At some point in your life, you may be divorced, widowed, or still on the market and someone 50 or older will seem like an age-appropriate dating partner.
Know this: Potential partners in the over-50 age group may seem mature, but they can still pose a risk to your health — your emotions, your psychology, and your finances.
This happened to me. She dated a man over 50, then married him, even though he lied about his age. He turns out to be a complete con artist.
He took $227,000 from me, cheated on me, and cheated on other women too.
Because of my experience, I have committed to warning people about the scammers who live among us.
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Who are the major sociopaths?
I surveyed readers of my website about their experiences with “senior sociopaths” — people over the age of 50 who can be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, or psychopathic personality disorders.
More than 2,100 people responded to the survey, describing their experiences with romantic partners, spouses, parents, family members, co-workers, and acquaintances.
Dating Senior Sociopaths
Of the survey participants, 512 people started dating the person after they were 50 years old. Many of them believed that, later in life, they had finally found their Prince or Princess Charming.
But what they thought was a dream turned into a nightmare.
Here’s how one woman described the beginning of her romance:
“He made me feel good about myself. He ate out to dinner all the time and bought me a lot of expensive things. There were little red flags of depreciation that I ignored mixed with positive, amazing sex. I was on cloud 9 in love like never before.” “
Here’s how she described the end: “He beat me, choked me, threatened to kill me and my dog, shot me, ground me, and ate me if I cheated.”
What happened to loving behavior?
It was all an act aimed at seducing her. Sociopaths don’t fall in love. They are incapable of true love.
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So why do sociopaths pursue romantic partners?
They want to use you – for sex, money, a place to live, business connections, or entertainment.
As they get older, there may be a new purpose – they want someone to take care of them when they become incapacitated.
How do major sociopaths meet romantic partners?
Survey respondents had a lot to say about how senior sociopaths find romantic partners and what happens when they get stuck.
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Where do major sociopaths find their targets? A total of 497 survey participants answered the following questions:
- Internet: 36%
- Social status (bar, restaurant, club, party): 17%
- I knew him or her from the past: 12%
- Other (gym, university, volunteer work): 11%
- Doing business or working together: 10%
As this list shows, the internet is dangerous when it comes to scammers looking to prey – more than a third of survey respondents have met more than 50 sociopaths.
There’s no such thing as a safe dating app — I’ve heard of people encountering sociopaths on everything from Match.com to eHarmony to Christian Mingle. Facebook and Skype are also full of predators.
