Emotionally unavailable people are incapable of introspection. They lack self-awareness, have an abundance of relational needs (that they can’t meet), and because they can’t tap into their emotions, they can’t empathize and their words don’t match their actions. They’re also some of the hardest people to overcome. The highs are so high and the lows are so low. If your ex was emotionally unavailable and you’re now wondering what emotionally unavailable men do after a breakup, here’s what you need to know…

While it’s certainly helpful to identify the types of emotionally unavailable men, the traits of emotionally unavailable men, and what made you attracted to emotionally unavailable men in your past, what you want to know is something that’s rarely discussed:

What exactly do emotionally unavailable men do after a breakup?

How do emotionally unavailable men feel after a breakup?

How do emotionally unavailable men cope after a breakup?

We’ve proven that emotionally unavailable men are emotionally bankrupt. Because they can’t put themselves in anyone else’s shoes or tap into their emotions, they’re unable to have mutually fulfilling and connected relationships.

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So how do emotionally unavailable men react after a breakup? Are they different now that you’re gone?

It’s hard because you’re trying to mourn the loss of the soulmate you once were, while still hoping that the toxic person they proved to be will somehow “miss” you enough to return to being the decent guy who only acted like he could empathize and connect emotionally to get what he wanted. That might include promising a future that was never backed up by action, lying to you, keeping you from feeling secure in the relationship, cheating on you, and making you feel like you were never enough.

As for how emotionally unavailable a man feels after a breakup, we want him to regret what he did, to miss us, to fight for the relationship, to blame himself, to apologize, and to be plagued with regret. But you have to realize that if he is emotionally unavailable, he will not do any of the above things with any authenticity because he is detached.

After a breakup, emotionally unavailable men will do one of several things:

They victimize themselves by blaming you and telling their sad story to anyone with a set of ears (and preferably a set of tits).

They try to be a “friend” so they can reap all the benefits of being in a relationship with you, without having to commit to anything other than leaving the door open for your sexual calls.

They immediately move on to someone new (the rebound), because if they get a quick ego boost, they won’t have to deal with the wreckage of what you put them through. Or they’ll go back to an old, familiar, forgiving flame.

They’ll try to pressure you and make you jealous in any way they can.

They’ll ignore you when you break up and reach out to you. They’ll drive you crazy after your reaction and then, all of this quickly and quietly, remind you that the relationship is over.
They disappear under the radar and then announce a new “million dollar” business venture on social media, go on a trip, and Instagram everything they have (completely out of the blue) or do anything to “look at me now and give me attention, likes and comments” to prove that they are now back in the market and back to the “real” successful and motivated “they” who couldn’t be with you because you weren’t good enough (I’m laughing now because I’ve done this myself so many times after a breakup. It’s so stupid).

Do emotionally unavailable men feel like they’ve “lost” you after a breakup? Is that possible?

The only way they’ll feel like they’ve lost you is if you do something you’ve never done – stay on the white horse and get lost; disappear from their lives. They don’t know what to do with silence, no interaction, no opposition, no boundaries, and no dignity.
Ignore an emotionally unavailable man. Does silence make a man miss you?

Yes. Ignoring an emotional man, but not in the way you want and deserve. The absence they feel is rooted in selfish regret – not real regret.

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Do emotionally unavailable men have regrets after a breakup? Do they become better men?

Regret requires empathy, and they don’t have any.

As for getting better and changing… deep change requires much more than switching Instagram filters and updating your story. It requires three things:

1) A desire to change that isn’t driven by narcissistic panic that they’re at risk of losing their “supply.”

2) The ability to take responsibility, be vulnerable, and reflect.

3) The ability to see yourself and your actions in a less-than-positive light.

Deep, lasting change takes time.

Is he happy? How can he be happy?! I’m miserable.

Happy people don’t mess with other people. It’s that simple.

You can’t be a happy person and miss someone who constantly hurts you and belittles you. Conversely, you can’t be a happy person and lie, cheat, and belittle and hurt the person you’re supposedly committed to. Like always attracts like. Let people make their beds. There’s no point in making someone else’s bed, especially when your own is a mess. Once you make your bed properly, you won’t care much about finding a bed to make. What was once an uncontrollable desire will now seem meaningless to you because it is.

Bottom line: If you’re emotionally unavailable, you’ll never truly experience the kind of authentic joy and happiness we were put on this earth to feel. You’re incapable of sharing in the joy of being.

Not having an emotional life of your own and looking to others to validate your existence is no way to live. You’ll constantly attract the wrong types of men and become unattractive to the good guys out there (yes, they are out there).

The best thing you can do is realize that you’re your fulfiller, your hero, and your relationship’s savior.