Have you ever wanted to piss off a narcissist? Let me tell you, it’s easier than you think!

Narcissists thrive on control and admiration, but there are ways to penetrate their seemingly tough exterior.

It’s actually quite vulnerable!

The secret lies in understanding their weaknesses. Their fragile ego and need for validation lead to a profound fear of exposure.

So, using the right tactics can disrupt their game and leave you with your own power.

Are you ready to flip the script and watch them squirm?

1 The Art of Staying Calm

While narcissists may think the way to get someone’s attention is to get loud and intimidated, there’s a lot to be said for staying calm and collected. Some might even say there’s an art to it.

Think about it. An argument starts, and you know it’s nothing to do with you.

The narcissist enters the room in a certain mood, intent on stirring up noise and drama. This goes against everything you believe in, and yet here you are, suffering from it.

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What choice do you have?

Well, a lot, actually. You have many options. You can play along and play along. You can cry and let them see you emotionally drained right before their eyes.

Or…

You can stay calm and let them rage and scream, knowing it has nothing to do with you. Yes, you’re the target, and no one wants that.

But…

You’re not the one who has to respond. No one has to.

Remaining calm gets the narcissist into unfamiliar trouble because they’re used to you acting differently.

They don’t have anything to trigger them, as they usually do. Your calm aura is like a door closing in their face, and that really bothers them.

Okay.

Hmm.

I hear you.

I’m listening, but I’m not going to yell back.

I’d really appreciate it if you could understand that yelling at the narcissist won’t help.

Remaining calm in this way will silence the narcissist, and they’ll bond over the idea that noise and anger won’t help.

Once they realize they can’t upset you, the discomfort will lie in their new realization that they can’t get any support from you this way.

2 Be Assertive!

Well, narcissists don’t like assertiveness.

Assertiveness usually means you have boundaries, and boundaries are something all narcissists hate. They can’t stand being told which side of the line they’re on.

They hate even knowing there’s a line!

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When a toxic person is used to taking advantage of you, they’ll be shocked when you suddenly become assertive.

When you give up what you can no longer tolerate, you will be met with resistance. Remember, a narcissist is used to knowing a certain version of you. The version that says yes instead of no.

When you stop one and start the other, you will immediately infuriate them!

3 Ignore Them: Refusing to Give Them Support

I don’t want you to think that ignoring them is the same as ignoring them. I don’t believe in treating toxic behavior with equal toxicity—because two wrongs don’t make a right.

However…

Silence where the noise has died down is a way to maintain the dignity and sophistication that may have previously been restored to support them regarding your feelings.

4 Hold on to Your Truth

There is no better place to stand. In your truth, everything makes sense. That’s where you can stand, knowing you’re doing your best and believing in yourself completely.

That’s where your confidence begins to grow, and that’s where you’ll find a more assertive version of you.

This is precisely why it is so important to hold on to your truth, even if the narcissist tries hard to take it away from you.

5 The Grey Rock

Have you ever heard of the grey rock? I’m sure many of you know what I mean by now, but just in case, let’s take a look!

The grey rock doesn’t mean anything. It means giving the narcissist as little, if not as little, as possible. You hear them, and you want to respond, but instead you choose to say, “Okay,” “Sure,” or “Uh-huh.”

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Your face is calm and emotionless, and your voice is devoid of any emotion.

Giving the narcissist the proverbial grey rock is your way of maintaining your power and giving them nothing to feed off.

Will they like it?

Absolutely not!

But the more you show it, the weaker they’ll feel.

The narcissist has always provoked and aroused you.

It’s time for all that to stop.

6 Confront Them—and Get Serious

Hey. What you did there was wrong.

Do you realize how you treated that person? You act like you don’t care.

It was your fault we were late. Even though you clocked in, you arrived after everyone else.

You’re trying to be mean to me, but it won’t work.

I see what you’re doing, and I want you to know I’m not fooling around.

Anything you can do to add some assertiveness without getting into an argument, you should be able to do.

Teasing the narcissist over the top makes what they’re doing seem like something they’re not. Narcissists hate being caught out, and they hate being embarrassed even more!

7 Start Blossoming Away From Them

If there’s one thing that’s sure to annoy a narcissist, it’s your independence. “Oh, are you going out?”

Actually, yes, I am. I’m going out in this outfit, and I look amazing. You’re not going to stop me.

Are you applying for that job? Isn’t it a little out of reach?

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Yes, I propose to her because, imagine, I’m qualified and skilled, and I want her.

Thrive. Don’t settle for a little success; thrive with merit!

8 Play by Your Own Rules

It may have been a while since you picked up a copy of the rulebook, but it’s still out there. It may be a little dusty, but now you can ease into it and act as if you’re the main character in your life.

Don’t let anyone, especially a narcissist, dictate their rules to you.

Your rules are what you want out of life, and how you want to go about it and fight for it.

That’s not up for debate!