weakness and inadequacy by building a protective shell. If you feel like you are a narcissist and want to overcome this…you should focus your energy on exploring the source of these fears and feelings of inadequacy.
Instead of focusing your energy on strengthening the shell, the best course of action is to look down. Even if in the end there is no surefire solution to the problems underneath, it is important to come to terms with them to work toward personal balance.
But being a narcissist isn’t all bad news.
Being a narcissist may mean an inflated sense of self-worth, but it is important to note that this feeling of worth did not come out of nowhere. At least part of your sense of self-worth is based on real accomplishments and real success.
By relying on this true foundation of self-esteem, you can confront your problems and heal your inner wounds. You will emerge whole and stronger than before, at least in real terms when compared to the person you expected before.
It is very likely that you have an abundance of skills and that you have achieved real success at times. This is good. I’m not trying to take that from you. What we lack is a little balance and a solid sense of self-worth.
Self-confidence in itself is not a bad thing. Aim to maintain this air of confidence while addressing any internal flaws and you can build your sense of self-worth and self-confidence on a solid, balanced foundation. Something that others can truly admire…and not just superficially to keep the peace and keep you happy.
