Before you say anything, know…

Amazing.

Narcissists lie.

In fact, they lie about anything and everything you can imagine. Not only are they the best liars out there – they will do it without a conscience or morals.

And I know that all you want is for them to get caught.

If they did, everyone would see them for who they really are – they’ve done their job!

I want you to see beyond the person they’re presenting to you – because that in and of itself is a big, fat lie.

Let’s take a look at the 9 biggest lies about narcissists, and how you can get away with each one once you know them.

Don’tFool Them With “Honesty”

As much as they want you to, and they really do – don’t believe them.

If you’ve gone through the same process with one narcissist, it’s safe to say you can assume the same for everyone else out there.

They’re all lying. And none of them care.

Belief in their false honesty will give you a false sense of security, and will also leave you feeling extremely disappointed when they inevitably let you down.

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Being kind and sticking to their word is never a narcissist’s intention – it’s always where they put your heart – so you always stay and never leave.

Time To Reveal! 9 Biggest Lies About Narcissists

1 That You Can Count On Them

If you think you can count on narcissists, you need to think again.

The only time you can really count on them is when they let you down, because that’s all they’ll ever show you they’re capable of.

Narcissists trick you in this regard. When you meet them, they promise to fulfill you in every way.

They’ll make you happy.

They’ll make sure you get what you need.

They’ll listen to you, and they’ll never lie.

They won’t change you.

They’ll always be there.

What happens when you discover that none of this is true? It means you’ve peeled back the layers of deceit to reveal the real person behind it all:

The Narcissist.

2 They Love You

Love will never be what a narcissist makes it seem. They can throw any fancy thing or promise your way, sure. Does that mean they love you?

Nope.

It means they know how to calm you down.

Love isn’t something they know how to feel, but they love to talk about it.

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Saying the words isn’t the problem – but that’s where the lie begins.

If it’s not the truth – it’s a huge, blatant lie.

3 They Care

Narcissists will always want you to think they care.

I’m just coming from a place of concern.

You need me.

Let me help you.

And why wouldn’t you believe it when someone says these words? They sound so sincere, they’ll make you want to open up and be the one to trust and say yes.

But is it really the truth?

Actually – no. They don’t even care. The only thing they care about is getting what they want from you, even if it means you get hurt as a result.

Your trauma isn’t their problem.

4 Your secrets are safe

Trust me, I won’t tell anyone.

Your secret is safe with me.

Your secret is never safe with a narcissist. Whatever it is, it’s clear you want it to remain a secret.

Maybe it’s important news, or maybe it’s a part of your past that you want to keep hidden.

It doesn’t really matter what the secret is – the part that should get your attention is that they promised not to tell – and they did.

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Narcissists will spill your secrets for one simple reason:

Their need to gossip about you is more important than their promise to keep it.

5 They won’t use your past against you

While narcissists may not have been present in your past, they are definitely making sure it stays alive.

6 They want to have friends and family around you

You will notice how much they want to support you and be there for you, and in their desire to do so they will want your nearest and dearest people to be a part of your life.

This may be the case during the first weeks and months of getting to know the narcissist, as they encourage you to spend as much time with your loved ones as possible.

When you do, it will one day become a problem. And when it does become a problem, you will hear phrases like:

“You’re too good for them.”

“You give them so much of your time, and they give you so little in return.”

“Why do you care?”

“It seems like you don’t make time for me anymore. I miss you.”

This is all how they begin to isolate you, so you become dependent on them.

7 You’re Free

If only!

No one is free all the time and they are somehow registered with the narcissist, and you only realize how trapped you are when you leave.

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They want you to believe that you are, and they can do that by giving you access to a little money, or letting you go out one night.

But you’re wrong if you think you’re free. It’s all just a trick.

8 Your Reality Matters

It only matters in the beginning! Soon, this reality will be:

Hijacked.

Shaken.

Replaced.

Replaced with their reality.

Without any conscience on their part. They will trick you into an alternate way of thinking by simply saying things like:

It didn’t happen that way.

You must be confused.

I think you’re imagining things.

You look like you’ve lost your memory.

Are you sure you don’t need to go to the doctor?

Your reality is only established when you first meet them. Once they get their foot in the door, the game is over.

9 It’s All in Your Head

If you think you’ve got the pieces of the puzzle together and understand narcissism, the narcissist will do everything in their power to take that away from you.

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Mark my words: It won’t be pretty when they prove you wrong.

You’ll think, “I thought I met someone who was the best person in the world.” Soon, you’ll see the truth, but you’ll feel stuck in this reality.

It’s not all in your head. You’re not imagining anything.

Narcissism is very real, and it’s very harmful.

Please never assume it’s not real.