Did you know that apart from draining you emotionally, narcissists can also make you physically ill due to their toxicity and evil nature?
Narcissists make you sick. very sick. The reason is that you are being emotionally attacked at the very core of your being.
As a result of your painful feelings, and the biochemical processes triggering within you, other aspects of your life will begin to fall apart greatly – including your health.
People ask all the time, “Could someone make me sick?”
Could their behavior be causing things like fibromyalgia, adrenal fatigue, post-traumatic stress disorder, and even more serious illnesses?
The answer is yes. If you hang out with sick people, i.e. narcissists, you get sick.
Narcissism is like a massive black hole that devours energy, health, and resources from people. It sucks the life force out of your soul, which means that at first you get hugely emotionally affected and traumatized, and then all aspects of your life, including your health, start to collapse dramatically.
In Steps 1 to 4, we will prepare the platform for you to enjoy emotional well-being. Because this is necessary if you are going to get better.
And then in Step 5, we’ll look at add-ons that, while not a healing solution in and of themselves, will powerfully complement your emotional healing.
Here’s how you can restore your health if a narcissist is making you physically ill
Step #1: Unplug
It’s impossible to get better when you’re still taking the poison that’s making you sick.
The more you try to convince a crazy person to act rationally, the more ridiculous and offensive things get. You cannot create safety and health with a troubled person.
The first essential step is to stop trying to get decency, pity, or sympathy. These goods will not come from a narcissistic person. The only hope you have for getting your health back is to walk away and stay away.
For no contact (or modified contact as in the case of co-parenting) to be effective, you need to understand what that means.
There is no contact physically, it is not enough.
Narcissistic abuse is a psychological phenomenon. Even if you are doing No Contact with a narcissist, the abuse lives inside of you like a terrible virus. After you leave, you will go through what is known as “post-traumatic stress disorder”. This is when all the abuse from the past has a chance to catch up and hit you like a freight train.
Also, you will feel incredibly addicted and withdrawn from the peptide addiction that your body has been receiving regular doses of.
Many people have gone through this as well, and I report that after the narcissist leaves, the terror and pain are worse than ever. This is all the trauma that has been impregnated in your inner being rising to the surface. Until this is dealt with you may feel like you are losing your mind.
But I promise you, it doesn’t have to be that way!
This is why Step #1, Withdraw and Create No Contact, is only the beginning of what you need to do to get better.
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Step #2: Take your focus off the narcissist and on yourself
This is an unexpected, yet vital step in the recovery of your health.
Narcissists are a law in themselves and they actively feed on our fear and pain. The more terrified you are, in deep pain and disbelief at what he did or could do, the more you feed the problem rather than become the solution.
An important shift is needed here, instead of focusing on “what happened to me or what could happen to me via this person in the future,” you need to focus on, “What parts of myself can I turn to with love and healing to bring me back to wholeness?”
And… “What parts would I ascribe to this person and hang on to as a source of love, acceptance, safety, and survival, rather than healing, toughness, and strength as these goods to myself?”
and, “What parts of myself have I been giving my power away, rather than living by my values, my rights, and my truth?”
This second step is very vital. It’s all about a powerful evolutionary shift from survival and remaining a helpless victim of changing others in order to change your life, to becoming an evolved master of your own life by deeply doing the work of inner healing.
I promise it took me a long time to accept this! I would not be alive and thriving if I had not made this powerful transformation. (That’s why I’m so excited to inspire you to do that, too.)
Immediately, as a result of gallantly giving up trying to observe, fix, change, control, reform, or change people with whom we have no power, often there is a physical feeling of instant relief.
It is our inner being that tells us, “Thank God, you have come to me… finally. You are the being I have been waiting for all along! Those false sources that you tried to replace in your relationship with me, you will never work!”
Relief is often felt even with the intention to let go of obsessive thoughts about the narcissist and turn inward to heal yourself. Even before you start doing the inner work!
This is because you are already on the path to wellness.
Step #3: Do the necessary inner work
There is only one way to change your life, and that is to change yourself.
You cannot change others to feel better, work better, and live better. The only entity you can change is yourself. And it’s crazy that we never learned this! Our only strength lies within, and as you do the inner work you will discover that you come up with a different inner love symbol.
This means that you will no longer be attractive and attracted to people who hurt you.
Then, the glorious thing is that you’ll be able to be yourself in life, safe and strong and authentic and able to say “no,” while remaining whole when people aren’t healthy for you. You will be able to move on.
And as a result of your hard-earned inner work, your relationships, and your entire life will change beyond description.
The only way we’ll ever learn how to do better is by getting better, that’s the truth.
At first, we may think that “doing better” simply means ignoring the narcissist, stopping responding, and trying to get on with our lives.
After severe abuse, even if you can do “gray rock,” and you are no longer addicted to it, it is still likely that you will still experience symptoms of abuse such as PTSD, anxiety, depression, and obsessive thoughts that make it very hard. It’s hard to have the energy to be happy, and free, and create a new, wonderful life.
Trying to get healthy is stressful, while you’re battling the inner trauma that generates your emotions, thoughts, and biological processes.
The best way is to turn inward and start working on getting all of these toxic traumas out of you. This frees up space. It allows your health to arise organically from within you. Your natural state is “health” without internal trauma.
Step #4: Be anti-fear
It is typical after a breakup and starting to unleash the narcissistic abuse, that the narcissist will try to keep tying you back for the narcissist’s supply.
Also, if you are connected through marriage, possessions, and children, the narcissist will often lash out, trying to influence you by taking what and who is near and dear to you.
You may be tested with the most terrifying and terrifying stimuli you can possibly imagine.
This I want you to know with all my heart, that the strongest and quickest way to be healthy, and to escape their assaults, is to become against fear.
In doing so, the narcissist loses the energy and psyche that feeds his energy.
Until you live this phenomenon, you can never know how powerful this switch is.
Without fear and pain, as a result of your turning inward and your deep commitment to the inner work of purging this person and all of your trauma, as well as any of your limiting, painful, and weak beliefs, that person loses all power over you.
The narcissist will be thwarted. His or her attempts will fail. You begin to connect to the resources, people, and situations that will fully support you.
The reason is that you activate the power of it all by turning inward and supporting yourself fully.
This is effective and correct inner work!
This is how you break free from the narcissist.
By continuing to work internally on all of the fear triggers that come up, you will gain confidence and strength in yourself, as well as begin to resolve all of the symptoms of narcissistic abuse from within your energy field, because you know you are safe in your body and secure in life.
And I promise you, you will become better than you have been in your entire life.
Just wait and see how life unfolds in all areas in your favor. The outside always follows the inside!
Step #5: Health Supplements
On the path of resurrection, health and well-being become a focus for nourishing yourself and your life.
When we get better, we get better, and we choose better.
These include things like eating whole foods and drinking filtered water. Letting go of addictions and self-medication that we used to resort to avoid our traumas, but hurt us the most.
Hang out with more positive and less toxic people.
Engage in regular healing, healthy time, and moving your body in ways that engender well-being and confidence.
Stay away from victim forums and communities where the focus is all on narcissist-bashing, and there is nothing about healing yourself.
Setting boundaries and saying “no” to people and situations that are no longer healthy for you, and being willing to honor yourself, your values, and your rights, no matter what others do.
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All of these things, combined with your ongoing deep inner work to free yourself from the trauma and reprogram yourself from the inside out, create a massive plan for recovery and recovery from narcissistic abuse.
