Narcissists crave constant attention, and when their charm doesn’t get them the attention they need, they become victims. It’s all about getting the attention and admiration they so desperately need to boost their ego.

By becoming victims, they make people feel sorry for them. When people feel sorry for them, they are securing that much-needed attention from you and others around them. It’s common for them to act like everyone is wrong or trying to get them down. This is their effort to gain sympathy and positive attention from you.

There are several ways a narcissist can make you feel sorry for them. You should be aware of these tactics to help protect yourself and your mental health when dealing with a narcissistic partner or family member.

Exaggeration

When a narcissist tries to make you feel sorry for them and play the victim, they are lying. This is a common trait among people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. As a result, they are likely to exaggerate the truth to gain your sympathy.

They don’t feel empathy and won’t feel guilty for lying. They aim to stay in the spotlight, getting the attention they need to boost their ego and self-esteem.

In other words, they will exaggerate the truth to make you see that they have been victimized and gain your sympathy and attention.

Playing the Victim

Narcissists can change their personas in the blink of an eye. They are masters of disguise and can easily play the victim to get the attention they so desperately want. Most of the time, they play the victim.

They will change their disguise to portray the victim when they see that their usual tactics aren’t working with you. Being the victim will get them the positive attention and empathy they need, ensuring that they are once again the center of your attention.

If they walk into a room and no one is greeting them, they will quickly change and tell you that these people don’t like them. This is their quick thinking to play the victim, so you feel sorry for them immediately.

Making You Believe They Need Your Help

Narcissists will try to make you believe that they need your help because they have been victimized. This is a common sign that they are trying to make you feel sorry for them. As you know, they don’t usually need help with anything, because they are superior to everyone around them. When they suddenly ask for help, this is a warning sign.

Narcissists often try to turn you into a flying monkey when they ask for help. Flying monkeys are the ones who do the narcissists’ bidding, so they don’t get the blame.

Be very careful when they ask you for help, no matter what kind, they are probably just trying to get something out of you by making you feel sorry for them.

MakingYouFeelGuilt

One thing narcissists are good at is shifting blame. They want to control you and the situation, so they are very quick to shift blame when they do or act inappropriately.

This involves making you feel guilty.

In most cases, they will accuse you of doing something they did, making you feel guilty and sorry for them. When you feel guilty, you feel sorry for the person you hurt, in this case, the narcissist.

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Don’t fall for this classic trick. Don’t let a narcissist make you think you did something you didn’t just to make you feel sorry for them.

Lying

Narcissists are compulsive liars. They lie about everything and anything, from the big things to the littlest things. Lying is a natural part of their lives and they think it’s normal. In fact, when they lie, they think they’re superior to you.

This means that if a narcissist wants you to feel sorry for them, they’ll lie to get the attention they need. As superior, in their minds, they think you won’t even realize they’re lying.

Narcissists see themselves as superior to everyone, including their partners. If they need something from you, they’ll make you feel sorry for them to get what they want or need.

Creating Confusion

If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist for some time, you’ve probably experienced your fair share of drama. They love to create confusion, convincing you that you did something wrong, when in reality, it was them who did it. By doing this, they can make you feel sorry for them.

Something as simple as getting a speeding ticket can become your problem, so you feel bad and feel sorry for them right away. They may say, “If I hadn’t talked so much while I was driving, I wouldn’t have been distracted and wouldn’t have gotten that speeding ticket.”

By creating confusion, they make you feel sorry for them. In return, you take all the responsibility.

BlamingYouForTheirMood

Narcissists are never wrong. Even when they know they’re wrong, they won’t admit it. This means they’ll play the blame game when they’re angry or don’t get the reaction they want to feel important or in complete control of you and your actions.

One of the favorite sayings you’ll come across when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist is, “I can’t believe you’re blaming me for this” or “If you hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t be calling you names.”

By blaming you for their moods, they’re making you feel sorry for them. And when you feel sorry for them, they’re maintaining control, which is what a dominant narcissist thrives on.

Accusing you of being a narcissist

This has to be the best of the best. When a narcissist wants you to feel sorry for them and isn’t getting anywhere with their usual tactics, they’ll turn the tables and blame you for being a narcissist. This is absolutely ridiculous coming from someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Why do they do this?

By playing the victim, they can deflect any attention from their behavior, which helps them avoid accountability. When you feel sorry for them, they feel superior and important. They don’t care how they get the attention they need, as long as they get it.

Anyone in a relationship with a narcissist needs to know the signs they use to make you feel sorry for them. It’s important to hold on to your own self-worth and not let your self-esteem be affected. It’s not easy living with a narcissist, but if you know what to expect, you can gain the upper hand by not giving in to their tactics.