Nothing excites narcissists more than themselves. Their reflection in the mirror gives them more sexual satisfaction than anyone else, which means they’re willing to have sex with lots of different people.
Why? Because in any given sexual encounter, they only see themselves.
Narcissists are so obsessed with themselves that most of their sexual activities revolve entirely around their own gratification.
Furthermore, their intense need for admiration means they’ll sleep with just about anyone, provided it gives them the excitement, ego boost, and attention they rely on.
Numerous studies have linked narcissism to greater polyamory, perhaps because their intense need for validation dominates all their encounters—romantic or otherwise.
Do Narcissists Have Casual Relationships?
Casual relationships are incredibly popular, with research suggesting that an estimated 66% of Americans have had at least one casual relationship in their lifetime. So how much do narcissists contribute to this statistic?
Narcissists aren’t particularly inclined to intimacy or make long-term emotional investments, so short-term relationships are generally more appealing.
A one-night stand is a great way to satisfy your sexual needs while getting a quick ego boost at the same time.
In fact, studies show that narcissists “tend to mate more frequently, have more sexual partners, and seek out shorter-term partners,” putting one-night stands at the top of their list of preferred sexual interactions.
This is not surprising, given how narcissists struggle with long-term relationships.
Their inability to empathize with others and their fundamental obsession with themselves make it extremely difficult to establish a loving, committed relationship with a narcissist. However, a narcissist is the perfect partner if you’re looking for a quick fling.
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Despite being solely interested in themselves, narcissists tend to be attentive lovers who use all their sexual skills to impress you and outdo anyone else you’ve ever slept with.
As with every aspect of their lives, narcissists need to be the best, so they will do everything they can to meet your sexual needs.
Why Do Narcissists Sleep So Much?
Not all narcissists sleep with multiple sexual partners, but certain narcissistic traits may motivate them to engage with many different sexual partners, including:
Validation and Admiration
Engaging in multiple sexual encounters satisfies the narcissist’s need for admiration and validation.
Romantic or one-night stands temporarily boost their ego and self-esteem, with each new conquest reinforcing their perceived attractiveness and superiority.
Power and Control
Narcissists use relationships to gain power and control over others. By engaging in random behaviors, they can assert their dominance over their partners, using their sexual appeal to manipulate and emotionally exploit them.
Consider reading: What Happens When a Narcissist Loses Control?
Grandiosity and Self-Importance
Narcissists believe they are exceptional, superior to others, and deserving of special treatment.
The rules of engagement do not apply to them, so they have no qualms about engaging in multiple sexual encounters, even if it means using others to satisfy their own goals.
Polygamy may also be a way for the narcissist to bolster their grandiose self-image, with each sexual conquest supporting their belief that they are highly desirable and irresistible.
Impulsivity and Thrill-Seeking
Narcissists often exhibit thrill-seeking behavior and desperately seek out new adventures to feed their adrenaline addiction.
Each new sexual encounter provides them with another thrill, helping them avoid boredom that might force them to confront their hidden feelings of helplessness and inadequacy.
Avoiding Intimacy
Many narcissists may fear true emotional intimacy and the vulnerability that comes with it.
By sleeping with multiple partners, they can gain a sense of familiarity without engaging on a deeper emotional level.
Lack of Empathy
Because they lack empathy, narcissists do not care about their partner’s feelings or sexual gratification, so they happily use others for their own gratification without considering the emotional consequences for their partners.
Narcissistic Supply
Narcissists constantly need attention and admiration and often use their casual relationships to secure the narcissistic supply that can fulfill this need.
Each new conquest is another narcissistic supply, with each sexual encounter reaffirming their desire and attractiveness to others.
Insecurity and Validation Seeking
Beneath their façade of grandiosity and superiority, many narcissists struggle with deep-seated feelings of insecurity and inadequacy.
Having multiple sexual partners and encounters helps to alleviate these feelings, giving the narcissist a temporary ego boost that helps hide their vulnerabilities.
Does a Narcissist Sleep With Everyone?
Narcissists don’t care who they sleep with as long as it makes them feel good.
Narcissists love themselves and only need a partner to increase their sexual satisfaction.
As a result, narcissists tend to be less picky about who they sleep with and tolerate sexual behaviors and attitudes that others might find off-putting.
Narcissists also put a lot of effort into their appearance and sexual attractiveness. They dress carefully, spend a lot of time grooming themselves, and experience high self-esteem associated with appearance.
They tend to see themselves as physically and sexually attractive, which gives them confidence when attracting and seducing potential partners.
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Narcissists are rarely aware of the social factors that might prevent others from entering into a sexual relationship with someone.
Studies show that they will pursue anyone, regardless of whether they are in a relationship or not, and are likely to prey on other people’s partners simply because it gives them a low-cost sexual encounter with no emotional consequences.
If a narcissist sees your sister, best friend, or even your mother as a potential sexual partner or narcissistic resource, they won’t worry about how you or their target will feel when they seduce them.
A narcissist doesn’t differentiate between a sex toy and a partner—both exist solely to fulfill the narcissist’s sexual needs.
This sense of sexual entitlement means that they believe they can sleep with anyone they want, whenever they want.
Does a Narcissist Sleep with a Family Member?
For most of us, the mere thought of having sex with a family member is not just disturbing—it’s downright annoying, but we don’t exhibit narcissistic traits.
To a narcissist, family is nothing more than a group of subordinates who provide an audience for the narcissist’s brilliance.
Brothers, sisters, sons, daughters, nieces, and nephews are viewed as potential narcissistic supplies to be adored, worshipped, admired, and obeyed.
It is unfortunate and somewhat disturbing for the narcissist that having sex with a family member is the closest he can get to having sex with himself, his ultimate desire.
The more a family member looks or acts like the narcissist, the more attractive they find that person, and the more eager they are to pursue them.
As I mentioned, narcissists are more accepting of bizarre sexual behaviors than most other people and show no sexual aversion to anything—even sleeping with someone close to them.
Do narcissists sleep with other narcissists?
Narcissists are often attracted to each other, perhaps because they see their own traits reflected back to them, and there’s nothing a narcissist loves more than their own reflection.
Since many narcissists seek short-term sexual encounters, there’s a good chance that two narcissists will end up in bed together at some point—a scenario that neither of them would object to.
Narcissists understand each other, at least on a superficial level, and seem to enjoy each other’s company, and are more accepting of narcissistic traits like arrogance, selfishness, and vanity than others.
Their shared understanding of narcissistic traits can create a sense of comfort and familiarity that makes them feel more understood and validated in their behavior and attitudes.
Relationships between two narcissists tend to focus more on ego satisfaction and keeping up appearances, and therefore lack the emotional depth and true intimacy needed to develop a long-term relationship.
