We all love text messages, right? A short greeting, “Hello, how are you?”

Maybe you’d love a voice message, a photo, or a video attached to what you send. Text messages connect us!

But what about those texts that destroy a narcissist’s hold on you? Don’t you wish you knew what these messages are and unleashed them on that toxic jerk you know?

Well, I’ll tell you what they are, and exactly how they can destroy them!

Shatter Their World

One text message can completely destroy any hold a narcissist has over you. I know many victims of narcissistic abuse try hard, but they just can’t find the right words.

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I’m sorry.

I’m here.

What can I do to make it better?

Oh, I didn’t mean it.

These texts play into the narcissist’s hands, and that’s what they’re after.

They want to smile knowing they’ve made a positive impact on your day. That impact may be positive for them, but it’s always negative for you.

If you handle it right, you can completely destroy their world.

Does that sound interesting?

If you really want to control and eliminate them, you need to combine some of these tips to help you.

The first?

You need to show indifference. Narcissists feed on your reactions. If you give them gray skies, they can’t complain about the rain or the scorching sun. It’s just a normal day, a blank text.

Another good tip is to set firm boundaries. Boundaries show you’re done with their manipulation. They put you back in the driver’s seat.

Finally, you need to remove as much of their influence as possible. You don’t want to, and shouldn’t, be available to them.

Texts That Can Destroy a Narcissist’s Control

It’s good to have an idea of ​​what works, right?

If this is new to you, you need to start somewhere.

I’d say you’ve already started voluntarily delving into this topic.

So, let’s move on to some examples of texts that might work.

“I’m no longer interested in this dynamic. Take care of yourself.”

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This is short and to the point, and it ends the conversation. Most importantly, it ends well with “Take care of yourself.”

There are no feelings involved, and it’s a final ending.

You give the narcissist nothing.

“I no longer need your validation. I wish you the best.”

Yes, we wish the best for all narcissists, but we know that our wishes won’t get them there. With this message, the control is gone. And you’re free!

“I see through your tricks. I’m not playing games anymore.”

Exposing a narcissist is probably the worst thing you can do to them. They won’t be able to manipulate you anymore once you stand up and tell them you’ve got it.

Any exposure teaches them that their manipulation is no longer working, and that you won’t tolerate their bad behavior anymore.

It’s a powerful message, but it’s an irreversible one.

“I’m done explaining myself. This conversation is over.”

If you keep trying, he’ll only mock your attempt to calm him down or prove your point.

These points won’t work, because you’ll never be able to say or do the right thing.

You can justify yourself until your face turns red. Sometimes, if done right, you might fade away, but most of the time, you’re climbing a hill with no water on a sweltering day.

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This is how we get to what works, and I feel like I’m cheating on you by giving you this, because it’s not really a message at all.

Actually, it’s nothing.

That’s true.

Deafening silence.

I know you might be thinking, “Alex. Excuse me, what’s this? This isn’t what I expected!”

You’re right, it isn’t. But honestly, has what you’ve done so far been a successful approach to the narcissist in your life?

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Probably not.

More often than not, narcissists are the type you need to understand before you can begin to destroy their hold on you. What do they do? What drives them? How do they get to you?

For many of them, it’s via text. They send their messages in a way that can throw you off your feet. You’re having a great day, then you realize what they mean.

Sometimes they’re downright offensive, other times they’re more subtle, but you know what they mean.

The lack of surprise kisses tells you they’re upset with you.

The laugh emoji when you tell them you’re feeling unwell.

The passive-aggressive thumbs-up emoji when you cancel your plans because your car won’t start and you won’t arrive.

Then you start thinking, in your over-anxious mind…

…How can I improve this?

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It’s not your job to always improve everything. You can lose control completely when someone is trying to please others in a situation.

If you want to destroy their hold over you (because that’s the crux of the matter), you need to impose a kind of silence that diminishes their ego.

The ego they feel they can impose on you.

Well, this shouldn’t work, and you can do it whenever you receive a text message that usually makes you panic.

Turn off your phone. Remain silent. Be yourself.

A moment to reclaim your power and set clear boundaries means you refuse to fall into or engage in their toxic cycle.

Yes, a narcissist may get upset with you and make you feel bad.

These are triggers that push you to apologize and push you back into bad, unhealthy habits.

By agreeing to this, you’re giving them back control. Why?

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The dynamics only change when something inside them changes.

Silence is golden, and in this case, you should see it as an opportunity for victory.

You want to break control without exception. You want to break the cycle of abuse. You want to be strong again.

Silence is a debilitating tactic for dealing with a narcissist. When you see how easy it is to cling to your life and control it as you please, there’s rarely a retreat.

So what are you waiting for?